Is there a good age?? I think my friends are too young?

Question

My friend who is 18 years old proposed to his girlfriend who is 19 whilst on holiday - she said yes.

They have been together for 9 months, and he is a mature guy for his age - however when i was 19 (2 years ago) i proposed to my girlfriend (at the time) and the relationship seemed to go downhill from then on.

Both are my friends and I obviously hope it works for them, but at 18/19/20/21 your still very young and shudnt be tied down - what do you think?

Answer 1

I agree they are very young, but lots of people have got married at this age and have had really successful marriages. I think it just depends on the couple.

Answer 2

It is young but not necessarily too young. you know when it's right. besides they might not get married straight away.
I got engaged age 20 and got married this year (2 years later). Me and my husband have been together almost 6 six years.
You cant generalise on things like this because every person/couple is different and what is the right age for one would be far too early for another.
I'm sure your friend is not taking this step lightly so just be a good friend and support him in his decision.

Answer 3

I think that you are too young to settle down with some one At 18, most people are just too excited at being adults that they try to jump in to most things head first. If it's really meant to be then why don't they what another couple of years and if they still want to be with each other then get engaged

Answer 4

Well i also think it is to young!! I mean your still young have to live your life. They're in love? Theres nothing you can do!! People learn from there mistakes but hey it might be something specail and last for a VERY long time... you never know what the future may bring!

Answer 5

Every relationship is different and it is hard to judge when you are not 100% sure, i do agree that it is a young age to get tied down like that, but then they may really love each other and no-one can then judge them. Good Luck x

Answer 6

I think age is irrelevant, if a relationship is going to work it will not be down to age it will be down to Love and all that comes with it like respect, faithfulness and understanding. And as the relationship grows there paths and ideals for the future stay in twined rather than travelling down different roads.

If they are your friends then understand this is what they want. You don't have to like it but you do have to respect it and except it.

Answer 7

Hmm thats a tough one.... i know that im 25 now and in a completely different situation to where i was when i was 19! Im single and loving it... but i wasnt back then :-) His priorities might change as he gets older.. i know mine did..... but then again he could be an exception and they might stay together! My advice.. see the world.. get a good job, make some money... then settle down...

Answer 8

It's ok coz they are on legal age to marry now and as you have said, they are matured already and probably they know where they want to take their relationship. We can never stop problems from arising, it comes but it's upon a good foundation in overcoming such situations.

Answer 9

Personally I feel people should be at least in their mid-20's before they marry. 18-yr-olds may be legally adults, but they have no experience at being adults. I feel it's important to get that experience and learn how to handle the responsibilities before you get married.

However, there are plenty of people who get married early and still have good marriages, so what do I know. It's not my place to set rules for other people anyway. ;-)

Answer 10

let them get on with it and if it dont work out then just make sure you are there as a friend to help them both get over it you never know they cud be together for the rest of their lives people get engaged at all ages and split up .