when he does not behave in school? or when he is taliking back to the adults around him?
I do talk to him about his behavior and take things (priveledges) What else can I do?
I feel like he just inhereted a 'stubborn' gene fom his dad- ofcourse =-).
2006-09-26 09:50:03 · 19 answers · asked by Tanyah 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
All right I have not given him too many time-outs, maybe I should.
2006-09-26 10:13:32 · update #1
JaneluvsT's answer was helpful.
Thanks everyone.
2006-09-28 04:46:57 · update #2
Kids are trying to learn limits. They are learning right from wrong. Try to help them understand right from wrong. Make it very clear that when they do something wrong, they are punished for the action. Whenever you threaten a child with a punishment, you have to fallow up with it. If you don't learns that they can get away with things and will stop respecting your authority. Time outs usually work the best (make sure that the child stays in the time out). 5 minutes seems like an eternity to a child so keep that in mind.
2006-09-27 06:47:23 · answer #1 · answered by agassi8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same thing with my 5 yr old son. I could spank himm until I was blue in the face and 10 minutes later he would forget what I spanked him over and be fine. I usually take things away. Things that he really loves or that he will really notice are gone. Not like 1 toy, he will always find another toy to play with...but like his tv or his outside time. I also just started this- if he gets a sad note home from school, I make him write a note to his teacher saying he is sorry for acting up and that he will do better. Today is the first day that I tried that but he seemed to be really sorry when he realized how dissapointed I was. Good luck!
2006-09-26 10:15:26 · answer #2 · answered by swanseaemtgirl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Things in my home work like this..... I have 3 little girls, and I am a single parent so I have to keep them in line so I can do what I need to do..,.
I always try and make sure the punishment fits the crime... Left your toys out, you don't get those toys to play with.... Leave them out again after they are given back.... loose them a little longer.
Talking back is not allowed, but stating their opinion on things is. When they do this their tone of voice and body language tells me which they are doing. If I feel my kids have been disrespectful they do things like write an apology. I take a few minutes to explain to them what they did was wrong and they should be careful about how they speak.
I also ask them what they think should also happen. Should they loose a recess or an afternoon of outside play?
This works for my family.
2006-09-26 10:01:28 · answer #3 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him a ticket each time he does something helpful like put toys away, use his manners, helps you with a chore around the house. At the end of the week, give him a reward like ice cream or a movie for the amount of tickets he has. If you try positive reinforcement and the reward is something he really loves, then he will shape up.Try less reprimanding and more rewarding. If he is stubborn he will continue to defy you. Strong-willed kids (I have two...) love to torment adults.
2006-09-26 09:56:18 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spank him. Taking away priveledges doesn't work at that age because if one toy is taken away they'll just go find another one. Here's what I think would be appropriate punishments for each of the things you listed:
Doesn't behave in school: Spank him when he gets home and make him do chores.
Talks back: Wash his mouth out with soap. For every time he says something bad or talks back that's one minute he has to hold the soap in his mouth. If he talks back 3 times then he has to hold the bar of soap in his mouth for 3 minutes.
Any other time he misbehaves: Give him a warning and if he doesn't listen then spank him.
2006-09-26 09:53:13 · answer #5 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Time outs...have him sit in the corner when he talks back in the house for 15 minutes and everytime he gets up add a minute. For when he doesnt doesnt behave in school, have a teacher conference with him and tell him that if he doesnt behave than he will get double the timeout. When talking back to other adults publicly I would take him right when he does it and put him in the car and lock it (depending how long you are staying obviously dont do this if your staying for an hour)
2006-09-26 09:59:10 · answer #6 · answered by Meg Kenny 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I have a 5 year old and he is pretty much a good kid. Never really gets in trouble, but when he does i just tell him what he did wrong, take his favorite toys away and make him sit in his room and think about what he done wrong. It seems to work!!! He does not like to get in trouble!!!
2006-09-26 09:53:48 · answer #7 · answered by housewives5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the "crime".
If a child does something that puts them in harms way I would not have any qualms about a swat on the butt.
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2006-09-26 10:16:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take away privileges. No TV. No toys. No hanging out with friends.
2006-09-26 09:57:29 · answer #9 · answered by dolphinluver22000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAVE YOU TRIED TIME OUTS HE SHOULD GET 1 MIN FOR HIS AGE SO HES 5 SO GIVE HIM A 5 MIN TIME OUT. BOYS ARE USUALLY MORE STUBBORN I THINK ITS A GENE INHERITED BY FATHERS AS WELL.. DON'T RESORT TO SPANKING HIM IT WILL ONLY MAKE THINGS WORSE IN HIS EYES IF YOU SPANK HIM CUZ HE DID WRONG WHEN YOU DO SOMETHING HE FEELS IS WRONG HE'LL HIT YOU.. JUST REMEMBER "HANDS ARE FOR HUGGING NOT HITTING"
2006-09-26 09:53:30 · answer #10 · answered by Brenda H 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋