I am 18 years old and since I was 4 I have dreamed of acting. For over 6 years I have done my research and attained training. I am ready to move and continue with my training. I have found a school in LA (I live in IL) that I want to attend, but my father told me no is his final answer. I am afraid that he will never talk to me again if I go. My mom does not agree but said if that is what you want then go. I have tried to compromise with my father saying I will still earn my degree or I will go for 2-3 months and return for 2-3 months or I will pay my own way. I am so eager to try out my own wings, but he won't let me go. I think he is afraid that I will end up like he did when he was a teenager. I really love my parents but I do not understand why they will not let me discover who I am and try living by myself to gain experience and make my own mistakes? I am well educated, mature, and a good decision maker. I have thought this through for years and am eagerly waiting to go.
2006-09-25 19:25:12 · 9 answers · asked by Imagine, Dream, Go 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First off...you are very lucky to have family that cares about you as much as they do...secondly they are making the mistake of trying to protect you. I am 20 yrs old and have been on my own since I was 17. I have friends that are 20-25 that still live with their parents because their parents let them. If you don't go now and try to survive on your own, you will always be protected. Trust me if you have a good head on your shoulders like you say you do, then you will be fine. Your parents will always be there no matter how much they hate the life you choose. They won't drop you because you took a chance in life to live your dream. They just want you to be safe that's all. Hunny right now I have been out for 3 yrs and just last weekend my mom will be living in my house for 2 months because she's homeless. If I can help the woman that kicked me out of her house at 13 yrs old, I'm sure if things didn't work out your parents would take you back in a heart beat. Good live your dreams!!! Good luck with everything!! I hope it all works out for you...
2006-09-25 19:44:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fathers have great difficulty recognising that their daughters are grown up. Your dad still thinks of you as a tiny girl that he must protect. Unfortunately, that's the way fathers are.
If you are confident that you can move out and support yourself, then you should go - your father will threaten never to speak to you again, but he will relent eventually. However, I'm sure you know that acting is a very uncertain profession and you may need your parents' money to survive.
I know you can't wait to get started, but would another year at home make a big difference?
2006-09-25 21:17:07 · answer #2 · answered by Kylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father understands that you are too young asnd immature to make decisions that can affect you for a lifetime.
Why not go to college for a while until you gain some maturity, then your father might give you his blessings. If not, at least you will be mature to make your own decision.
You father has lived a long life and is far wiser than you.
2006-09-25 20:08:14 · answer #3 · answered by joker_32605 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're old enough to leave on your own, but you probably shouldn't because they would be very worried about you and it's really tough trying to make it on your own. Isn't there anything closer to home, like in Chicago? Go to college in Illinois and enroll in a theater program, get a good foundation, then give LA a try. A lot of successful actors studied theater just at some state school in the middle of nowhere.
2006-09-25 19:32:43 · answer #4 · answered by ginger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're only 18, you have to understand where your parents are coming from. They love you but they want you to get a good education. Acting is very difficult to get into and being successful is even more difficult. They're simply not comfortable with you moving out to some new, strange place.
2006-09-25 19:28:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 18, They can't make you stay home.
If he vows to disown you if you leave. then he has big problems.
Save your money. Make a plan and do what you need to do. As long as you are out of high school. You are old enough to make a move.
I wish you the best
2006-09-25 19:30:10 · answer #6 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your dad you are an adult and you will do what you think is best for you. Just go period, he'll have to deal with his issues and realize you are a grown woman.
2006-09-26 01:49:11 · answer #7 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go, your father will get over it.
2006-09-25 19:29:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient
2006-09-25 19:29:38 · answer #9 · answered by sofora k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋