He wants to be my friend and be there for me when I need him.
And still wants to chat everyday.
Is this really possible?
2006-09-25 20:52:45 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we broke up on saturday afternoon.
2006-09-25 20:53:42 · update #1
I tried it but it didn't work because it still felt like I had a boyfriend. Once you have had sex with someone and shared those all important moments, to suddenly become friends this quickly is impossible. At least take a break and have other relationships then you can look at being friends in the future. At the moment, how many female friends does he have? If none, then I would guess that he isn't really interested in friendship, but its more about alleviating other feelings depending on who broke with whom. If he broke it up then its guilt, but he wont really hang around as soon as someone else is on the scene, and if you broke with him its his way on hanging onto you in the hope that he can change your mind, or to lessen the blow until he gets used to the idea.
Either way, its better to be cruel to be kind, the sooner you break contact the sooner you can both move on and hopefully you might be friends in the future.
Good luck
2006-09-25 20:59:12 · answer #1 · answered by michelle a 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes
I am still friends with my ex.
I do not believe that we have to hate each other.
We can forgive but that doe's not mean we can forget.
For me, after 11 & 1/2 years we had allot of memories. I chose to remember mostly the good and growing times we shared. There was too much love to just through our relationship away. I was not IN LOVE any more either. I beleave that we can only grow stronger with friends. But to waste a friendship is a sad thing for all. Can you see your way past the crap to continue to share with someone you once sharied love with? I wish you the best.
2006-09-26 04:08:53 · answer #2 · answered by mrhappy546 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are serious about the breakup...then "Nix"on the friendship. At this point, his friendship is way behind the very last thing you need at this time. Maybe later, but it would have to be way later. Make it your business to "never" need him...especially in the way that he wants.
Remember, this is if you are serious.
You may tell him if you wish. I would simply say that you would always be his friend, but for the sake of you having to move on, you'll have to hold off on that for a while. If he just has to know how long, tell him you'll let him know.
You cannot afford to let him occupy your time with this "so called friendship".
You need this time to regather your self,re-define your character, set some new goals and remember why you love yourself first.
I repeat...nix on the friendship for now.
2006-09-26 04:31:45 · answer #3 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how much you loved him and how much he hurt you. I loved the first husband (married 5 years) and we divorced because we were too young. Still love him as a person. Divorced second husband after 22 years, 4 kids, 1 grandkid, still love him...he just didn't take care of the family the way I wanted...no abuse, just didn't try hard enough. Still love him, because there were so many good memories. It's possible for me. Anyone I have been in love with, I still love...but none of them abused me in any way...maybe thats the difference.
2006-09-26 03:58:56 · answer #4 · answered by kathy n 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually, that one is highly recommended. Since when has friendship become wrong anyway?
No matter what kinb of past relationships you had in the past, there won't be anything wrong with being friends again unless he doesn't have a noble intention with it.
You can also trust your feelings for this. If you don't feel like reviving your friendship with him, that's okay. Wait until you feel better.
2006-09-26 04:03:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is possible to remain friends after a break-up, but that only lasts for so long before jealousy enters the picture. Whether from you, him or the new person in one of your lives.
2006-09-26 03:55:06 · answer #6 · answered by racha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how u guys broke up.. if it was a mutual break up i'd say yes... fwenship is a definite possibility... buh if u broke up on wrong terms or sum1 got dumped... n ur styll lovin hym lyke mad n the question WHY?! still haunts u @ nyte then no... no you can't b friends cuz it'll kyll u insyde n it's not fair... juss... move on... he's juss gon' hang u on a string n pull u along... dun put urself there
2006-09-26 03:56:48 · answer #7 · answered by ju5sm3h 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if i were you i would drop that idea... that is what my ex and i said and now that he is with his new girlfriend he changed. there is no point nothing will ever be the same, it is a nice thought but things will be too weird between the two when you start seeing other people save your feelings and care for yourself before you care more for him
2006-09-26 04:49:56 · answer #8 · answered by ??? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. He is still very hung up on you. Trust me, unless you still have feelings for him and you decided that you might give him another chance in the near or far future, get rid of him. If not, he will make it hard for you to date other people again.
2006-09-26 04:00:39 · answer #9 · answered by Eury Peima 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, he wants you back and talking to him makes it harder for him to let go. The only way to deal with this is to cut all ties. He will hate you but he will get over the relationship much quicker. Be cruel to be kind.
2006-09-26 03:55:39 · answer #10 · answered by Rock On I 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋