I am pretty over weight. None of the guys in my grade will date me because of my size. It really hurts after awhile. How do I deal with it till I lose some weight?
2006-09-25 17:53:10 · 17 answers · asked by XxXTaRaXxX 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When I was in school...I never made fun of girls by their weight..
If i met you when i was younger...you would have met a nice polite young man...that would have talked to you and may have hung around or even went out wiith.. Some boys like heavy girls but are afraid thier friends will make fun of them...They will grow out of that when they get older..
2006-09-25 17:59:48 · answer #1 · answered by hononegah1988 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Boys don't usually start getting interested in girls for a few years after girls get interested in boys. This means (for the boys that ARE interested) there are plenty of girls to choose from. When boys are young, looks play a big part in deciding who they want to spend time with.
It usually takes awhile before boys think about girls as companions and look for interests and personality that will make a girl a really fun person to know. By the way, the same thing is true of girls getting to know boys.
It takes some time (usually well into your 20s) getting to know yourself and other people before you see boys as people rather than a source of attention and potential boyfriend. Meanwhile, you could be a great friend and funny, terrific artist or volunteer, a gardner, cook, math wiz and daughter. If you focus on those things (or whatever you are interested in) you will be a happier person and eventually boys will recognise and appreciate those qualities in you.
By the way, when boys grow up and become men, some of them will be attracted to full-figured women, just like some of them will be attracted to smaller women. People have different preferences about looks but just about everyone likes people who are fun, honest, confident, and kind. You can be sure to have great comfort and confidence by becoming the best person you can be.
Meanwhile, try not to see your value as a function of what boys think of you. It's just not a very good measuring tool right now.
2006-09-26 02:14:21 · answer #2 · answered by Cassandra B 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
~You don't have to lose a single pound. ONLY lose weight if YOU want to. Don't lower yourself to other people's standards. If you feel miserable about your body, then do something. If you are happy with the way you are, don't budge. When a guy won't date you because of what you weigh, he is not mature enough. Don't waste your energy on that type!! Love yourself, first. You sound pretty young. Just know that as you get older, people show their true colors a lot more. Be who you are.
2006-09-26 01:04:32 · answer #3 · answered by Rachael 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Weight can matter if you let it matter. That crap will stop after highschool once your in college all that goes away for the most part. because people stop looking for what i call " the heavenly bodies" and start looking for a woman to settle down with. although that means the guy/girls are settling for a little less. I know when i went into college last year i didnt have many dates since then i go out every night with someone. most of them I consider extremely out of my league.
2006-09-26 00:58:04 · answer #4 · answered by sugrdady03 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to lose weight, than do it for you, not for some guy. There are plenty of men out there who don't even notice, and those guys are the real men. Honey, don't let it hurt you, there will be a few guys who see you for you, and those are the guys that deserve a chance with a princess like you. Real men care about a woman because they make them think, make them love, make them care. If a guy dosen't like you for your size, than he is a loser. sure every guy in high school wants the head cheerleader, but they want her for a night, the sweet good hearted chick, with a fun personality are the ones they marry. Wait a few years and you;ll see its pretty, perky, skinny, big titted , twits that are getting divorced because their husbands are cheats while you will spend the rest of your life in love.
2006-09-26 01:09:33 · answer #5 · answered by JackieH 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends. Are you obese? I think most of the weight issue is because of what we are taught to perceive as beauty (runway models, magazines, celebs, ect.) If you have a secure personallity and are a genuine person, then I think there are guys out there that would appreciate that. If not, then the guys you are dealing with are just immature and slightly retarded. Be yourself, show your strenghts and you will find the man for you.
2006-09-26 01:04:34 · answer #6 · answered by angeleyes 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Size isn't the issue, based on the fact that your still in grade school means that peer influence is a major factor
2006-09-26 00:57:58 · answer #7 · answered by russ77478 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your in high school or middle school dont worry about stupid boys, get your education and lose you weight then if you go to college then worry about boys college boys are sometimes better anyways. Not by much though. lol
2006-09-26 00:57:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Trust me it doesn't get easier with age...men are pigs,it's all about having the hottest girlfriend to show off to their friends! I am in my 20's and have gained weight too....I still get treated like S H I T because men want a thin women,even if they are ugly,it's all about the size of your pants. sorry,but hope you have better luck than me!
2006-09-26 00:58:02 · answer #9 · answered by sugar_n_spice 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Maybe its not that you are over weight, most guys like girls that are confident, you have to learn to love yourself in order for others to love you.
2006-09-26 00:57:25 · answer #10 · answered by rucrazy? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋