Ok, heres the deal. This girl that I have known for about a year and a half just broke up with my best friend. The thing is, from about 6 months before they started dating to now this girl has considered me one of HER best friends also. I don't know if she likes me that way but I have been trying to work up the nerve to ask her. I don't want my best friend to get mad at me and at the same time, I don't wanna lose this girl as my friend. So, should i ask her out AND do you think she will go out with me? This is URGENT
2006-09-25 23:01:08 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
they went out for about 3 or 4 months. When they broke up, she called me nonstop. Now Im afraid to even be around her because I dont want to piss off the ex. I know her friends very well and a few of them might be trustworthy with this. but idk.............
2006-09-25 23:04:49 · update #1
also I have been friend with my best friend since grade school. I am a senior now.
2006-09-25 23:07:39 · update #2
I am pretty sure my best friend would be ok with considering he broke up with her.
2006-09-25 23:10:02 · update #3
he broke up with her about a week or 2 ago.
2006-09-25 23:35:21 · update #4
If he is your best friend, then definitely not...that is if he really is your best friend...or a friend worth keeping. If you do its highly likely that you wil loose his. If you treasure both friendships then step up with some class and don't jeopadize either.
Its a win, win,win situation for all...and you will have constructed it.
If she comes on strong(without any help from you) I would suggest you let time pass first...as much time as possible. Even then I you would have to seek his opinion. Remember...we are talking about class here. For starters you wouldn't want to fall victim to the game of being used to make him jealous. You also want to feel confident that its worth the risk.
2006-09-25 23:22:32 · answer #1 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she the only girl in town? Come on, everyone knows the unsaid rule that you dont date your friends ex's. It's just the way of friends. That is if you want to keep the friendship between all of you. Go out and meet new people, get your mind off her for awhile. She isn't going anywhere. Take it slow.
2006-09-25 23:07:02 · answer #2 · answered by mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way you can keep both friendships is if you not make a move on your fren's ex. He is your BEST FREN for cryin out loud. You'd expect the same kindness from him if it were the other way around.
Don't give up a solid frenship and break any trust with your BEST FREN for a girl who you're not even sure about.
You can still enjoy her company as friends.
Loyalty to friends first, always
2006-09-25 23:09:23 · answer #3 · answered by Beth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You shouldn't. I dated my roomies best friend's ex-fiance...and that was bad enough!! Not only did I lose my roomie and her best friend as a friend..but I had to sit and listen to stories about HIM with his ex. It's a very uncomfortable situation, and sometimes you'll wonder if she's just doing it in revenge to get back to your best friend.
There are many girls out there that you could date rather than your best friends leftovers. Just see it as that... she's just his leftovers.
Friends are hard to come across, don't lose him over a bit of lust.
2006-09-25 23:06:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-11 20:42:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try asking her out for a drink and dont mention if its a date. You'll know when you go to pick her up if she sees it as a date or as 2 friends going out by how much effort she make's.
2006-09-25 23:04:50 · answer #6 · answered by vickicraig86@btinternet.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm,,, i would advice you not to ask that girl out-----yet,,, just be patient and wait,,,
wait for your friend to really stop liking his ex... then maybe after that you could go ask his ex already... or you could ask permission from him,,,
as for his ex, she just broke up with her bf, and that bf of hers happens to be your bestfriend,,, if u go ask her out, she would be confused about her feelings, and you wouldn't want that to happen now would you? plus, she might not completely trust you because you're the friend of her ex...
so i think that the best thing to do is to be patient and to think things through...
hmmm,,, another thought.
these are some of the possibilities:
ask her out now:
might fight with bestfriend and might get rejected
OR
might make bestfriend depressed and get the girl
ask her later:
might end up with both bestfriend and that girl... (50% chance)
oh well,, it's still up to you on what to do...
GOODLUCK dude,,, and i hope i helped... lol
2006-09-25 23:24:40 · answer #7 · answered by Grace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Asking her out right now is a TERRIBLE idea. You need to give your friend some time to get over her before you even CONSIDER doing that. I'm sure she'll stay friends with you if you don't ask her out right now, or ever.
2006-09-25 23:06:22 · answer #8 · answered by Alli 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say..... Stay as far away as possible. Unless you want to lose your best friend, I wouldn't ask her out. If you don't care about your friend hating you forever, then go ahead and ask her. You have to ask yourself, if it's worth it or not. She may go out with you, she may not, without knowing her nobody can answer that for you. But I wouldn't even ask. There's lots of other girls out there.
2006-09-25 23:05:44 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you wanna keep your best friend, I would say no. It is completely possible to keep the girl as a good friend without asking her out to be your girlfriend.
2006-09-25 23:03:49 · answer #10 · answered by amy_butterflyblade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋