how come men who tells me m the great hot gf and luv me to pieces, end up leavin me becos of 2 very common reason :1) commitment phobic 2) lying cheating flirting bastard.
i do admit i always rush into relationship. heck, they're soooo nice at first ;)
so m realy tired of things not working out. m juz so tired of feeling bad. is there any jerk alert out there? :) what should i do? i hate not having a bf cos then all i'd be doing is work work work! ladies.. help me out...tq!
2006-09-25 18:23:00 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unfortunately there are men whom see women as prey. Perhaps because you offer up yourself into relationships so quickly, you are showing yourself as a target for these people? Taking your time and having the other show themselves as they really are would be your best recourse. That, in my opinion, is why there used to be a long period of time for dating and engagements.
The help you need is the confidence in who you are and how to handle yourself with potential suitors. There has to be an initial attraction, but, after that you need to step back within yourself and look objectively at the man. You need to determine if there is an ulterior motive for their interests. If they are out to for a quick score it will become evident when they loose interest because you insist on a prolonged period of romance before any sexual behavior. Men you deem as jerks will, amazingly enough, drift away when they discover you have the confidence to support yourself.
There are good men out there. If you indeed want to fish for them you need to change the bait you have been working with. The men you desire will not be bothered by dating, romance, and all of that. Oddly, they will find you enjoyable and wish to spend more time with you.
Good luck in your searches....
2006-09-25 19:17:54 · answer #1 · answered by Paul 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you just have not found the guy that really loves you. I'm a guy & girls also tell me that I'm a nice guy & good candidate as a boyfriend. But they all get others as bf instead of me. What can I say same reason like you? I guess not. All I can do now is work & wait for my special one to appear when the time has come. After all, we can't force people to love us if they don't really love us. It's a complex chemisrty that I can't understand until now. So, until then, we both have to be patient & happy that we can still eat, talk, sleep & see the blue sky as a normal person compare to those are less fortunate. Be happy that you have most of the things compare with other (minus a boyfriend of course).
2006-09-25 18:45:21 · answer #2 · answered by CM C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you pretty much know your problem. You said that you rush into relationships. You need to take your time and get to know someone before you decide that you are together. Like for myself, I take my time to get to know the person before I jump into a relationship. The last girl that I was talking too, told me that she wanted to be my girlfriend and kept on telling me but I told her that I needed to get to know her more and spend more time with her. I wanted to find out the kind of person that she was and if she was worth getting into a relationship with. I am glad that I took the time because I found out some things that I didn't like about her character. So just take your time and you will find someone that you deserve that will treat you right.
2006-09-25 19:14:01 · answer #3 · answered by jslick95 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should relax. Not all men are asses. Take your time and talk to people who know them. Find out what the friends say. Make your judgments from there. It's a start, at least.
2006-09-25 18:29:49 · answer #4 · answered by Zephyr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah there are a tons of jurks just be careful. They look good and they tell you they are a nice guy. Wolf in sheeps clothing. There are tons of guys claiming they are nice when they are not.
2006-09-25 18:26:05 · answer #5 · answered by adobeprincess 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be careful who you choose...
Don't waste youself on people who only seek to be a playa' for a moment. Anyone can do that.
Treat yourself better first, and you'll find a honey.
2006-09-25 18:27:10 · answer #6 · answered by LovePinkPuffies 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
don't you wish you were uglier and attract only the good ones?
2006-09-25 18:25:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-25 18:34:02 · answer #8 · answered by numba_1_babii 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋