Men - what do you really expect?

Question

This question is for GROWN MEN.
When you date, what do you really expect from the woman you are taking out?
I understand all men are looking to get laid.
But is that what you're really expecting and all you're dating for?
What exactly do you want from a date?
What happens when she isn't gonna put out until you and she know eachother well?

Answer 1

A man wants to be happy and to have fun as well, so here are 10 things that men look for in the pursuit of happiness and Ms. Perfect.

1. Charm - If a woman can make you smile, then she has the charm to get out of any situation and will prove to become quite an ally. Charm is what draws men to those women who are not as good-looking as the others. Charm is what pulls us back to women even after they burn us and that lets women get away with murder.

2. A statuesque body - We may not admit this, but when we're walking down the street with our women, we want to show them off. Show off what? Their crazy curves and full figure. Lets put it this way: you need to pass a physical to be the best you can be (i.e. join the army), and Lord knows that women make us pass their own physical exams, so why should we be any different or make any excuse about it?

3. A beautiful face - This one will stand the test of time. A pretty face can get away with murder. While this should not be the top characteristic, it is helpful to admit that you must find a woman who will please your eyes and excite your everything else. Remember, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, unless of course you are a magician. So do not choose someone based on what your friends say, go with whom you want to wake up with. We like beautiful things and we shall make no apologies for this.

4. Honesty & trust - When the games are played, final rounds called and booty calls over, we want someone we can confide in. The most successful relationships are built upon trust, candor and honesty; anything else is equivalent to building a house on quicksand. Sadly, you only know who is swimming naked when the tide goes down, so be honest with your woman (but do not tell her anything she neither needs or cares to know) if you want her to be honest with you. Receiving a pat on the back when we do things right is nice, but it's even nicer to be told when we're wrong, provided of course that we are not made to feel like crap.

5. Respect - The last thing we want is a woman who lets us down, embarrasses us and makes us out to be fools, especially in public. Gentlemen, there is nothing wrong with admitting that we are excessively proud and sensitive to criticism, but if done right, constructive criticism from the one person who knows us best can only make us better men, fathers, lovers, brothers and human beings.
Why do I say this? Next time your woman tells you something, do not cut her off and put her in her place; listen, pay attention and remember: actions, not words, are what matter. Respect in a partnership is about praise as well criticism, not shutting up and telling it like it is. It helps when it is done with humor (well, not at our expense).

6. Sense of humor - This will forever remain a priority for any man. We work hard, we put up with a lot, and we need a woman who will put a smile on our faces when things are gloomy, and make us laugh when things are down. Now guys, I have been curious as to whether we like it when women make us laugh or when we make them laugh. Being able to make them laugh is good for our egos, but getting a smile on our faces is the best tonic possible. Women always rank a sense of humor as the trait they like most in us. A woman who finds it challenging to smile and be pleasant will be a thorn in your side until the day you die, and trust me, your judgment day will come before hers.

7. Intelligence & Confidence - Previous generations probably preferred a smart woman ‑- not just book smart, but also street smart. But truth be told ‑- and this will not please feminists (but then again, who cares?) ‑- many men did not want an overly smart woman, after all, it would be too hard to tame and control her. After all, men feared that women could become unstable and make demands (oh no...) Today, I like to think that we have matured a bit and now see the value in having a valuable ally as a partner. If a housewife, mother and maid is all that you are looking for, you are selling yourself short men, so go out and find someone who will learn from you as much as you will learn from her; imagine the powerhouse couple that you will make.

8. Ambition & drive - If a partner is what you seek, then you will have to find a woman who will challenge your thoughts, stir up your emotions positively and give you a run for your money. Challenges start at home and end on fields, boardrooms and life, so make sure that you meet your match, because practice does make you perfect. A woman that is too strong-willed will also be too stubborn, and this is just plain frustrating, but one that chooses her battles diplomatically will prove to come out a winner in the game of life. Would you not want her on your team?

9. Heart of gold - Most women are selfish on good days and plain malicious on bad ones, so why any man would let himself get tempted (well, we know why) by someone who has bad intentions beats me. If you are looking to get involved for the long haul, a kind woman with a heart of gold will nurture you and offer the compassion, sincerity, warmth, and affection you need to make it to the top. Just make sure you are able to reciprocate the kindness, because someone ultimately will and then she'll run for the hills.

10. Love - Although there are different things that make us happy ‑- some of them may not have been on the list but should have been, while others are but should not have been ‑- when all is said and done and the ink has dried up, the first dates turn into the honeymoon stage, and the relationship develops, all men really want is love.

Answer 2

There are always going to be those guys who expect sex on the first date. That's a pretty obvious clue that they're not interested in actually having a relationship. Just think of it as the guy flat out telling you "I'm not the type of person you want." and be glad you didn't have to waste any more time on them.

On average, guys are looking for the same things women are. Most mature guys would actually be scared away if you offered to "put out" on the first date. If a woman is willing to get that intimate with a guy without knowing them in the slightest, then they've probably had A LOT of sex with A LOT of really sketchy guys.

And that's NO GOOD.

Answer 3

a first date, I expect just that a date. I don't expect a kiss or anything else, just a good time. I mean after all was that not the point of going out? If all I wanted was sex I would not be paying for a night out, I would have her come to my house. I personally respect a girl who has enough respect for herself to say "I want to wait for sex a while till I know you better". it is admirable.

Answer 4

Sex is really only a consolation prize. We're really after a girl who's worth getting to know. Not all of you are. In fact, sex is about all 80% of you are good for. I suppose that lots of you could train yourselves to be worthwhile life mates, but the simple fact is you should already have done this: it should have been a part of your upbringing. Even before you grew into your womanhood, you should already have known what it took to be worth a hoot to a man anywhere besides the bed. And yet, most of you never learned because you either weren't interested, or you were interested in something else more, or you expected men to abandon their own interests and see everything YOUR way. Sorry if it makes your life less rewarding, girlie, but we don't.

Answer 5

My expectations differ on a woman by woman basis depending on how she presents herself. Of course, if the opportunity to get laid presents itself, I will take it 95% of the time. But if I'm on like a first or second date, I'm usually not expecting that. In the early goings, I want to get to know this girl and I'm usually just looking for some good company and conversation. If I'm attracted to her and we can talk and have chemistry, I'm not shy about declaring my intentions to get closer. And then she can make her own decision.

Answer 6

It depends on the girl. Attraction alone is not enough to stay with a girl long term. U need Affection too. Attraction + Affection = Love. Affection alone will only get u friendship. If she doesnt put out and I dont like her personality...bye bye. NEXT. If I like her personality then maybe she will be my friend.

Answer 7

Whatever the lady fancies would be fine with me. If I like her, I would relax and enjoy the time we would spend getting to know each other.

After all...that's the best time!

Whenever she decided she was ready to throw her arms around me would be worth the wait.
The choice would be hers.
The time spent prior, would heighten the anticipation of the magic that we both knew would eventually happen.

There shouldn't be any doubt, after that(:< )<.

Answer 8

I don't know about other men but I can speak for myself.

I'm looking for someone that will understand me and for someone that will be happy with me, sex is also part of it but it's not the most important thing

""I want to wait for sex a while till I know you better". it is admirable." I totally agree

Answer 9

There are a lot of good answers here so far.Just want to add that not all men are looking to get laid,your company should be enough to satisfy a date.
Grown women usually know what they want and sex is usually hi on their list too,you just like to hide it.

Answer 10

if she isn't going to put out until we know each other better i would respect her. i never dated a woman twice that wanted to jump into the sack the first night.
i like them to be open and honest.