My bf didn't like me to dance without him and i already promise him that i will quit from my dance group in 1 condition.My condition is everytime there is a dance presentation (with partner like ballroom), he must attend the practices no matter what happen (except if he has a good reason that he cannot come to the practices) and he agree with my condition.If he didn't do the condition, i will dance again with my group.But the problem now is he didn't come to our dance practices yesterday bcoz he wake up late. I said to him that he already didn't do my condition and now i want to dance again with my group.He said that he didn't promise me that i can join my dance group if he didn't come to our dance practices.He also said that if i bravery, i will join my dance group again bcoz i already promise him that i will quit from my dance group.What do you think about this.Tq 4 the answer..
2006-09-25 18:07:21 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your boyfriend sounds really controlling. it sounds like he has an issue with trust. i don't think you should have to give something like this up because he decides he doesn't want to show up. i think you should stick with your dance group and re-evaluate this relationship.
2006-09-29 17:27:01 · answer #1 · answered by willowprincess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first...i think your boyfriend is insecure. That is something in your life you obvious love to do. And with most dances there is a partner involved. Knowing that you can't have a partener, your dancing days are pretty much done. He did not show up, because already showed him he has power over you by excepting the no partener deal. He knows you wont do it if he is not there...so why be there, if he doesn't want you to do it in the first place. And to over sleep is a very stupid reason. This guy has learned already that he can control you. Is this how you are going to live your life?you promised on a condition, now he is trying to hold you only to the piont of you promising to quit, but his part is only a condition, that he shows up,,,if he doesn't you can not dance.
2006-09-25 18:16:49 · answer #2 · answered by Chocolate_Bunny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pls forgive him this time and set your last condition instead of beating about the bush arguing about did or didn't promise before. Once it is clear, then both must stick to it.
Just curious to know --- this is just a simple arrangement, what about those real big ones to come along. I think both of you have too strong a principle which may damage your relationship. True love comes from sacrifices and understandings.
2006-09-25 18:18:31 · answer #3 · answered by dolphin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in a dance troupe, so be it, don't let anyone stop you from dancing. If your wanting to make a career out of dancing, the your boyfriend needs to trust you. Were you dancing before you met your boyfriend, if so, he definately has no right asking you to stop. He is the one with thw proble, not you, you just keep dancing and have a ball, let your boyfriend be alone with his silly insecurities.
2006-09-25 18:11:11 · answer #4 · answered by Linda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're talking about quitting a "group" dance, WHY? you're not practicing with one person alone, no steady partner. why is he so insecure? why are you letting him control you?
it dance class, if that is your ambition, he should not be making ultimatums and he certainly shouldn't be standing in the way. you need to be important to yourself, he couldn't even get out bed on time to come watch.
do what is right for you, live your dreams, your reality. time for him to take the reality check.
2006-09-25 18:15:16 · answer #5 · answered by gelfin1028 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
r u married to him with a kid..?u cant leave him as u want a secure normal childhood for ur kid...?is it that complicated??come on..! u have just one life to live.live it the way u want.sacrifices r not worth it.believe me.do whatever gives happiness to u.y do u have to play this condinon and quitting game.u love to dance and u want to be with ur group then do that.he will figure out a way to adjust with your likes and dislikes and u will have to do the same for him.life is too small to imply conditions.live it as much as u can ! god bless !
2006-09-25 18:21:13 · answer #6 · answered by S S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say why he doesn't want you to dance without him? But this sounds like petty jealousy. So dance your a** off girl.
2006-09-25 18:21:12 · answer #7 · answered by up2sumpthun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dance. You shouldn't have to stop doing something you enjoy because someone else wants you to. Even if he is your bf.
2006-09-25 18:11:29 · answer #8 · answered by JEHLERS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow ! dance partners are the least of your problems. just don't have any kids until you grow up a bit. don't mean to sound brash, but the whole situation sounds childish.
2006-09-25 18:12:38 · answer #9 · answered by Justin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok not sure how old you are - but NEVER give something up that you enjoy doing - if he loves you he'll understand if he doesn't he just wants control over you - don't loose yourself and the things you enjoy - YOU'LL REGRET IT.
2006-09-25 18:15:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋