I have a very promiscuous past;On top of this,I indirectly caused a terrible accident.I'm paying the price,but that's another story.Guilt is toxic.Gotta rid myself of guilt
2006-09-25 22:27:03 · 21 answers · asked by Soledad Mendez 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I read each of these articles.......I suggest everyone should.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Guilt
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shame
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Embarrassment
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Contrition
I know people who feel promiscuous and shamed after kissing just one person.......EVER.
I know people who "had a good time" when they didn't REALLY "know better" (or care enough) and are using their life's-lessons to help their kids (and others) to avoid some of the same mistakes.
Guilt is NOT toxic..........it CAN be toxic..........and may even be necessary in toxic amounts for some people's rehabilitation.
Forgiveness is USUALLY good................but contrition is ALWAYS good.
We all have to sit at the table and have our "consequences" served to us...........but we CAN be brave about it.
We can be patient and accept Grace as it helps us slowly heal.
We CAN be contrite about it.
We can get over the embarrassment and we can watch much of the shame dissolve with time.
Our true guilt and "blame" remains............but in less and less toxic amounts.
A very hard part of Life can be the trust-issues that are damaged once we see ourselves as "sinners" rather than seeing ourselves as simply making "mistakes".
If we are sinners we need to admit it..........but will we still be accepted.............with our guilt and shame and consequences and all ??
I prefer to keep most of my true/deserved guilt as a reminder.......and just try to ask for more acceptance from others to help me feel less "alone".
I'm not in a position to forgive myself, really........I prefer to ask for it.............the asking has a curative effect.
One of the things I do NOT want to become..........is a "reformed" person.........always looking at others and projecting my pain and feelings of shame and guilt upon the world.
As I get older.........I get "better".
I feel blessed to have made it this far !!!!!
2006-09-26 12:57:15 · answer #1 · answered by TeaSwami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have found that talking about it and time are the only thing that will heal this. I am known as the most forgiving person but no one knows that I have the hardest time forgiving myself. Guilt is terrible.
2006-09-26 08:52:25 · answer #2 · answered by pyt_tlc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learning to forgive myself was one of the hardest things I ever learned. The good news is that when I finally learned that jewel of a lesson, I learned to truly love myself and others.
Forgiveness is a difficult task to master. It is well worth the work. Your whole life will change and you will grow by leaps and bounds.
We cannot change our past, we can learn from it and move forward. We never have to make the same mistakes again if we choose not to.
Blessings )O(
2006-09-25 22:30:49 · answer #3 · answered by Epona Willow 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There comes a time that you just have to move on and accept that what you did in the past is mistakes. Pray to Allah/God and ask for forgiveness, he is the most forgiving. Don't do the same mistakes again. Change and repentance starts within you
Allah is the most forgiving,
2006-09-25 22:29:50 · answer #4 · answered by Blair Waldorf 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask for the Lords forgiveness and pray for the people you've done wrong, change your promiscuous ways. God Bless You!!
2006-09-25 22:43:57 · answer #5 · answered by Ladeebug71 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A dear friend told me this when I was whipping myself at every turn. I pass it on to you.
Give yourself permission to make mistakes. Understand that you did the best you could. Forgive yourself,and move on.
2006-09-25 22:37:48 · answer #6 · answered by . 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to forgive yourself. You expect more of yourself and you look back on incidents and say, "i could have done this, I could have done that." I say give your guilt up to God and let it go. Put your burdens on him. It will release a lot of pressure.
2006-09-25 22:30:35 · answer #7 · answered by mpblackbelt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I John 1;9, If we confess our sins He is faithful and just to forgive us
our sins and to cleanse us for all unrighteousness.
I Corinthians 13;8a, Love never fails!!!!!
9-25-6
2006-09-25 22:30:00 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i think of the sins i committed, i shudder and ask Alllah to forgive me. I also try to avoid my past sins.
I have forgiven myself though, cuz life is about moving on. I just hope allah has forgiven me too......he usually accepts our forgiveness when we cry in repentance... :,/
2006-09-25 22:29:22 · answer #9 · answered by Huda_Alee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes.
you sure can.
every body has a past.you just begin to do the right thing and pretend as if you never commited those sins.
finally tell God about it and its over HE forgives,andGod said He will remember them no more,so you can go to sleep,you are sinless when christ has blotted them out.
2006-09-25 22:40:33 · answer #10 · answered by sunday y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋