he's an jerk that left my mum 4 years ago when my youngest sister was 3 weeks, only visited us 4 times and the last time was on christmas eve, 4 years ago!
and now he never visits, calls and never sends us letters and cards!
2006-09-25 22:35:49 · 73 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well he doesn't deserve your love for sure!!
2006-09-25 22:37:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, to hate him is a natural feeling, but don't let that emotion take over your life. It could make you very bitter and anti-male.Thankfully, there are some good men around, although at times they seem hard to find! It's probably a good thing he's not around if he's no good as a husband or father. He may live to regret that and someday return. If that happens I hope you and your family have worked through any hate and made the best of your lives without him. Then he will know what he has missed.
2006-09-26 04:39:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello stop it honey don't hate him so much for walking out on you all.he's done you a favour actually.think about it,he could be a violent man who would not only abuse you all verbly but be violent with your mother.you are better off without him calling him a jerk is not good enough,he's an out and out looser and he's a wast of space.you are better off without him.don't think all dad are great,no they are not.some are animal's.you better alone without him then have him around and be unhappy.
he's water under the bridge honey be strong and move on.don't expect much from him now.
hey it's ok to hate him but then what if he's been in trouble and he's unable to get in touch.never know what the real story is honey there's 2 side's to the coine honey.
his doing was wrong so you remember all men are not perfect and learn from this lesson and find yourself with something better in your life whenit's your turn honey.your ok the best part of him run down his mother's leg as they say.
2006-09-29 05:10:57 · answer #3 · answered by mariolla oneill 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hated my dad for a long time, when he split from my mum when i was 9. because he didn't contact me in any way until i was 17. I'm now 35, and after years of a on off relationship with him, we r now closer than ever. you have got the right to feel the way you do, but always keep the door open in the future just in case u want to try and change the way u feel, circumstances change and so do people sometimes!
take care x
2006-09-26 01:47:36 · answer #4 · answered by blonde'n'proud 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unforchunatley I have the same situation, at the end of the day no matter how much you try you can never do right by him. I think well hes my dad but I dont like him very much at all hes not a good person. You are his child therefore he has a responsibility to you he is wrong you can not be blamed for how you feel x
2006-09-29 20:41:29 · answer #5 · answered by lauzy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why all this hate. He is your father, you dint say how many times you have tried and visit and call him. Maybe your mother told him to never contact you. She might be the evil one. Don't just do something before you hear his side of the story. If it turns out he has just left you for no reason just forget him there is no need for HATE.
2006-09-25 22:46:14 · answer #6 · answered by Future boy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We dont know why he left and we dont know why he choose not to stay in contact. Your mom only knows what she knows and your Mom is the one you should talk to. Hating someone takes a lot of doing and hating stay in your life for ever, which means your heart will carry it. Jerk, yes. Find some peace with it and dont waste any more time about it. Or maybe you really want answers or a relationship with your dad. Then find him. But be ready for the truth, it may turn out the way you want or need. Trust me its your dad lost not to see you grow and to be a part of your life. P.S. I am sorry. I met my dad when I was 21.
2006-09-25 22:50:56 · answer #7 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why is he a jerk, why did he leave your mum? Find out the truth, then decide to hate him. Is he still alive? How do you know for sure he ain't sent you mail, maybe your mum don't want you to see. You'll never hate your father, you won't like him, but hate is not the word. Trust me, I've been through it.
2006-09-25 22:52:48 · answer #8 · answered by kosum 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We can't pick our family only our friends !
Hate is just a waste of energy !
Just forget your father he is a looser you do not want to spend your thoughts on . Live your life, be happy and be a good person
that your father obviously isn't !
I had a birth-mother that was no good and I have always strived to be better and more compasionate than she was !
I wish you all the best for your future life !
2006-09-25 22:51:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's an old cliche which says you can pick your friends but you can't pick your family. Your father is acting pretty crummy so I think it would be his actions rather than him that you hate. Lots of kids have it a lot worse (like being molested & stuff) so try not to get too down about it & be good for your mum cos it sounds like she needs you!
2006-09-25 22:39:13 · answer #10 · answered by shirazzza 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should never hate some one but only hate what they do! No matter how horrible this word is: Forgive, it can help rid you of your hate and move on to other things..You dont have to love him but then again you dont have to hate him.. move on from him..
One trick I use is write down all the things he makes you feel! the hate, even write down some swearing!! of how you feel, write the days that made you soooooo sad, even write down the days at sometime he made you happy, and on you should have allot of pieces of paper with written things about your father, now place them in a bag, and look at the bag,spit at it, yournot spiting at your father when you do it but your realising anger!! and then tell the bag you forgive him, and burn it, watch all those words get burnt: ) well youll know what to do after, good luck, make sure not a place were its like a fire hazard, ok: )
2006-09-25 22:44:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋