This guy and i have been flirting on and off for 3 months culminating in him kissing me and askign me to sleep with him. i kissed him but refused to sleep with him. he was fine about it although persistent and continued to text and email just less so than before. however he then started ignoring me (2 weeks now) but then texted me sunday with a good excuse - he went on holiday at the last minute - i have this verified from mutual friends. he said he was back now and asked me how i was. i texted him back as normal yesterday about 3 hrs after his text. he has still not answered my text (2 days!) which he wld have done before the kissing incident. does he want to be friends? is he a player? what does he want? why contact me again only to ignore me ? is he going to try and hit on me again and hes trying to act cool and make me want him? .... he really opened up to me after the kiss but before all of this about his family his fears his past gfs i do not understand his motives please help?
2006-09-25 21:34:00 · 34 answers · asked by confused 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1) Late 20's re age
2) He was sailing - no phone/e-mail - btut did apologise as soon as he got back
3) he comes highly recommended by his friends as a genuine guy
4) hes had 2 serious relationships - lived together for a few yrs
5) about 3 yrs ago did go through a patch of sleepign with loads of women for a yr but is over that now - so he says!
2006-09-25 21:47:11 · update #1
If you hadn't flirted with him in the first place, would he have shown interest at all ? If he is a player and only contacts you now and then its because he hasn't got a bed-mate that night. I think your to blame here and appear to be a bit of a drama queen...sorry but the truth does hurt......
2006-09-25 21:39:18 · answer #1 · answered by pat.rob00 Chef U.K. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read "He's just not that into you" by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo available from play.com best £5 I ever spent!!
Back to your question, I confused!! His friends say he's a genuine guy and he had a legitimate excuse for not contacting you, but one thing I've learnt is if a guy likes you he will follow you to the ends of the earth and back to be with you or stay in contact with you. I personally wouldn't contact him again, even though I'd love to, find out how serious he is about you, if he wants you he'll contact you again.
Good luck and be strong.
2006-09-25 22:44:27 · answer #2 · answered by Sweetcakes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men arent always the best when it comes to texting honey!! Trust me he prob thinks its quite normal to text back days later when us girls are replying to texts the second the arrive!!!
Id play it cool with him though - let him contact you - the reply back to him - but kind of throw in a comment where you can find out more about his motives - maybe something like - you're not the best on the texts - are you worn out from all these women you be texting - something to that effect - where he can have the perfect opportunity to let you know what his intentions are.
Good luck!
2006-09-25 21:51:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just going on his actions alone, there is no relationship between the two of you to speak of, just 3 months of flirting before he asked you to sleep with him. To me, that signifies that his interest in you is purely sexual at this stage and that, much as he may like you, it isn't enough for him to ask you out and date you properly.
Maybe he will ask you out properly and date you as a boyfriend, but at this time, it doesn't appear to be the case. If he is really interested in you and wants to form something significant with you, he will get back to you and do the right thing this time, otherwise, I would say, leave it for now and move on.
2006-09-25 22:59:54 · answer #4 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no ages given here but he's like all of us blokes. - he just wants to get in your knickers. do know why they'll probably be too tight for him. thats just a joke.
if you want to see how interested he is take things slow- if he really cares he'll go slow and still be interested. if he carries on with this on /off cr*p tell him you've got loads of friends already.
if i was starting a relationship with someone i'm sure i'd find the time to tell them i was off on holiday for two weeks no matter how last minute. drop the bum.
good luck
2006-09-25 21:43:13 · answer #5 · answered by Jason A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This has happened to me before also, I have no idea why they do it!? Maybe it is the whole 'treat em mean keep em keen' attitude. Who knows, but I say just try not to give it too much thought and when you lease expect it I'm sure you'll get a text. Hang in there, I'm sure it'll work out! Goodluck.
2006-09-25 21:39:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,by what you have said,he doesn't appear to be a player-your mutual aquaintances having backed him up and all-but if i were him,i would have to question flirting with,or starting a relationship with,some one who has to verify my where-abouts,or questions my motives.If i were him i would just email and txt you every now and again-just keep it friendly with no commitment,or bed antics...you seem a bit too serious to me.Perhaps you should lighten up a little:-/
2006-09-25 22:08:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm no telling what or why people do things. u could ask him whats going on? but with your choice of words, eg. refused, excuse, verified, motives, it doesnt sound like something a non-player would even be interested in.. maybe youre both players for which i have no suggestions. honest communication is best but not likely,, if u fgind u have to keep turning your cheek yes he is a player, i guess,, no clue really good luck,,
2006-09-25 21:48:36 · answer #8 · answered by UrNo1Fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is playing hard to get or is married or in a long term relationship!! I would sit back and see how much he really wants you, let him do the running whilst you do a bit more homework on him, I am impressed that you didn't give in to his demands for sex , just think, he would have you knotched up as another easy lay! Good for you girl!!
2006-09-25 21:40:02 · answer #9 · answered by pottydotty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sheesh! Since you know he wanted to kiss you and jump in bed-he sounds like a playa! No telling what or who he was doing on holiday. He sounds like a waste of time- move on girlfriend. THere are better things out there. Take care D
2006-09-25 21:40:14 · answer #10 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋