I' m 22 and my ex-boyfriend is 34. We had the best 2 years together. We loved each other and got alone great. He wanted to get married and have kids in the next 2 years and everyone knows that I'm too young for that. We tried to seperate for 9 months. Now He's dating someone who he says is "a lot like me", only she's 29. My head understands it but my heart doesn't. Can't we just be together and laugh like the old days? Why did he give upon me? I'll get there. Love is love. It doesn't recognize color, age or gender. My heart is broken. Everyone says that I'll be in love again, but I just feel like staying down. I cry day and night. I have to move on, but how?? He's says that he's not happy too. He misses me some times but he has to try to find what he's looking for. I'm mad angery, heart broken, and everything else!!!
2006-09-25 19:39:39 · 9 answers · asked by Slevin L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow. I'm in your reverse situation. I'm 34 and my wife is 20 and we were planning on the whole kids package and everything too.
Unfortunately she couldnt stick to the plan and decided that the realtionship was too much work for her, so she just gave up on "us"
now she's dating trashy guys and trying to do anything she can to make those who loved her most despise her. I think she doesnt like herself much and tries to get others to follow her lead...
My point is, broken hearts suck. The people that wrong you today will have someone else wrong them eventually too and then they'll think back on you fondly and wonder why the hell they let you slip away.
The pain lessens with time. The main thing for you is to get yourself moved on before they come crawling back to you. You have to be strong enough to npt let them back in your life. If they hurt you once, they'll make a career of it if you give them half a chance.
Go find someone who makes you happy, but dont give him ALL of your heart. Save some for yourself. It makes it easier to put back together if it gets broken again.
Good luck
2006-09-25 19:48:23 · answer #1 · answered by Talamascaa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. First, Pray.
2. Stop communicating with him.
3. Cry until you can't cry anymore.
4. Whenever you get to the last cry, you've healed.
What appears to bother you the most, is that he found someone else to do what you weren't ready for. He may be lying to you when he says he's not happy, because if that's the case, why is he still there. I feel that things will not and can not work for you two now, because whatever you bring, or receive from the table is a lesson to be learned. You're still young enough to live life to the fullest. So MOVE ON, and get over it as soon as you can. This may seem hard, but TIME WILL HEAL YOU. Believe it!
2006-09-26 02:58:28 · answer #2 · answered by Orig1 B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel.. it hurt so much very very much.. its like you thinking of him all the time cant eat cant sleep cant work properlly. i had to go down that road some what i was with this girl for 5 years!! and she dump me and want with another guy inless then a week!!.. my life was so bad but.. here is what to do hang with your freinds that care about you they will sopport you.. also think about what he wants and what you want.. go to the gym it helps alot.. also dont call her messenge him or anything no contact at all intell you finly over him this works the best
i wish you good luck your 22 your young go party it up your single now!
2006-09-26 02:51:08 · answer #3 · answered by abcboyohboy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TD Jakes is my hero. He wrote something. You may have read it but I'm gonna share it with you - because I've felt that hurt you're experiencing before.
"There are people who can walk away from you. And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk away from you: let them walk. I don’t want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone. Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left. The Bible said that, they came out from us that it might be made manifest that they were not for us. For had they been of us, no doubt they would have continued with us. [1 John 2:19]
People leave you because they are not joined to you. And if they are not joined to you, you can’t make them stay. Let them go.
And it doesn’t mean that they are a bad person it just means that their part in the story is over. And you’ve got to know when people’s part in your story is over so that you don’t keep trying to raise the dead. You’ve got to know when it’s dead. You’ve got to know when it’s over. Let me tell you something. I’ve got the gift of good-bye. It’s the tenth spiritual gift, I believe in good-bye. It’s not that I’m hateful, it’s that I’m faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have He’ll give it to me. And if it takes too much sweat I don’t need it.
Amen. AMen. Amen. Chica.
Let him go. Trust me.
2006-09-26 02:50:49 · answer #4 · answered by skevans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have every right to feel bad but look on the bright side, ure too young to get married...
i know its easy for me to say cos im not in the position but, all i can say is, ure too young to get married
meet new friends and enjoy life!
2006-09-26 02:43:00 · answer #5 · answered by crazy_for_you 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur r so young open ur eyes gal guys r on a throng dont cry over past move on get a new boyfriend take this as a experience
2006-09-26 02:45:25 · answer #6 · answered by gurpreet k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life doesnt always go to your plan though you fight to make it happen..sometimes you gotta let things go to let other things into your life..learn from where you went wrong ..you will get there and so will i just believe and keep believing no matter what...you will get what you wish for and so will i
2006-09-26 02:49:16 · answer #7 · answered by waveboy7675 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he`s confused and you`re the rite one for him and i just hope he`ll realise that before it`s too late as for you it doesn`t hurt to try dating maybe he actually isn`t the right one
2006-09-26 02:46:22 · answer #8 · answered by babeschick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
meet new friends and enjoy life! czar_rules888@yahoo.com
2006-09-26 02:45:04 · answer #9 · answered by czar_khan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋