I email my ex at least once a month and have done so for 8 months now. I told him in the beginning that is he didn't want me to email him to tell me to stop.
I found out that I was pregnant after he left and have kept him up to date on our daughter's well being and sent him pictures of her ultrasounds.
He never responds , but i am aware that he logs into the web every time i send an email. So I get the feeling that he reads them all. Is this okay ? It is OUR daughter , and he has a right to know whats going on,
or is it crazy for me to continue to email him the pics and updates. My Daughter will be born in less than a month and I plan to continue sending him pictures and updates. I am I crazy or just okay. Should I continue to do so even though someone else has decided to be her father (through the signing of paternity forms) ?
Thanks
~InVis
2006-09-25 20:16:14 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it is very mature of you to recognise your babies father and want him to know whats going on, thumbs up to you on that one...It is unfortunate that he doesn't respond and as for continuing to send stuff, if he hasn't asked you to stop do what you feel most comfortable with, but if you choose to stop I would email him explaining why and that if he ever does decide to respond and want to know whats going on his his babies life that you are happy to oblige.
2006-09-25 20:22:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say he's your ex, were you married, why did he leave? It takes more than just donating sperm to be a father. Since you have sent some info and given him a chance to reply and he hasn't, I think you should stop. Why don't you tell him someone else has signed paternity forms and from now on this person will be her one and only father and you will no longer be sending him information?
Are you still in love with her father and hoping if you keep in contact he will eventually man up? Even if he does "man up" believe me it won't be for long. If he hasn't been doing the right thing from the beginning, he won't be there for the long run. Make it easy on everyone and forget him. You're daughter only needs to know that her dad ( the one who signed the papers) loves her, she doesn't need to know there was a man who gave her life only because he had an urge, like a dog gets.
2006-09-26 03:33:14 · answer #2 · answered by candeekissez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be have been fine for you to continue to send him all that info because you say that he is the father, but since he's not responding...that just may mean that he's not interested in you nor in your unborn child. So what's the point really in keeping him informed? And for all we know he may even have you blocked from his account so none of your messages get through to him. If you want to let him know something, I sugges you use the phone. That way you know for sure that he's heard you. I also suggest that after the baby is born you get a paternity test so that you can claim child support from this insensitive guy. Best regards.
2006-09-26 03:21:25 · answer #3 · answered by Naty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop emailing that guy, Girl. He obviously isn't interested. When he does get curious about your daughter he will email you himself. For now enjoy the fact that you have someone willing to be a father to your baby. You might lose a good man only because you allow yourself to be caught up in the past. Emailing your ex would have been a good idea IF he is showing any interest in your child.
2006-09-26 03:21:36 · answer #4 · answered by Mary Rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone. If he were interested you would receive at least a note back saying thanks. He is not interested. You act as if you are still in love with him Even if you are, stop all contact. He has you email edress if he is interested in more information, let him ask for it. You are beating a dead horse. That said, when your baby is born go through the system and make him give you child support.
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2006-09-26 03:23:32 · answer #5 · answered by joker_32605 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep emailing him - but don't keep it a secret from the man that your with now. It's important for a child to know who their real father is. In addition, they will likely be thankful to you in the future for maintaining a connection with their father. Even if this guy only follows his child's life through emails, at least he will be in the picture.
2006-09-26 03:23:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... it sounds like you are doing all the work. I would stop. I wouldn't avoid him.. I would just stop bending over backwards. If he doesn't want to be a good father now .. then you can't make him... besides.. if he is at all a caring individual then curiousity will get to him. He will contact you if you don't make yourself so readily available. People want what they can't have.
BUT, with that said, don't be upset if he doesn't... he might not be ready... I would let him go.. I know it's hard. and I know it's hard to be a single mother.. but, you can do it!!
2006-09-26 03:22:19 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have an ex- and you have another boyfriend, that quick, leave him ( the father) alone don't e-mail pics when the baby is born, get it girl he doesn't care about you nor the baby...don't waste your time on thinking of him, start learning how to be a parent and making your child happy...HE WILL NEVER CARE..
2006-09-26 03:22:44 · answer #8 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok as long as it's about your daughter. But honestly if it were me, if he hasn't responded ever then I wouldn't do it any more. He knows he has a responsability now let him be a real man and step up to the plate first for a change. Why should you extend yourself when he's not returning the favor??? Think about it...
2006-09-26 03:21:42 · answer #9 · answered by Shelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone else is kind enough to be her father then it is my opion that you should be sharing the pictures with him only! I realize that you are trying to be kind but look to the man who will be her dad in less than a month-start now and make him proud of his decision!
2006-09-26 03:23:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋