I have a bf. we're planning to get married next year but i only knew him for a couple of months (4months to be exact).He deprived me to give help for my family...My brother and sister has their own family but my brother begged me to buy a car for him and my sister to support his child.although my sister did not tell me that directly but bec. his husband abandoned her so i decided to help her. My salary is better than my bf. he earned only half of my salary and his friends told him do not let me go cause im damn good for him. The problem is he told to think about my self and save money for my future which is he knows he will be my future. Is he really concern about me or he wants my money?I love him so much and I can't think so much regarding this.Please do help me...I need your opinion.
2006-09-25 19:36:32 · 5 answers · asked by krungkrung 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
With just the detail you provided I must say, your b/f is correct. Your brother and sister need to learn to care for themselves and you need to realize you have a future and need to plan for that. Your b/f sounds like he has his head screwed on straight and you do not. Listen to him.
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2006-09-25 20:14:44 · answer #1 · answered by joker_32605 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
haha.. usually it is the other way around where the guy makes more than the girl.
Not sure if I can help you cause I think guy think about this too when they make more than their gf and when their gf start charging on their credit card like there is no tomorrow. I had a hard time conforting my gf too cause I didn't want her to think I cannot make ends meet. I would make slight hints sometimes when we go shopping like do you really really need that? or you got a bunch of those types of shoes or bags, save you money for something else. I am sure we will find something else in this mall later that you can spend it on.
It is just hard to talk about money directly.
Btw, they are your siblings and it is your money. So it would be nice (but you don't have to if YOU don't want to) if you can help them out a bit. But don't spoil them though. If your siblings are messing up, you should tell them how to avoid it next time.
2006-09-25 19:44:02 · answer #2 · answered by late4ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Charity begins at home and I am a firm believer in it. Your bf is being very selfish and inconsiderate. He needs a wake up call. No saving for a future is worth sitting back and watching a family member suffer financially, emotionally, or physical. Sounds to me like he was an only child. Either way he needs to learn compassion and take on a more caring role if he is to be joining the family.
2006-09-25 19:43:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In future, you will live with him right? so it is no worry if he give you an suggestion about you future.after all you will live together. I think he just concern about you coz you gve too much about you family than you own future.That is a good move for him i think. Both of you love each other so there is no big deal who's the one earned much money.
2006-09-25 19:46:36 · answer #4 · answered by sher_2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he loves you
2006-09-25 19:40:40 · answer #5 · answered by soofi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋