how can you stop caring for someone who hurt you somuch? how do you close your heart to him? how do you truly stop caring? i don't want to hurt no more,, i want my heart to turn cold as ice,,, i hate being sad,,, i want to not care at all anymore,, anybody kno how 2 stop?
2006-09-25 22:56:25 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't stop caring...
When you truly love someone, that love never dies.
They occupy that piece of your heart forever.
What you can do is try to move on. Try to live your life without him. Do the things you always wanted to do. Do not let the pain you feel end your dreams of the future.
You have the potential to do great things with your life. You shouldn't forget about those dreams. You are not too old. You can never to be to old to make your dreams come true. Just relax. Take a deep breath. Write out a plan and actually stick to it. If you just sit around and do nothing, you can't expect your life to get better. You need to think about how you can accomplish things. Instead of thinking about what you can do, think about how you can do them.
Don't pay attention to the hurt you feel.
Just allow the hurt to be your fuel for getting where you need to go.
Pay attention to yourself and what you need and want.
Don't settle for anything less than what you deserve.
You have the potential to be anything you want to be. Whether it be a lawyer or a doctor or whatever you want.
You just need to believe in yourself and set your mind to what you want to do.
Stop thinking, start acting.
2006-09-25 23:26:36 · answer #1 · answered by falzalnz 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I work in a busy hospital and can say that the reason there is such a shortage of nurses is that we are so over worked and under staffed sometimes to a dangerous level that tending to every whim is just not possible. I agree that being caring does not cost a thing and that if a nurse is aggressive then he/she is in the wrong job. BUT. . i feel there is no respect for nurses anymore and that relatives and patients can be demanding to an outrageous level. Patients and relatives can spend all day complaining about that they didn't get their cup of tea half an hour ago when there are minimal staff running around like headless chickens trying to give drugs answer phones, answer doors, contact doctors, transfer patients, admit patients etc etc not to mention the mounds of paperwork which has to be filled in as a legal requirement. Then to top it off if there is a medical emergency the only staff there is have to tend to that and everything else gets left which causes a backlog. I don't think that they have stopped caring i just think they are just fed up of the constant battle every day, its easier to walk away from the job.
2016-03-18 01:29:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to let go. Its easier to get into and start a relationship than to stop an on-going one.
You don't have to stop caring (that's going really extreme in any case). All you really want is just to let go. There's no proper way to tell you how to go about doing it. Its an acquired process.
Just ask yourself these questions:
- is being with him making me happy?
- is being with him improving my state of life and well-being?
- is being with him worth the time?
- is he here with me?
If you have a No to any of those questions, then might as well cut the losses now. The sooner you let go, the more time you have for other things that you want to do in your life. Why suffer, when you can be free.
Somethings are just not worth it, its up to you to give it a value.
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I'm not saying its easy, cuz its not. It's going to be extremely difficult in fact. If you can't take the pressure, find a quiet spot, a beach or go to a park or find a rooftop (BUT don't do something stupid like commit sucide, it ain't worth it) somewhere no one can see you and just scream your heart out. You will feel better after that (except maybe for a sore throat, which a glass of honey-lemon drink will easily solve that problem).
2006-09-25 23:10:59 · answer #3 · answered by CuriousE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The day you stop caring is the day you stop being human. It sucks but you have to be able to feel the bad stuff in life to be able to feel & appreciate the good things.
The best thing to do is put him out of your mind so you can live your life as damn well & full as you can. Do what makes you happy & a full person - you can't let someone get you down that much because then they have won.
2006-09-25 23:10:45 · answer #4 · answered by shirazzza 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This pain is a part of life, we all go through break-ups and even deaths in this life. You can move on by not sitting around the house sulking. Before you go to bed, write down how sad you feel, how angry you feel, This is all from John Grey's Mars and Venus Starting Over book. You have to feel the five healing emotions to completely get over him which are: sadness, fear, anger, sorrow and love. Once you have felt all those enough( takes a while) then you will just feel love and be happy that you spent time with him but definately start to feel like you can be interested in somebody else. The key is not to get stuck in any one emotion too long. Feeling angry too long will not get you over the sadness etc. So if it is difficult to feel these emotions- start to write a goodbye letter with what you wanted to happen that didn't, what happened that you didn't want to happen, what you wish would happen. If you move on to another boyfriend too soon(rebound) then you will have the same type of dynamic in the relationship. Most rebounds do not last.
2006-09-26 14:12:44 · answer #5 · answered by girl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't stop caring. Get rid of what is hurting you. Then when you are ready find one that appreciates what you have to offer. Don't let yourself turn cold over some as$ that that is to dumb to see. There are to many men out there that are looking for a warm hearted woman that will appreciate you.
2006-09-25 23:06:04 · answer #6 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't stop caring...you just have to bide your time like the rest of us do when we are hurt by another. I find that when someone has been taken from my life..only TIME will heal, yeah it sucks but it's the only remedy. Get out of you and pick yourself up and do something for someone else..get out no matter how hard it may seem. Someone better will come along.
2006-09-25 23:07:30 · answer #7 · answered by tamara.knsley@sbcglobal.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all wounds eventually. Unfortunatley you can't just turn your emotions on and off like that. To care for someone is a good quality and who really knows why we care for people who treat us bad. All you can do is move on and try not to have any contact with this person for that will make it harder to move on. Good Luck!
2006-09-25 23:10:48 · answer #8 · answered by mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pray...but don't hate because hate is not the answer you'll still be drowning in pain...and your letting that person win...don't you know living well is the best revenge...i been at that same place, your anxious and you wanna hurry up and get over that person...i know how it feels but the best way to get over someone who's hurt you is to move on and dnt look back i dnt know if you could completely stop caring for that person cuz caring for someone doesnt necessarily mean that you still wan't them, honey kindness kills a person if he see you happy that would just kill him inside dnt let this take over your life move on...
2006-09-25 23:27:04 · answer #9 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well CC, take a deep cleansing breath...take a few of them. Try to take some time to just clear or cleanse your body & thoughts with some fresh air, maybe go for a walk. As you are walking look at all of the beautiful things around you and give Thanks for these things. Open your mind and your heart to all of the goodness that does exist in your life. Take some time to take care of yourself, for no one else cares and loves for you in the same way that you yourself can. You know you. Go as far as to pamper yourself in some ways that you may have put off for a while, a massage, manicure, read a good book, take a bubble bath, work outside, something that you enjoy. Then, make up your mind to go for a walk everyday, sometimes a brisk walk, greet others with a smile! sometimes walk slow & relaxing, maybe feed the birds or go to the zoo? Try to think about things that you can do to enjoy the 'give away', that is to give back to others in some way. Maybe at the animal shelter, a nursing home? at church? Focus on your spirituality. Look for the things in your life that you are thankful for. At some point you will discover the positive things that you have gained from knowing this person that is bringing so much pain in your life...and this might open the door to explore your self...like look at why you allowed this person to hurt you, for only you know. It may be that as time passes you will begin to see this relationship in a different light, with a new understanding. I have been in a negative relationship for many years and have recently awakened with a greater understanding, I remain true to myself and I continue to honor myself & to honor the one that has hurt me so, by acknowledging the goodness that is in him. My heart and spirit has been in a good place (as yours probably is too). Now, I have started to understand 'why' I have done & allowed the things that I have allowed & done. Its amazing and yes, its sad & painful too. Remember to always look for the 'goodness' in every situation, because it is there. We cannot change anyone but ourselves and even thats hard to do. Remeber now, in hopes of feeling better, see this relationship for what it really is, for what life lessons that you have gained from it! Be bold and strong in spirit! Always love yourself. I really like a verse from a poem by William Ernest Henley '...It matters not how straight the gate (the walk), how charged with punishment (our mistakes) the scroll (our history). I am the Master of my fate, I am the Captain of my Soul ! ' Blesslings Always
2006-09-25 23:43:27 · answer #10 · answered by lovnlife 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋