Well, after we had sex, he didn't call. I typed him an email 3 days later, and told him I understood from his actions he didn't feel as I did, and that was fine, I wished him no harm, good-bye. He called the next day and emailed me, said work was hell, and then told me he had an issue because his ex's name came up between us, and she had died in an auto accident the week after they broke up, and he was still feeling guilty. He still loves her, and he loves me too he said. I told him that he was not emotionally healthy enough to be in a relationship, and that he needed to be in therapy to work things through, and that until then, we could be friends, but not lovers. I also sent him a link to The Grief Recovery handbook, which I have used because I am a widow. I called him today (mistake?) to see how he was, and I felt he wanted to rush me off the phone. He said he would call me tomorrow, but I feel stupid now, and needy, and not right with myself.
2006-09-25 19:48:12 · 3 answers · asked by Rose of the Valley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Caring for another is never a mistake. Don't read to much into his actions. If his feelings are as you have listed in here, his actions are quite normal. Just keep trying to help him from a friends point of view and in time he will get over it and move on. At which time you and he may be able to get back together. it is possible he was in the middle of something when you called. I would still try to help him and be his friend. As for being needy or what not, that one there just is not enough info, if you called to make sure he is okay, there is noghting wrong with it. If you were calling for a date after telling him no, then there would be. I don't think you should feel bad in any way.
2006-09-25 19:54:13 · answer #1 · answered by daggermouth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what that is probably something I would have done too, and I do not blame you and you were right and human to call him and check on him so dont feel like like that.
2006-09-25 19:51:18 · answer #2 · answered by angel b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him have his problems and stay away. It sounds like you aren't going to be strong enough to help him.
Be careful not to make matters worse for both you and him.
2006-09-25 19:52:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋