He is my colleague. We are just colleagues and friends, nothing more than that. I came to work this morning and I saw a box on my desk. They were my favorites sushi, all in heart shapes. A note inside the box and it said “I’ve learn how to make sushi, this is the first time I made and made it just for you. Hope you like it.”
I know he wants more than just a friend. Even though, he never said that, but I knew that. What can I do to let him know that
me + him = impossible?
I’m in a relationship. I love my bf dearly and everyone knows that, including him.
Thanks!
2006-09-25 19:54:25 · 26 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Serious answers only pls! he is a nice guy.
2006-09-25 19:59:22 · update #1
Something funny, just an observation...
I think your true love... is being in love.
I think you love being able to tell yourself that you're in love and that you're capable of telling it to yourself over and over and over... and believing it.
I think you're miserable being alone while your boyfriend is gone, but you blame yourself for that. I think you also blame yourself for him being upset at you hanging out with friends. So you're going to isolate yourself more while he's gone. And be miserable. And blame yourself.
Am I close?
As for the work guy... letting him down softly will only encourage him. I'd throw the box of sushi in the garbage at his desk where he's sure to see it. If you let him down gently, he's going to figure he just has to try harder to seduce you in.
2006-09-26 03:42:58 · answer #1 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be totally professional. Men get the picture when they see a woman being professional. they feel intimidated. Dont tell him anything because he can easily turn it around and say that he is not interested in you or make rumors or something. But I think that you should act professional and polite not nice. because sometimes men mistake that for flirting (they cant tell the difference) Anyway, return anything that he gives you. How would you feel if your boyfriend was getting gifts from another female?? It would bug the heck out of you so return anything that was given and hope that this helps.
2006-09-25 20:00:55 · answer #2 · answered by gm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eat the sushi and then call in sick tomorrow. haha. Come back the next day and tell your colleague... "Thanks for the sushi, I wasn't really sick but it gave me an excuse to call in and then go hang out with my bf." lol, really...
btw, is the pic really how you look? if so, seems like you really like showing how pretty you look. Like what the guy above said.... turn off you charm when you are at work. I know it is hard.. lol, but please try. Save us (i meant your colleague) from ourself. There are just too many weak minded males in this world. haha.
2006-09-25 20:01:08 · answer #3 · answered by late4ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best way is to be up front.
Tell him that it is a sweet things he does for you but you can no longer accept them because you have a boyfriend.
If he keeps doing it. Don't say a word. Just make sure everything he gives you ends up back on his desk. If it continues then this sounds like sexual harrasment. Go to your boss and tell them what is happening.
Don't worry about hurting he feelings. He is over steping boundries. Be kind, but don't give in to his whims
2006-09-25 19:59:50 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need to say anything unless he actually says something first. But you might want to encourage him to go out and meet other people. maybe even set him up with some of your single friends. He'll either get the drift without having his ego hurt (that much) or he'll find someone who'll appreciate his advances.
2006-09-25 19:59:22 · answer #5 · answered by spindoccc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way to break the dude's heart so do him a favor by being true and telling him straight. Don't make a big fuss about it. He knows you have a boyfriend anyway so he must know too what he is putting himself in.
2006-09-25 19:58:29 · answer #6 · answered by MARY ROSE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit him down and be honest. Did you give the sushi back? Ha. Missed signals already.
Adrian
2006-09-25 19:56:55 · answer #7 · answered by Dr. Feel Realgood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know as soon as possible and as politely as possible that it is impossible between you and him and you are already attached. Maybe face to face privately... Make it clean and clear. Get yr BF's help only if needed.
2006-09-25 20:00:01 · answer #8 · answered by hansel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gobble the sushi like u haven't eaten for years in front of him. Trust me, it'll turn him off.
2006-09-25 22:17:51 · answer #9 · answered by A victim of Pay And Pay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been going on about this for days. You are hoping he will go away. He won't. Tell him to leave you alone and stop worrying about his feelings. You will only hurt him more the longer you delay. Do it. Tomorrow.
2006-09-25 22:46:30 · answer #10 · answered by LORD Z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋