myself and one of my of friends hooked up after a drunken night when he persued me about 2 months ago. The worst thing is he has a girlfeind and 2 kids, he is 24 , i am 21, everone says its only a matter of time before they breakup.His gilrfeind took herself and the kids on a holiday for two weeks, and me and my male friend spent the entire time together as if we were a couple. Since she has returned, he still calls me and makes plans with me which we have done. He sayd he is unhappy and is only staying for the kids. i want to be with him although i want to tell as i dont want to stir things up more. i dont understand what he is playing at? Why does he conitinue to call me and want to spend time together if we arnt having sex all the time? It cant just be a booty call, can it?
2006-09-25 23:56:26 · 9 answers · asked by Nik 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he obvousily really likes u. more then his girl. so i would say for u to kinda dissapear for a while and if he still wants to be with u, then go for it.
2006-09-26 00:01:15 · answer #1 · answered by Skye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he may care about you, but he's being a chicken. If he wants out and to be with you, he needs to do something about it. "Staying for the kids" is never a good reason to stay in a dead relationship. It's healthy for no one, including the kids. And sorry to be harsh, but right now, you are the other woman. I'm not sure how that makes you feel. Try giving him some encouragement to make the decision right for him. But don't push. Try being his friend (and ONLY his friend) until he can get through this mess. Any relationship between you two will only make his situation worse and cause more confusion that what is necessary right now. Good luck to you (and him).
2006-09-26 07:06:14 · answer #2 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me ask you this. If you had a boyfriend and had 2 kids with him, how would you feel if you found out he was cheating on you?
You are disrespecting yourself and this other woman by doing what you are doing.
And if he wanted to be with you, he would be with you...period
The fact that he is not with you speaks volumes.
It is an age old story...they always say they aren't happy and that they are only staying with them for the kids. And they will stay.
He will never leave her.
Go on with your life and find someone else.
Later, if he leaves her, then you can decide if you want him back or not.
And then just hope that he doesn't cheat on YOU like he is cheating on his current girlfriend.
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2006-09-26 07:34:36 · answer #4 · answered by b b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your ? can only be answer by him
and people need to stop using the kids as reason they get into messes or as reason the can't get out of messes
we are alduts we need to fix our lives so we can be good example for our children
yes it seems that you are an easy botty call
so ask him if you are just that
by the way the thing about everyone said is not important it is them who are important what they say that is matter
2006-09-26 07:02:57 · answer #5 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to ask him to choose: either to stay for the kids or you.
As for what he's after, i guess you're a booty call and a friend. that's why he calls despite not having sex all the time. if you can be cool with that, then no problems, but if you cannot, you need to confront him. it's not fair to you or his kids.
2006-09-26 07:02:47 · answer #6 · answered by Brian F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it can. man just is bored. if he was the one for u no kids would matter - men re predators, a woman can stay for the sake of kids, men can't and wouldn't
2006-09-26 07:00:13 · answer #7 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl get the heck out of that situation he just wants to use by telling you that he is not happy. it's a lie i promise you get yourself a guy and forget about him you will see that he will forget you too.
2006-09-26 07:03:04 · answer #8 · answered by Eric 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES .....he is a chum..p
he is playing u and u are falling for it ....
2006-09-26 06:59:04 · answer #9 · answered by slysimon69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋