I broke up with my girlfriend of two months. We had a pretty close relationship, but there were issues of trust and jelousy from both of us. She is 41 divorced with two children and I am 32 never married and no kids. I wonder now did I make a mistake. She 'melted down' this last Saturday night after we had drinks. The 'melt down' was over her making comments about a woman in the bar who happened to be a friend of mine's wife. I went to say hi to my friend and his wife after I recongnized them. Shortly after we were talking to a friend of her's and we discussing my boat. He made the comment he wanted to get to know anyone with a boat better. I pulled my phone out to show him some pics from the lake, which include women friends of mine, who are just friends. She filpped out and and said to take her hom now. We went back to my house and she collected her things and drover home drunk after I said that was not a smart move. Did I make the right decision? She wants to stay togth
2006-09-25 17:32:24 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No mistake there. If this happened after two months, in ten months you'd be physically hurting each other. Find a chic who doesn't drink much
2006-09-25 17:37:24 · answer #1 · answered by Foss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's insecure & jealous. Sounds like you guys don't have communication going on. Sounds like what happened is about some things in the past that have been building up with no release & no resolution.
'If its histerical, its historical.'
She's driving drunk & she's 41? She's no kid. why do you want to be with someone who is immature & may have a drinking problem? Is she a drama queen? I suggest counselling if you two really want to stay together. You 2 probably are not broken up, as she was drunk during this time & may not look at it as such. Is she jealous 'cause she has 2 kids & an ex & you don't? Unhealthy competition in a relationship s not good. Talk to her.Find out if this relationship is worth saving and worth investing counselling in. Good luck.
2006-09-26 00:45:10 · answer #2 · answered by Bronweyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two months and she had stuff over at your place already? I think someone was rushing the process IMHO.
If you want to give it another try, you're going to have to start a lot slower. She seems to be insecure with respect to her status with you. Not knowing the actual conversations that took place makes this a difficult question but she probably needs reassurance that you are not seeing other women. However, she also needs to know that you have female friends and that is not going to change just because she's in the picture (so to speak).
Also remember that at least some of her behavior was the result of being drunk. Alcohol can do wonderous things to perception. You may want to consider whether you want to handle more situations like this if she gets that intoxicated.
2006-09-26 00:40:36 · answer #3 · answered by eriurana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there ... It did not work out. It is best to keep any info about your past our of her eyes an same for you. it is none of your business of her past either.
But there will always be friends from both sides that are willing to keep each of you as friends. This is great but you really should put those pics away in a hidden file for keep sakes and only for your eyes.
But keep in mind that if she is able to get mad at you over that but don't think you should get mad over her past then you are with the wrong woman. You sound to be open minded but she don't seem to be so much.
It might not work out. It never worked out for me with that kind of a woman. She must find you as a great catch and feels you could do better then her or she would not be so insecure.
Understand the she is not very secure because you might be the catch of her life thing. You need to either cater to her insecurity's or get out of it.
2006-09-26 00:41:37 · answer #4 · answered by Don K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're kidding right? At 32 I'd expect you to have the capacity to make the decision for yourself.
Is this a pattern? Is her jealousy warranted? Could you do better? That last question is serious - is she the best you can get? If not, cut the lines.
2006-09-26 00:39:03 · answer #5 · answered by over_educated_under_everything 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking up with her just proves to her even more that you don't really love her that much as anyone else.
The truth usually comes out when you're drunk...whether you mean it or not!
Btw, you shouldn't have photos of other women on such a personal device as a mobile phone-it's betrayal! And who knows what you think and do when you look at it at night!
If they're so good, e-mail it to them!
2006-09-26 00:42:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes...it sounds like a good thing that you dumped her. She sounds really immature for being the older one of the relationship. Maybe her jealousy and immature mentality level is what caused her divorce in the first place...keep looking...there is better out there.
2006-09-26 00:38:46 · answer #7 · answered by pritty_princess_c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drunk people are out of control in first place. If you love her just wait until she puts the peaces together to find out what she did wrong or not.
You can wait.
2006-09-26 00:39:47 · answer #8 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you like her then maybe it was a mistake but it sounds to me like she has a lot of insecurities some that come from being a single mother some from getting to be an older gal on the dating seen what ever you choose good luck sounds like you'll need it
2006-09-26 00:36:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a break, if she was drunk. And if the "friends" were beautiful woman in bikinis... for the LOVE of God... delete them from your camera.........it's a matter of respect.
2006-09-26 00:35:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋