What you should do when your 8 year old son told you that he just seen a sex (adult) film ?

Question

yesterday he played at his cousin's house. He saw his cousin & friends seen a sex (adult) movie and browsing internet about sex.
This is my first experience, my little son ...has been seen such kind of film and internet....I'm so worry...What should I do to protect it ???

Answer 1

Of course you should tell your sister what is going on in her house so she can put a stop to it(or sister in law) Then sit your kid down and tell him that what his cousins were doing was wrong, that it takes someone of poor character to sit there watching filth like that and to look that stuff up on the net, and that you are so proud of him for telling you and in that action you could tell right away that he knew it was wrong and that that was such a brave and great thing for him to do. It is thumbs up to you that he feels so comfortable with you to tell you these things, you must be doing something right to have such a responsible son. Kudos.

Answer 2

First of all, don't panic. For millions of years, kids have seen people and animals have sex. It's a part of life. Chances are he may think it's funny, or weird. But if you stress out, so will he.

Try saying this " Son, you know when you were over at ___ house and they were looking at grown up stuff? What did you think of that? Did you have any questions? Here's the thing...your cousins should not be showing stuff like that around you. There are things that grown ups do, and such, that are for people who are older. I want you to be my kiddo, and I want you to just be a kid and have fun and play. That stuff is not important, and if you see any more of that, you come and tell me, okay? And if you have any questions, you can come and talk to me, okay? Alright...who wants to go out and play....."

The key here is to make certain he does not feel guilty, that he can come and talk to you, and that it does not happen again. It's okay to say, "it's grown up stuff" and let Mom deal with it.

Answer 3

Find out how he feels about what he saw. I would say that some adults like to look at that, but it really isn't something little kids should watch. Ask him if he as questions, and then only answer what he wants to know. Let him know that is sex is how adults express love, but some kinds of pornography arent' about positive feelings, but about angry people doing angry things.Kids are generally ok with less information then adults would normally give. Talk to the cousin's parents. They need to know what is appropriate for a kid and what is not.

Answer 4

HAVE THE TALK. It's a little early, but you need to at least let him know what he saw and what it means. Tell him that it's something adults do, and supposed to be in their own homes, but there are some people out there who are sinning and that is how he ended up seeing that, well, lots of other stuff to. I can't really give you the talk in typing, you know what I'm saying. And, DO NOT LET HIM GO BACK THERE IF THERE IS NO ADULT SUPERVISION! No child should see that! I'd be so pissed if I were you! Where was the adult?

Answer 5

First of all, you should talk to the cousin's mother and see why they weren't being monitored. Since you know whats going on over there, you should think about not letting your son go there without you. There is no excuse for parents not monitoring their kids.

Answer 6

what the **** this kids are not monitored. Talk to the parent of this kids and tell them what happening. As much as possible explain to him that there are things that only adults are allowed to see and be very gently with it. Make sure to put out his curiousity about. He way too young to be thinking about what he saw and this might affect his personality when he grows up.

I hate irresponsible parents.

Answer 7

Inform his cousin's mother that she needs to pay attention to what the children in her house are doing online, and express to her that your son will not be going over there any more until she can supervise the children's online activities properly.

Answer 8

You need to sit with him and have a talk, and also need to talk to the parents to let them know whats going on, or just not let him play over there anymore. But you really need to talk with him about it and explain the difference between movies and real life.

Answer 9

go to your local library. they will have books about sex that are written for your son's age. read together and talk about it. explain that sex in real life is very different from what he sees in movies.

if you have a computer at home, you can set it so that your son can not look at adult content. talk to the cousin's family about blocking adult content from their computer.

Answer 10

first of all call the cousins parents and tell them what your child told you, and find out if its true. if it is dont allow your son over there with out you present to watch him.