why do kids treat their parents so badly!?

Question

They have no consideration and live in their own worlds and my kids are now adults! Are we to blame for being too loving, etc!!!

I am very proud of my 5 kids as they know right from wrong, respectful to others but not each other! Please and thank you were their first words and have remained important to them. They are all very clean and smart, have decent jobs and all be the youngest have a special person in their lives. They all have hearts of gold.

Answer 1

the old saying of you dont know what you've got untill it's gone, well it's the same for parents.... i took the p.... out of my perents not because i didn't love them or that i didn't respect them.. at the time i just felt that they should be there for me no matter what, i can't explain why i acted like this may be it was too much love, being spoiled, modern day life i dont know.... i wish now that i could go back and tell them i loved them very much and that i was sorry for being such a ***** but i cant and that is something i now i have to live with....but as a parent remember no matter how mean we are we do love you even if we don't say it....

Answer 2

Hi I belief that it not so much that the kids treat the parents so badly, it might be the other way around why does parents treat the kids so badly, children mock their parents, there fore is it the children are repeating how there parents might react to a situation. O boy your children are now adults, well my daughter is an adult and thank God me and my ex must of done something just right for the way she had turned out, I wish I had her outlook when I was her age. Letting go of our children when they become adults is the most difficult challenge I had to deal with, yet I had to step back further and allow her to experience life and just remain here to be there for her when she wants me , and to pick her up in case she falls. I am not sure what you might mean by they have no consideration?? , for some reason some parents think just because they made this child, the child should automatically respect them, children learn respect by being provided with respect to their wants and needs being able to express their feeling and emotions, and ideas and opinions. These little people "children" learn by watching their parents and how their parents act or reacts to life situations and events happening that are happening in life. I hope this was help full

Answer 3

My kids are 16 months and 8 years old so I'm not at that stage yet. I was awful to my mum and can only see it now I'm an adult but I know why me and my brother treated her like that, it's because we were never told No and it really meant No. We just got away with walking all over her (don't know if having no dad made a difference) but I'm the opposite with mine now and it seems to be working. Watch this space in a couple of years though!

Answer 4

If we were rude we were disciplined, but to be honest my parents respected us, taught us, trained us and supported us, we had no need to be rude to them. Some parents cannot be bothered with their kids, they are more of an inconvenience than anything else, how can a child learn to be a decent human being when they are not learning the lessons from their parents?

Answer 5

I think we are partly to blame, PEOPLE ONLY TREAT YOU HOW YOU LET THEM TREAT YOU!

I ask for respect/consideration from my children and treat them the same way but at the same time let them know that I am the parent and in charge. I do everything in and with love.

Also I think our kids in the west have far too much, look at kids in developing countries how they treat their parents, how loving they are with so little!!

Answer 6

No, not for being too loving but for allowing them to grow into inconsiderate adults, it is all in the parents control when the children are growing up, it's too late to ask this question when they are adults, you should look at how you have brought them up, and see if you can pinpoint the reason they turned out as they have.

Answer 7

It started when they were llittle and got away with too much crap and not having consquences for their actions-with love there is guidance and discipline. It was not due to being too loving-don't enable them in their problems- let them work it out themselves and face the consequences- esp. as adults. They might become more human toward parents when they are around age 30- maybe not. D

Answer 8

i look at kids on our estate and cant help not wanting mine to grow uo ther rude and nasty i can never remember being like that at there age i think its just how the world it changing and not for the better i dont think its peir pressure i think i mean you can be the worst parent in the world and your kid cud turn out really nice but on the other end you could be a really great parent and still end up with a beer guzzling thug

Answer 9

Everyone that I know, including myself, have one thing in common, hateful spouses of our children. No one I know has problems with but one miserable spouse. The rest are loving and have a great time when together. There is just one who tries, and does make trouble. That one manages to make everyone miserable until they manage to lie and alienate family members. One can only hope that some day they have an in-law , just like them, for their very own. And hope to live long enough to see it happen.

Answer 10

mom and father manage their little ones badly many situations and maximum often see what they did as quickly as the youngsters are long gone, and while its 2 late. I found out what a foul occasion become by ability of staring at my dad, and that i wouldnt want to handle any youngster that way.