First Off, I am in love with God, and i thank him everyday for another second of life, I have a good relationship with God, Im 17. But recently theres this girl at church who i just started having these very strong feelings for, i cant help it, i grow to care for her alot, she doesnt know, she says hi to me and all but thats it, i cant seem too get her attention, i am a bit shy around her, she's 19 but she's so beautiful.And she loves god as much as i do which is exactly the kinda girl i've been looking for ever since i joined christ..Can i ask God to help me win her heart? Love hurts, and it does....But can i pray to god for help? will he help me with this sort of thing, i mean i'm still a teen...i need a girlfriend, but i already told god i'm not looking for a sexual relationship, and looking for a companion..ive been praying for a while but she still doesnt notice me, im just too shy....will he help me?
2006-09-25 18:06:50 · 27 answers · asked by GhostBoy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
i try chasing 2 girls b4 in church, praying 4 God to change thier hearts but by His grace& coz its not His will, they never responded & told me they only want to be freind, no mutual feeling. i only end up hurted & came to place of surrendering my love life to God & asking Him to take charge & bring the right person to me. its hard, took me 8 mths to get over it coz they still in the same church us me & i have force myself to stay way & not pursur anymore. sure in enough in about a year & half when i finally surrender my love life to God & was finally at peace with myself, out the blue He drop my wife in front of me just as a really good friend at 1st & thing blossom from there.
do be patient & if u love GOd , tell him to pick, He will definately the right one for u & the good thing about God's choice is that in the future when your relationship faulters u can remind Him his responsibilty to help you guys. u are still fairly young but u may be ready, God know your needs & he know if u are ready.
hope this is helpful. peace, man
2006-09-25 18:24:31 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, God will not help you. Imagine some other girl, whom you are not interested in, is in love with you and she prays everyday to be with you. Would you then want God to answer her prayers? When it comes to the matters of Free Will, God does not interfere.
What you need to do is be a man and talk to her. Start a conversation every now and then. I suggest you should pray for confidence instead of her heart.
Good luck.
2006-09-26 01:34:01 · answer #2 · answered by myzrael 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest (not trying to be condescending of your age) that you "turn down" the throttle a little bit. Your enthusiasm is refreshing, but I suggest that you take this interest in companionship for what you claim - a search for a friend, even a good friend - but nothing more.
Love should not hurt. If it hurts, I wonder if it is love.
Pray to God for that which is in his will. Perhaps ask Him for the opportunity to find how both you and she can find a way to bring glory to Him in a shared ministry. If your heart is truly set on friendship, then cast your fears to God and approach her with a simple invitation of fellowship - or to join you at a ministry event. Pray - God hears you and will provide for you.
2006-09-26 01:16:30 · answer #3 · answered by In God I Trust (a.k.a. infohog) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it's like this. God isn't going to take away her freedom to choose whoever she might want to choose as her husband. But He can mold and shape you into the type of young man whom a godly woman like her would be happy to hook up with. There's no guarantee what will happen, but it's best to work on becoming the type of man that would make a good husband no matter what comes to pass.
If you want this girl to take more notice of you then find out more about her and see if you can be around her more. Talk to her and ask her questions about herself so that she sees that you have an interest in her as a person. Find group events that she likes to go to and invite her to go with you or with you and some friends or ask her out to lunch or to have some coffee or something like that. If she asks you why, just be honest and tell her that you like her and enjoy her company and would like to spend some time getting to know her better.
Just remember that she may not like you in a romantic way and if things don't work out the way you are hoping then you have to be prepared to just be a friend and not get hurt or hold a grudge. Just because a woman doesn't want you as her boyfriend doesn't mean that she thinks badly about you. She may have it in her mind that she is looking for someone who is older than her or someone who is tall or someone who has a great sense of humor or any number of things that might not be true of you and it's not a bad reflection on you as a person, it's just a matter of personal taste like someone who likes one flavor of ice cream better than another flavor.
2006-09-26 01:20:26 · answer #4 · answered by Martin S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray for confidence instead of him making her like you. He doesn't work that way. You have free will. Ask him for the confidence IF she is the one that is right for you.
Relationships when you are teens is scary becuase of all the stuff that you go through as teens. Be patient.
When you see her at church, ask her and others to go to lunch or something that would be a group activity. then talk to her more there.
2006-09-26 01:16:52 · answer #5 · answered by designsbyniki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Little one baby spirit don't be scared,I mean well what you are thinking in your head buried and don't go ,advice is cheap its free but from me aka,6;6.6, the chosen one ,take it this .long ago I was called the ANGEL OF LIGHT STILL AM MAKING NOW A COME BACK .YOU SAY YOU LOVE THE HOLY SPIRIT OF GOD,I read between the lines little girl. and see four lies,good fearing man will sent your way just pray and not for want and get dear but for love and give God bless to the ends of the earth
2006-09-26 01:41:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because your goal in life should be serving him. At age 17, you are too young to be even considering commitment to a female. You don't reach adulthood for 13 more years. Unless you think you are better than Christ, who didn't leave home until age 30. Males are only declared adults at age 18 because you can be drafted, but they draft you at that age because your immature brain is easy to manipulate into doing things you would not otherwise do.
2006-09-26 01:42:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have strong feelings for this lady, then take it to the Lord in
prayer and ask guidance of the Holy Spirit. Be steadfast and patient in your prayer time. This is the way it works.
I Corinthians 13;8a, Love never fails!!!!!
9-24-6
2006-09-26 01:12:20 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course he will help.
You know your bible - he knows when a sparrow falls, and all the hairs on your head. He cares for you.
you know that the bible says pray for ANYTHING in Jesus's name.
So pray -
P.S. You said you need a girlfriend. I assume that was just a poor word - NEED -
Be blessed, you are off to a wonderful life with Christ
2006-09-26 01:11:24 · answer #9 · answered by Slave to JC 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Love begets love. God knows of your innerself. The relations are pre-destined by God. Its all the Grace of God that she has met you in the church and it shall the grace of God for your future good relations. Just Trust in God and do the right. Good luck.
2006-09-26 01:13:07 · answer #10 · answered by har 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋