i cried saying i don't wanna do this course i have different ambitions,but everything in vain,my grades lowered .I was crushed emotionally and mentally.It is hard for me to take this as i am a distinction student.Also my dad is not a social person,he did not approve my making friends ,so no friends,no outing,no social life.Even my adolescent was not a happy one ,he being so suspicious,that even if i asked him if i could go for a walk,he would say "oh, i know walk is just an excuse u want to attract boys to you !" what s this?,I am a very emotional person,now i am 23 yrs. old and i want to be independent and also pursue a degree in which i want to .but i am feeling lonely,pls. help me out!
2006-09-25 21:27:59 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sweety,stop pitying yourself.You are 23,adult enough to make your own decisions.Take up some job and study what you want to.Make friends and try to socialise.
You have to be very confident and have courage to do what you want to.
All the luck.
2006-09-25 21:32:20 · answer #1 · answered by sweety 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you have done a degree course (or nearly graduate the current course), then try to finish it off. After that, get a job and move out as soon as you can, away from the family and start to have friends and colleagues for support.
Once you have established yourself, you can start on the course that you really want to do. Hopefully you will have a more fullfiled job in the future with the new degree. Your family will understand you later. Good luck!
2006-09-26 06:07:28 · answer #2 · answered by Peter_F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had almost similar experience. Due to parents pressure I had to do B.Com while I wanted to do Engg. I scored well in those days, 1969. But I had to obey them. Well, everything happens for our good. I am happy and contented.
I think you are an Indian. Only Indian fathers are so repressive and distrustful and suspicious. Try to get to some family members who are on your side and let them talk to your father regarding freedom to you. I feel sorry for you. Only people close to you can help you as this is a personal case. No one on the net can help you because we know nothing of you and your family. But if you have access to the internet, then its a relief. Atleast you are aware of what are your rights and duties. Because you are 23, you are a major and your father has no right to restrict your freedom. But you can't question him on that. It will make him still more angry.
2006-09-26 04:56:16 · answer #3 · answered by sunilbernard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel your sadness. this is what you do, as long as you have the grades, find a course you really want to do at university. think long and hard if after completing this course you will get a job from it. some courses are crap with no prospects. then enroll and live in their campus and eventually when you are settled get a part time job and become self sufficient. you will have the best days of your life. do let anyone control your life. its your life and your are old enough to make your own choices. so what are you waiting for. good luck.
2006-09-26 04:35:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're 23 years old. If you are not yet employed, find one. Then realize within yourself that you will not be controlled by anybody forever... sooner or later, you will have to be in control of your life.
Then walk away from it all and live your life the way you want it... to the extent that you will pursue your preferred education on your own.
A mature person must always think in mature terms!
2006-09-26 05:51:57 · answer #5 · answered by Bummerang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out! You're 23, how can they stop you? Get a job, get student loans, get into a school you want to be in. Get from under your parents oppressive thumb! You're too old for this! Just leave! Your parents bi!@*ing will stop as soon as you are in your new place. Good luck and grow up.
2006-09-26 05:08:55 · answer #6 · answered by wendy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job, get out of the house. Work summers to pay for your degree like so many people do.
2006-09-26 04:31:13 · answer #7 · answered by Juniper C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job, move out and take classes in the degree you want...This way they cant tell you what to do...
2006-09-26 04:31:17 · answer #8 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
O.K. if you are on your own then you make your own decisions! You can be independent and pursue any degree that you want to HAVE FAITH IN YOURSELF!
2006-09-26 04:35:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do it privately.
once the education is complete ur father will accept all things and u also will be matured
2006-09-26 04:35:43 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋