Help. Me and my friend are both 14 yrs old. Lots of guys wanna have sex with her. She keeps asking my opinion - I dont think its such a good idea but she wants to. I mean i dont even have a boyfriend yet how am i supposed to know? what do i do?
2006-09-25 19:45:44 · 26 answers · asked by Kira 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Obviously, you care about your friend or you wouldn't be looking for ways to help her. Just tell her that the risks involved with having sex at 14 just aren't worth it. Waiting until you're older and more mature gives you many benefits. First of all, you're both worth more than some quick romp in the sack with a hormone crazed,sweaty teenage boy. Plus, as you begin dating and getting older, you realize that keeping the goodies to yourself gets you more respect and better options. Girls who keep themselves to themselves get treated better, have more self respect and are free from the worry of HIV, HPV. pregnancy and other things sex can give you that you can,t get rid of. Concentrate on your studies and hobbies(or after school activities). You'll be glad you waited, I was. What's the rush anyway, you've got plenty of time. You don't want to bring home anything that cries,crawls, walks or itches, right? Tell your friend you care about her well being and find new hobbies, sports or music to try together to stay out of trouble. Be encouraged and keep your head up.
2006-09-25 19:56:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your advice should be A BIG FAT NO to her. You may not like this answer but you should tell her to talk to her parents. She's only headed for BAD NEWS if she starts having sex at (14). It's just society and peer pressure that try to FORCE these ideas on young girls like you and your friend. Teens your age have it drilled in their heads that having sex is part of growing up, or even being cool. But that usually comes mostly from OTHER teens your age. It's not part of growing up, and it has nothing to do with being cool. That is the furthest thing from the truth. It's never supposed to seem like this HUGE decision you have to make to be normal. That's where the word PEER PRESSURE came in. Feeling pressure to have sex? Hello?? That's a RED FLAG. Your friend seems like she's going to do whatever she wants. If you know that she will not talk to her parents, and you can't bring yourself to tell her parents yourself, then remind her of how SPECIAL sex is. How special she is. That she doesn't OWE anything to any guy. Especially her virginity. There's no real true meaning when young kids have sex. It's the most special thing a girl can share with a guy, and it should mean ALOT. As in it should mean "I LOVE YOU" in marriage. Not just cheap, sex with no meaning....just to try it. I've said enough. I hope you keep a level head and talk your friend out of it. But in the end she makes her own decisions. And she will pay for the consequences. And that may very well mean.................15 and pregnant. It's not worth it.
2006-09-25 20:11:46 · answer #2 · answered by skoosh_me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really up to her. But if you want an opinion I would suggest to her that she wait. She is only 14 and I'm sure she doesn't love any of these guys wanting to have sex with her. She can only lose her virginity once, she should wait until she is old enough to understand the consequences of having sex and when she finds someone that she wants to share that experience with. If she starts sleeping around with people it will cause more problems than she ever imagined.
2006-09-25 19:51:13 · answer #3 · answered by greenshirt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my advise to your friend is that she is far too young to have sex. I kind of have a feeling your friend is you, if it is, i am speaking directly to you and if its not, pass it on to ur friend.
Y'all are too young for that, you need to be older and mature enough to make such decisions.(i personally believe in waiting till marriage.) Any man/boy about ur age or older that wants to have sex with a 14 year old is either not thinking right, not in his right senses or too young to think of his actions.
My advise is listen to ur instincts and inner voice(conscience), make the right choice and i'll always say TALK TO UR PARENTS.They know better! Good Luck, God Bless.
2006-09-25 20:02:48 · answer #4 · answered by d_cutie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is VERY natural for her to be curious and therefore want your opinion. 14 is TOO young to experience a sexual relationship. If she goes ahead and does it now, she will regret it later, and it will most likely hurt her too since she is not ready. What are her reasons for wanting sex? Does she want to have a baby? Most 14 year olds who don't feel loved in their home will try to have a baby in hopes of having the "baby" love them. In reality this never happens. She can experience with masturbation which will let her know all she needs to know about the actual act without actually doing it. PLEASE try to talk her out of it as the two of you are friends.
2006-09-25 19:54:57 · answer #5 · answered by beautyofthesea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 17:06:48 · answer #6 · answered by hyre 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep discouraging her. It has never been good for a 14 year old to engage in sex. Tell her to wait till she knows and understands what sex really is and why people do it.
2006-09-25 19:51:47 · answer #7 · answered by kombo6m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could let her choose her own decisions so that she wouldn't blame you at the end, but if you're a good friend, tell her what you think, 14 is wayy to young to be having sex. Tell her what you think is right, and if she doesn't listen to you, then let her do whatever she wants to do.
2006-09-25 19:51:38 · answer #8 · answered by The Dreamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason she keeps asking is because she knows deep down that she is not ready. If guys talk about having sex with her, she needs to tell them up front that it won't happen.
2006-09-25 19:49:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you are her friend then you actually know a fair bit about her, she probably isn't really ready at 14 and neither is she! try and talk to her about it and ask her questions dealing with the situation, you will then be able to suss out the situation a little better
2006-09-25 19:49:25 · answer #10 · answered by qwerty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋