Should I make Game Over of my life ? I Can't Play it.It's too hard ?

Question

I M 20 yr old guy from India.I m totally frustrated with my life.There is no friends for me.I m lonely.I have no friends becoz i have a prblm with my speech & at times hearing also.I cnot communicate with other people .I am very less talkitive.And even when i talk does not make sense to anyone around me.Nobody listen to what i m say,They just ignore me.The most important thing i m worried of is that who will give me a Job if i have this type of disablities.I am good at computers in practical.But when it comes to talking theorically i m a MUM.i have done till XIIth std.I m financially poor.I can't even see a speech therapist to solve my prblm.I have been living for 6 yrs now with this disablities.Before age of 14 i was fine.But after 14 yrs i started having tension due to some disorder of my body part.I did not have any idea that this kind of disorder exits in the world which is called Gynecomastia.i dont have the power to live any more.Is there anyone who can do something for me?

Answer 1

Gynecomastia effects approximately 40 to 60 percent of all men. It is not uncommon at all! You need to get some counseling so you can come to terms with your condition. This alone might help with your speech problem, but if it does not, your counselor might be able to point you to a therapist who can, as well as a doctor to treat your gynecomastia.

Answer 2

Ok, first of all: Girls will stare at you if (by staring i mean ogling or checking you out): 1. They like you, 2. They think you look funny, 3. You are doing something worth looking at, and 4. She wants something from you. Playing hard to get is a mind game, and from what you wrote it seems to me like she is interested, although i think you exaggerated a little bit. The problem is, is that she is seeing someone now that she might also like. Right now, she is getting what she wants, which sadly for us, girls will always get that...that's just life. By ignoring you, and making you jealous, she is forcing you to like her more. Which I can see is working. Personally, I like a girl that messes with my mind a little bit. Some guys absolutely hate it. Boys are not completely innocent either, we try to make some girls jealous of us. So I would combine #1 and #3. This is what I would say it is, adding that she likes two people, possibly you and her boyfriend. This causes confusion and hardache. So just be patient and it will all work out soon enough, if not with her, there are other fish in the sea.

Answer 3

Yes, YOU can do something for yourself! Everything you listed has something to do with one problem or another that you are having. Is there something you LIKE about yourself that you can use as a starting point to something better?? I cannot say that my situation is any better or worse than yours, but I value my life enough to do the best that I can do, and to carry on! You know, sometimes life is DAMN HARD, and if everyone just gave up, we wouldn't have very many people around!!

You actually DID say that you are good with computers! Do you know how few people can say that??! If you have an aptitude for computers, the world is your oyster, my friend!! Lots of people don't even have to physically communicate with others, because they have at-home jobs on the computer! Please, please investigate all the possibilities before you get so low!!

I'm not familiar with your affliction, but it doesn't sound as though it is life-threatening! In short, people have done so much more than they ever imagined they could do when their backs are up against a wall!! Search for your own particular space in this world, and when you get tired of doing that, search some more!! It is always a test of your character to stand up when you've taken a fall!! Life is a series of "getting back up"!! Brush off the dust and carry on, my friend!! You will do fine in the end! And remember that you are your own biggest hero!!

All the best to you, and let us know how you do!!!

Answer 4

Don't "game over", please. You can't put another coin in the machine and start over like at the arcade! I care about you, and I don't even know you. I know what gynecomastia is-- male enlargement of the breasts, right? In America, you could go to special school classes for free at the public schools. My best friend in high school was deaf, and could barely talk. It's really sad that people in some cultures can't see past a person's physical attributes to know what a truly beautiful person you REALLY ARE. Brahma would not have created you if the Divine One didn't think you were worthy of an existence.

You can learn more about computers, maybe? You don't need to speak well to write computer code or make a keyboard in a factory. And from what I hear out here in the US, you can make a pretty good wage. You seem intelligent enough...

Take good care of yourself, and treat oterhs with kindness. Your good karma will catch up to you, I know it will.

Answer 5

I am not certified in anything. However, I wonder if you couldn't find any friends that have similar interests as you. Maybe even a community of people that use sign language. That would give you something new to learn and it would be a whole new world for you to explore. I don't know how accessable that is for you. Maybe you just need a new game.

If you think you will hurt yourself or some else, maybe you should call the emergency number to medical assistance.

Answer 6

Don't EVER give up. You have a bright future ahead of you if you choose to face your challenges head on. There is so much that you CAN do. You need to focus on that. Make sure you get all the medical advise in the world. You are telling us here now, tell more people. Do research see what medical options there are out ther for you. If it's money you need then tell your story, ask for the money you need. There are so many heroes in this world that you can look to for inspiration. Many people had every reason to quit and they fought against it all and became very successful. You can become something amazing if you put your mind to it. There are people out there that are dealing with the same disorder. Look online for people that can give you support. People do love you. You do have friends. You have a friend today in California if you want one. email me [e-mail]

Answer 7

Go through Medical Assistance. They can help you get the help you need. Try some home speech exercises, and watch TV with the volume turned off. You can learn to read lips this way.

Also, I don't know if you are a religious man or not, but pray. God helps people from all walks of life, no matter if you're poor, rich, or mediocre.

Good luck to you.

Answer 8

It makes me sad to read your story.I have a feeling that your speech & hearing problem is not a phsiological one but psychological, brought on by low self esteem. Why ? B'cos of Gynecomastia ? Its not that you are the only one with the problem. There are lots of people in this world who are so unfortunate & yet face life head on. So stop feeling sorry for yourself. If you don't respect yourself, nobody else will.

You say you are good with computers. Have you tried approaching some of the big IT companies here in India like Infosys & Wipro. I am sure these cos would have some welfare programmes to help meritorious people like yourself.

Answer 9

Never give up!

You are at a vulnerable age, where it's easy to feel despondent about life.

Do a search on the Internet for support groups who specialise in Gynecomastia; you aren't the only person who has it.

Most importantly, you never know where life is going to take you.

You seem to be comparing life to a computer game. In that case, think of this bit where you are now as a "boss level". It may seem hard, and it's easy just to say "I can't do it", but there is a way through, and it leads to greater rewards later on.

Either way, you only get one life in this game, so use it well.

Answer 10

find a job in data entry. you don't have to talk to anyone or communicate. you just sit at your desk and type. go to a temporary agency and tell them that this is the job you need. then when you get some money, start going out and doing things. you will then meet some people. if they don't like you because of your condition then say f*** you and go find others. once you have had your job for awhile you will get insurance and you can go to a therapist which will make you more confident. try shopping also. this always helps me. go get sweet tea from mcdonalds. that makes me happy too. find a hobby to occupy your time until you get some friends. clean your house, wash car, exercise, read books, try church, listen to radio (really loud if you have to). meet some friends online. you seem to type just fine. start a journal to get your problems out. good luck!!!