I'm with somone who is almost perfect but at times i find myself bored and wanting to explore more. I have to slap myself because i know i will never find another person like this but i was single 5 years before i been in this 2 month relationship. Now i sit contemplating on if i should continue on this relationship or end it and continue being a bachelor. I know I'm wierd. Just hoping theer is someone out there who understands. I'm up for any type of comments. Just don't be too mean.
2006-09-25 23:50:39 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I understand. I was single for over two years before I met my bf and sometimes I wonder what it'd be like if I stayed single. Not because I'm not happy because he makes me happpier than anyone ever has. I just got so use to being by myself that I'm having a hard time adjusting. I know that I was meant to be with my bf (we're a perfect fit), but it's weird having to take someone else into consideration when all I had to think about before was myself. So it sounds like you're having the same problems I'm having and it has nothing to do with your new significant other. It has to do with adjusting to your new life as half of a couple. You'll get use to it. I already am.
2006-09-25 23:58:07 · answer #1 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a woman, I would say to get out of the relationship if you feel the need to explore other possibilities still.
Don't cheat on her. Give her that much respect.
If you want to keep the possibility with her open, just be honest with her and tell her that things are moving a bit too fast and you need some time. If you 2 were meant to be together, you will be in the end.
The same thing happened to me and our marraige was cancelled. But 2 years later, that man and I ended up getting married anyway.
Sometimes you just need some time to make sure that person is really the one for you.
2006-09-25 23:58:04 · answer #2 · answered by StephanieW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's hard to be in a relationship after being single for a long time, but be patient. The longer you stay with this relationship, the more comfortable you will become. I was single for 11 years with a child, and have now been with someone for almost a year and it just takes time
2006-09-25 23:55:29 · answer #3 · answered by aliciarox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you have been single for five years and haven't gone out with anyone in that period of time then don't dive in with the first person that comes along til you have opened the cover and read the book do what your heart tells you.but if you have gone out with a number of people and know for a fact this is the one for you then go for it.i think you should give it at least a year before you ask the question.do you feel that your still interested in other girls or is this one make you feel special? 2 months is not hardly enough time to really get to know someone .you have been lonely so don't let that blur your judgement.get to know everything about her. if she is not right for you her true colors will eventually show.see how deep the water is before you jump in,you could fall in and get hurt .take your time and good luck
2006-09-26 00:15:56 · answer #4 · answered by THE SHADOW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I understand where you are coming from. Out of my 44 years only 7 years I was married. I have spent the biggest part of my life alone. I think you have gotten used to doing what you want when you want and even tho you might really care about this girl it kinda gets in the way of you doing your thing. Maybe you want her to stay around but at the same time you have grown accustom to doing what you want. It is a hard decision. I guess you have to make up your mind witch one you like the best. The girl or the freedom?
2006-09-26 00:09:56 · answer #5 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES. I was single for over 20 yrs after my divorce. The biggest thing is you have to like/love yourself and your own company first before anyone else can like you. I have felt lonely in a room full of people and have felt crowded in the company of just one person. Now if this is a person you want to spend the rest of your life with then sit down with this person and explain that you need your own time and space, if this is true love then they will understand but you must understand if they want there own time and space also.
2006-09-26 00:36:21 · answer #6 · answered by call2fly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound young. If this is a person you plan to be with in marraige, then don't ruin it. But if this is a fling that you've just been with a while, tell her you want to see other people. She may never want you back though. And sometimes we don't know what we have until we've lost it. ANd no one is perfect, sounds like you've put her on a pedistol. You love someone for their IMperfections. Perfect is too high of a standard to live up to. Good luck.
2006-09-25 23:57:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get set in your ways its real hard to adjust to change,
But, with change you need to go with it, not against it
Whats more important to you. Living as you have or having someone in your life.
Just because you in a relationship doesn't mean you can go out with out her, but it does mean that you cant pick up on another; Maybe she isn't the one; or maybe you aren't ready.and need to be honest with her much sooner than later.
Or you could give your self a chance and work on you being in a relationship with someone you have feelings for, Give it some time try not to be so set on only you.
Go explore and share with her.
2006-09-26 00:10:54 · answer #8 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well- you have only invested 2 months- is she the catch of a lifetime- do you feel good enough for her? You may or may not feel ready-if you do feel ready -look in your heart and do the right thing-don't make her pay for past mistakes that are not hers. Isn't it more fun sharing life w someone that alone? Food for thought-think about it- D
2006-09-25 23:58:58 · answer #9 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-09-25 23:53:06 · answer #10 · answered by Game Guy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋