My brother says a man should be able to have sex with as many women as he wants without the women knowing he is having sex with all of them (unless they specifically ask). I say no, that makes him a low-down dirty dog. I say a man or woman who's having sex with someone should either be monogamous or tell the future partner (and the current partner) that they are already having sex with someone and plan on continuing to do it, (or are planning on having sex with others) so the future partner has the opportunity to make a decision based on that knowledge, giving the future and current partner the option of going ahead with the "relationship" in an honest vein. What do you think? Please be serious with your answers and I'd appreciate it if only people over the age of 20 answered this question (I think people who have had time to be in more adult relationships would be better at giving me a more adult-like answer). Thank You
2006-09-25 18:30:51 · 26 answers · asked by candeekissez 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Seems a cultural conundrum.
What is *right* within a given culture and *value system* is sometimes *low down dirty* within another.
In polygamous relationships insofar as the usual precautions are observed, one should not have cause for concern.
;-)
2006-10-02 18:57:54 · answer #1 · answered by Lawrence R 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"My brother says a man should be able to have sex with as many women as he wants without the women knowing he is having sex with all of them (unless they specifically ask)."...this issue isn't exactly the same as the question. For either sex having intercourse with multiple people and not making your partner aware of it is morally wrong in my opinion. It's completely dishonest.
My opinion on your question in specific is that no they should not be having sex with others. If they are completely honest with each other then maybe it is acceptable; but certainly not something I would do personally. And I think that even if they are honest with each other they should take pains to make sure they are having safe sex.
Tabitha ~ 25yrs
2006-09-26 02:10:39 · answer #2 · answered by lionaashkevron 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you (your brother sounds like my brother). There are too many diseases out there to be casually having sex without informing your partner(s) of what they're getting into. I think anyone that feels the need to have more than one partner should be completely honest and that way there are no secrets and if someone does end up catching something (such as an STD), it's for them to deal with because they knew it was a possibility.
2006-09-26 01:36:41 · answer #3 · answered by makeitclap23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't speak for all but if I am in a relationship I
will stick to one partner, sexually that is. I think
is wrong if you are in a relationship and you
have numerous sexual partner, besides sleep-
around......that person might catch something
or end up with a very jealous person who will
hurt the other person psychically.
If your brother have many sexual partner I hope
he's using protection.
I think everyone would have different opinion
about men should able to have sex with as
many women as they want, to me if he is a real
man he would stick to one partner if he is in a
relationship. That goes the same with a woman,
as in if she is a true real woman....she will have
one partner only.
But you rarely hear any women sleeping
around or having numerous sexual partner.
2006-09-26 01:55:50 · answer #4 · answered by Kim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do agree with you and I do believe that the whole relationship thing would be much better off if honesty payed more of an important role than what it does. How can anyone start a relationship based on lies and expect it to last.
2006-09-26 01:37:54 · answer #5 · answered by mr. Bob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean, it's all about honesty. If your brother (who needs a firm hand, by the way ;-)) is dating women who are aware of and okay with the fact that he is sleeping with others, then more power to him, I guess. However, since he says that the women don't know that he is doing so, then yes, he is a total dog :-). I can't imagine that I would ever feel comfortable sleeping with someone who I knew was sleeping with other women...
2006-09-26 01:35:23 · answer #6 · answered by yumyum 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People who sleep with several people are more prone to end up with deseases. It is not safe. It is also very nasty because you don't know where they have been. Monogamous relationship is the way to go because you can have sex as many times as you want with one person and never have to worry about catching a desease.You can also feel free to try different things, experiment in different positions and places; because you feel more comfortable.
2006-09-26 01:44:37 · answer #7 · answered by rkb12584 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you. I think we can all find relationships at any level... casual or intense, without promiscuity coming into the picture. I guess part of the answer depends on how committed the rrelationship is and the number of other partners.
2006-09-26 01:36:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if they are in a "casual sex" relationship, rather than a committed relationship, I don't think its necessary to disclose who else you may be having a "casual sex" relationship with.
However, if one partner is of the opinion that they are in a committed relationship, then I believe it is immoral for the party with multiple partners not to disclose that this isn't the case.
2006-09-26 01:34:14 · answer #9 · answered by LadyRebecca 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i agree with you. i believe that if you are in a relationship with a person then you need to be honest with them. if you are in a committed monogamous relationship then sleeping with someone else is cheating plan and simple. if you are in a relationship with someone and you both want to see other people or its just a casual relationship then it's fine to see and sleep with other people. the main thing is that you are both honest about the status of your relationship and that it is mutually agreed upon.
2006-09-26 01:38:29 · answer #10 · answered by burn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋