My boyfriend of 1 month, just told me that he still lives with his ex, as they both have money in house. I have fallen for him big style, and he feels the same, so he says. He says they dont share same room or bed, plus he lives 31/2 hours away. What do i do?
2006-09-25 23:58:13 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
duh, don't waste your time, don't believe the schmuck, get yourself someone who thinks you are worth it!!!!!!
2006-09-26 00:02:54 · answer #1 · answered by fourplums 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM... I was caught in just about the same situation awhile back. My G/F at that time lived about an hour away, everytime I went to see her I found mens' toiletries in the house. She said they belonged to her ex and he lived somewhere else. Come to find out her ex lived right there with her and he was not her ex, in fact they were still married but his job kept him traveling a lot. I called her one saturday and he answered the phone, after talking to him a few minutes he knew she was seeing other men and said it didn't matter to him because he loved her. Chances are you might be in the same situation. You need to take a real close look at this relationship.
2006-09-26 00:16:24 · answer #2 · answered by call2fly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to sit think about this one and follow your heart! It all sounds a bit messy his end at the moment as it sounds like they are having trouble gettin the house sorted but then again are they still living together because they still have feelings and want to see if they can work it out! Only you can work this one out! But he lives 3 and half hours away and it only been a month! There are more fish in the sea?!
2006-09-26 01:18:16 · answer #3 · answered by Glitterstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn thats one rotten situation to be in - poor poor you!
Personally speaking, I dont think I could handle knowing that the guy I loved was living with his ex - and the fact that they bought this house together shows that they thought they'd go the distance.
You need to estabish if either of them are making any moves towards selling the house completely or buying each other out - if they are, then Id hang in there - its inevitable that they will stop living together - if there has been no movements made towards ending this agreement, then I think you may be better off cutting your losses and ending it. Good luck
2006-09-26 00:34:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-26 00:33:00 · answer #5 · answered by b b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are still too young, immature teenage girl, or you would not have fallen for his big style etc etc.........anyway, I don't much like this guy....today she is his ex.......tomorrow you will be his ex..........so just leave him..... I think you should not fall in love right now, but just make friends.........try to understand life, try to judge a person by his nature, and not by his looks. Best of luck.
2006-09-26 00:12:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he planning on moving out? Is he happy with the situation? He may have to live there cos he can't afford a place of his own. Play it by ear, and if things look like they are going well between you, suggest buying a place together. Beware though, one of you is gonna have to move towns. Be prepared for him to want to stay where he is until he knows things are gonna work between you, its only been a month.
2006-09-26 00:07:38 · answer #7 · answered by Emma W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd get out quick - or ask whether it is possible for him to move closer - three and a half hours away is a long way - the relationship is bound to flounder once the travelling time gets too big.
2006-09-26 00:24:34 · answer #8 · answered by bovie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know this guy - ask for his home phone number (if you don't already have it) and ring him at home. If he and his ex are truly only in the same house for financial reasons then there should be no problem if she answers the phone ....... on the other hand if he is still 'with her' get the hell out NOW before you get hurt anymore.
2006-09-26 00:02:55 · answer #9 · answered by geegee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hummmmmm girl u dont need that, u r asking for heart ache. but just b sure, call and talk to the ex, r better yet drive up there. u have to know for sure. but dont continue with the relationship of doubts yal will not make it.
2006-09-26 00:04:45 · answer #10 · answered by spades_intimidator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it took him a month to tell you the truth then you can only imagine what else he is keeping from you!! Sounds all a little too close for comfort!!
Kick his butt to the curb!!! Try find someone who is LOCAL and residentially (and emotionally) available !!
2006-09-26 00:45:11 · answer #11 · answered by Hails 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋