For me Love is blind, deaf and dumb. Im Too loyal to the extend i dont even want to know if he's cheating on me. (although i'd already known) Recently my boyfriend (of a year) and i broke up cause he said he didnt want to lie to me anymore. Since he's been going out with that girl for 4 months now, i knew I couldnt make him stay. So,I let him go. 2 months has passed and he called me up, saying "she was no you". Just when I finally thought i could get up on my feet again after the break up, he suddenly calls up saying he wants me back. I still love him but Im scared of getting hurt again and again. what do you think my answer should be?
2006-09-25 18:59:32 · 27 answers · asked by Marsha Manson 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He should have realized what he had when he had it. He should have figured she was "no you" during the 4 months he was cheating on you with her. Guys do what you let them get away with. He'll be thinking that he can do it again and you'll still take him back if you actually do give him another chance. You need someone who is about you and ONLY YOU. You can do better. You say you have yourself at a point where you can move on so DO IT... MOVE ON. You'll feel stronger for it in the end. Don't make it easy on him by just taking him back. He needs to learn to appreciate having something good. He also might just wind up leaving again for the same reasons and I don't think you should allow him in to hurt you for a second time. I SAY DON'T GO BACK. ... but it's still your decision... so if you do take him back ... MAKE HIM PAY FOR HIS MISTAKES FIRST!... so he knows to never ever do it again...
2006-09-25 19:10:18 · answer #1 · answered by lil_blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recently went through the same situation. My boyfriend cheated on me and left me for her. He stayed with her for almost a month and came back to me. I took him back because I loved him too much. Two months has gone by and we're very happy. He is trying to prove to me everyday that I can trust him. He cries to me saying it was the worst mistake he has ever made. It's easy for people to tell you to say no, but ultimately it's your decision. Do you think you can trust him? Will you be happy? My suggestion is you follow your heart. People make mistakes. If he truly feels bad for what he did, maybe you could take him back. If not, then try your best to be strong and move on. It will be hard, but you can make the right decision. Good luck!
2006-09-26 02:12:07 · answer #2 · answered by Damon ♥ Elena 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He chooses her over you. In those 4 mths that he was dating both of you, he would have already known that she's no you.
Your answer should be no and if he really want to be with then let him do all the efforts of winning you back until you believe in him.
But do take your time when taking your decision coz believe me that relationship wouldn't be the same once trust has been broken and you will find yourself more miserable than you already are without him.
2006-09-26 02:08:06 · answer #3 · answered by Saphire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No- he's blown it. If he wasn't sure you are the One after 8 months (12 - 4) then he will never be sure. He might have got away scotfree this time (who knows?) but what if he got one of you pregnant? Relationships are never without consequences, but some consequences are more expensive than others. Even if he can afford a harem, you'd be better off out of it.
If you can be loyal to one such as him you will be loyal to your soulmate when u find him.
2006-09-26 02:09:57 · answer #4 · answered by Tertia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wud ask him what is different this time and ask him if he is coming back cause the other girl got fed up of his womanising too and dumped him .If you want him back no one on here is going to change your mind it is up to you I have just took back somone who I split with two months ago and it is better than before ,but do not let that influence your desission cause my partner did not cheat unless u call his football the other woman.
2006-09-26 03:27:24 · answer #5 · answered by stephy200125 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might think you still love him but the love would not be as strong as it was before he cheated. Ask yourself what made him cheat. Never be a guy's second best. If given another chance guys take you for granted and think they can get away with anything they do.
Think about it, your own happiness is what matters here...
2006-09-26 02:18:02 · answer #6 · answered by asisi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So this guy cheated on you for 4 months?? Don't take him back! Guys who cheat clearly don't respect their girlfriends. I understand how you're feeling right now, because you're still not over him. But if you get back together and he cheats again, which is not unlikely, you'll be right back at this point, going through it all over again.
2006-09-26 02:07:09 · answer #7 · answered by kaizee21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO he will only do it again now your away from him keep it that way and get back on your feet do you love him so much that you want to be cheated on and get hurt again?
2006-09-26 09:13:46 · answer #8 · answered by browntbath 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly. "She was no you" - but obviously he was looking for something other than you when he found her. Who's to say he won't do so again. On the flip side, sometimes it takes veering into looking at the "greener grass" on the other side to realize what you really had. It's a catch 20 really.
But let me let you in on a huge truth that you need to know. I found this in the bible and my love life has had meaning ever since....What is love?
1 Corinthians 13
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
When dating I ask these questions about him and then about my love towards him:
Am I patient? Is he patient?
Am I kind? Is he kind?
Am I jealous? Is he jealous?
Am I boastful? Is he boastful?
Am I proud? Is he proud?
Am I rude to him? Is he rude to me?
Am I self seeking, selfish? Is he?
Am I angered easily? Is he?
Am I keeping record of his wrongs?
Is he keeping record of mine?
Do I enjoy seeing him hurt?
Does he delight in seeing me hurt?
Am I protecting him?
Is he protecting me?
Do I trust him?
Does he trust me?
Do I believe in him?
Does he believe in me?
Love isn't deaf and dumb - just misinterpreted for selfishness and lust of the flesh.. "feelings" that are on the surface and not in the heart - dig into your heart.
God Bless
2006-09-26 02:29:44 · answer #9 · answered by skevans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give a chance to him . Find it out frm him y he has left dat gal and ask him y he left u .if he doesnt wanna say it then leave him and go by u r side . just ask his frnds abt him weather now he loves u truly and thten go ahead coz frnds know more abt dat. My frnd have d same experience and she had succeeded when she gave a chance for d guy for d second try .Just give him a chance
2006-09-26 02:28:28 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs.Edward cullen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋