There is a girl that im madly in love with and shes my roommate. ive given her money to help her out and this and that. but i found out she doesn't want to date me because she doesn't want to lose the friendship that we have even though we have only know each other for 4 months now. Everytime im in a relationship their is a lot of females that tells me that they wish there were more guys out there like me but when im single (like i have been for 2 1/2 years) i can never find them. Am i just trying to hard or what? Any advise?
2006-09-25 18:09:05 · 25 answers · asked by cobra69_68467 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Awww..it does sound like you may be trying just a bit too hard for a girl. It is very sweet that you love this person, and it's sad to hear that she might not return that feeling. If she says she doesn't want to lose the friendship, it sounds like most likely she's just not interested and trying to say so in the nicest way possible. That is a classy girl.
Girls like guys who leave a little mystery as to whether they are interested or not. That doesn't mean we want as many games played as a playstation, but it does mean we want a little bit of a chase.
You sound like an absolute sweetheart and I hope you continue to be that way. Nice guys always finish FIRST. I'm slowly changing that old saying that they finish last. It's not true. When a girl really wants to settle down, most likely she's going to have already had the 'bad boy' in her life and tossed him out on his sorry behind.
2006-09-25 18:15:59 · answer #1 · answered by Rachael 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you're trying WAY too hard. "[I don't] want to lose the friendship we have" is woman speak for "I never want to date you." You see, most women cannot bear to tell a man "no" -- more to save themselves the guilt of having to do so than for the cause of saving the guy pain. Very few of them realize that beating around the bush hurts worst of all in the long run!
You need to realize that women do not like the guys they say they like. I mean, all you have to do to prove this to yourself is to look at the guys they actually date. Women don't REALLY want to date jerks, but they crave a little excitement and a lot of confidence in their men. You can give her those characteristics by simply being a cool gentleman. I recommend you have a look at these columns for more information along these lines: http://www.askmen.com/dating/doclove/index.html
(I also own the guy's book; it costs about the same as a college textbook and it's right on as far as I can tell.)
Good night!
2006-09-26 01:35:32 · answer #2 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stop pushing the issue and give the girl time and if she decides she wants to date you, fine, if not, let it go. I'm going through the same thing with my roommate. He keeps talking about wanting to date me but he is my best friend (known him like 7 months) and I am so afraid of losing him as a friend if something happened. So, there is nothing wrong with you, if she loves and respects you enough to not wanna lose the friendship.
2006-09-26 01:16:26 · answer #3 · answered by IHateWaltDavis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be to simply bang the local skank and forget about a relationship.
A hooker on West 32nd Street, a box of condoms, whatever the cost of water is to take a shower afterwards and wash your clothes is still cheaper than a girlfriend and a lot less trouble.
If you want companionship buy a dog.
2006-09-26 01:20:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 months is not very long at all.... Give it time, get to know each other, likes, dislikes, fav movies, foods, ETC..
My best friends is also my roomate, and I cant look at him for anything more than what we have, because of the fact that he is the best friend anyone could ever have.. I guess if things ever change, we will be the first to know..
So hey, until then, just enjoy each others company & the friendship you have so far, and if its meant to be anything more, then it will!
2006-09-26 01:16:07 · answer #5 · answered by Katz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've been frineds for 4 months? wow
4 months is nothing, that works out to be like a day. if she says she dosen't want to ruin the friendship, then it's an excuse. she dosen't like you like that, but she cares enough to keep you as a friend, and you should. Friendships last longer so be happy with that, in time she may come around to see she cares about you t oo. but don't pin everything on 4 months
2006-09-26 01:13:16 · answer #6 · answered by JackieH 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sound like you are that typical guy that says things like "maybe I'm too nice", "girls just want t o be friends", "what's wrong with me".
The problem is that we want a MAN not a girl. Girls just say they wish there was more like you to be nice. It's true we like manly men!
i'm not saying we love an a**hole, but we sure don't like sissy guys.
Quit trying so hard to be the nice right guy. Be yourself and eventually somone is going to like it, don't dwell on the ones that aren't interested.
2006-09-26 01:16:19 · answer #7 · answered by stlou_girl_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yu seem like a really great guy. Don't know why you're single, but you shouldnt focus on that. Focus on everything else in your life and just let love come to you. Of course, there's no harm in answering your physical needs when they arise... ;)
xoxo
jessica
2006-09-26 01:17:19 · answer #8 · answered by Jaded Heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah man you're trying too hard just let it happen someone will come along eventually. Just keep doin what you're doin, my girlfriend and I were friends for 4 years before we got together and we just hit 2 yrs together
2006-09-26 01:32:50 · answer #9 · answered by russ77478 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Madly in love ? For giving money? What's in mind? Love comes when it comes .
2006-09-26 01:15:41 · answer #10 · answered by yilan s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋