A guy I have been dating and have fallen in love with told me he has HPV.?

Question

I am so upset right now. The good news is, I havent slept with him, nor have we ventured in that area yet...

I may be a bit uneducated in this area, but can someone help me with a few questions? If we decided to have kids, would if affect them? And is there either chance that I wouldnt catch it?? I'm so confused about all of this, any input would be great.

Answer 1

I was right where you are when Mike and I started dating. I got educated and made the decision that the love and friendship I have with him was more important. We make sure I get regular Pap exams to check for cervical cancer, and so far no problems in that department. Condoms don't prevent it (THAT came from our doctor).We have a daughter and while pregnant was the only time I had an outbreak of warts. Didn't hurt and had no problem getting rid of them. Our daughter is healthy as well.

All I can tell you is it does seem scary. If this is truly a man you can see forever with then you need to sit down and really work this out with him! Obviously he trusts and respects you because he told you he had this which he could have easily not done! So based on that I'd say the friendship part of your relationship is plenty strong enough to discuss your fears and what you want!Let me tell you that when Mike told me I had a HUGE amount of respect for his honesty and caring of me!

All in all HPV isn't part of our everyday. Its part of our healthcare plan. It doesn't affect either of us in the everyday! We are Mom and Dad,lovers, friends, and husband and wife....thats our everyday!

If you think this is a man you could spend life with, don't let HPV scare you. If there is any doubt I would keep your relationship not sexual until you know. By the way, a majority of the population has this, so please don't judge his sexual past by this!

Speak to your doctor about HPV. Educate yourself! Make your decision not in fear, but educated and seeing the man past the HPV.If you can't live with it, thats YOUR choice! Obviously he wanted you to have the choice,since he was honest with you. If you can live with it, I hope you'll be wonderfully happy! Good Luck!

Answer 2

I found people gave you some good information and some bad information here. Do a search over the internet and find out the correct information on medical web sites. HPV is very common and yes, over 70% of sexually active people have contracted it. You possibly already have contracted a strain as well if you have been sexually active and don't even know it. That's why we have to go for Pap tests every year. They are checking for changes in your cervix that is cause from HPV. There are over 100 strains of it. If I am correct 4 strains can cause genital warts, some can cause changes in your cervix which can lead to cervical cancer in many many years if not treated. Some cause no problems at all. If he has the kind that causes warts, yes, you may contract it and there is a very small chance you may pass it during birth. If I were you, I would get him to clarify his symptoms more for you, do some research on the internet, and talk to your Dr. Then you can make an educated decision about what you should do.

Also, please don't make him feel bad for telling you. I'm sure it took a lot of guts to come out and share that with you. That makes him a pretty stand up guy in my eyes! :)

Answer 3

You need to do your research. Search the internet. If you search HPV about a million or more items come up. Find out all the information you can about his particular strain of HPV. There are over 100 different strains (I think). I suggest both of you go to a doctor, ask every question that jumps in your head( write them down with the answers) The statistics for contracting HPV are very high and it's spreading like wild fire. There is also a possibility that if you contract it, you can't have kids. It's a risk I'm not willing to take and neither should you. Appreciate his honesty but, don't sleep with him. There is only one 100% way to not contract it and that's avoiding sex with an infected person. Don't become a part of this vicious cycle that is taking over faster than HIV and AIDS.

Answer 4

HPV for the most part is harmless, especially for men. There are over 100 different kinds of HPV and most don't do anything. Don't get me wrong though, it can cause warts for many people and even cancer, including cervical cancer, which is the 2nd most common cancer in women. It kills about 4,000 women a year.

Most people are able to get rid of HPV on their own, but for others they can have it the rest of their life. There is NO cure for HPV, there is only treatment.

Chances of you getting HPV from him are honestly very good. Since HPV can be spread by just direct skin to skin contact with the area, condoms are not always effective. Say for example he has genital warts. Even if he wears a condom, genital warts appear all over the genital area, not just the penis which is being covered by the condom. So, just the rubbing of your genital areas together can cause you to contract HPV.

HPV will not affect your kids. A child being born with HPV from their mother having it is EXTREMELY rare. If a women does have HPV though and gets genital warts, the pregnancy can actually make the warts grow faster and bigger, but chances of spreading it to the child during birth is very rare.

If you have any questions about it or want to talk you can email me. I'd be happy to try and help.

Answer 5

Hi,

The best place to seek out these answers is your OB/gyn. If you don't have one, then go to a planned parenthood, and they will advise you of all the facts.

From my own knowledge on the subject, there is currently an HPV vaccine.

A major concern surrounding contracting and carrying HPV is the risk of cervical cancer. Studies have shown that HPV can lead to cancer.

I haven't heard of any effects on childbearing, but that would be a good question to ask your doctor.

I listed two good sources below, that should answer all of your questions.

I hope this helps,
Stephanie

Answer 6

Talk to a Doc first of all. Over 70% of the population is infected with HPV, so if you don't already have it, chances are you will when you get older. If you love him, it shouldn't be a big deal at all, and I applaud him on his being honest before having slept with you. Talk to a doctor and decide what is best for you and your relationship. Take Care and stay safe. If you do eventually get HPV make sure you get your annual Pap's done.

Answer 7

I know women, are waay more supsepable to HPV than men. It is a very common virus. Over 80 percent of women have it, including me. It does not have any effect on having children. I respect him for telling you though. You can't be upset cause of that. I do suggest both of you going to the doctors and both ask your questions. If you want to talk more privately about this, with someone who has it, you can email me at [e-mail]!
Good Luck Gurrly

Answer 8

First, HPV IS an STD but it wont affect your chances for kids. The most common and contagious of HPV is genital warts which is caused by HPV,so if he doesnt have genital warts it may make it more difficult to contract it. Its okay to worry. If you really love this guy you two will be able to work together and work something out. The best of luck to you!

Answer 9

Use a condom. The vaccine works but not for everyone. Nothing works for everyone. If you want to have kids make sure you get the shot.. but it's a loooong process. Read up on it. In order to be completely immune you have to go through a lot of things, just like getting your immunizations growing up... until the HPV immunity is dealt with, use a condom. Good luck!

Answer 10

There is now a vaccine available for HPV, visit your OB/GYN and discuss this option. HPV will not effect having children or the children themselves. But it is the leading cause of cervical cancer.