hey justin again i need answers fast, she is havibg this major break down, she wants to kill herself & the baby cos she thinks she is going to be a bad mother... ive quietened her down for the moment but, wondering is this normal??? i havent done antthing to her... she just went off... ... ... ... shes asleep,... ... ... while shes asleep, a little help...., thinking bout when she wakes uo to take her out for a nice dinner, and show how much she means to me and our bub, is this a good idea?? any suggestions (seriously no jokes)
2006-09-25 17:27:24 · 28 answers · asked by Justin 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
well shes awake and moving, she is in a slightly beter mood, im just staying calm, little bit scared but calm
2006-09-25 17:40:37 · update #1
she says she is sorry for going off, and i forgave her, she has gone for a walk around, just her... no baby
2006-09-25 17:42:09 · update #2
ok bub is awake, have him here with me, he is playing on the floor with his toys, im not game enough to leace him alone with her, how to explain it to her without her getting mad? she is a pretty ezy going woman
2006-09-25 17:45:53 · update #3
It might not be a good idea to try to handle this situation alone, even though she has calmed down now, that doesn't mean she won't start back up but this time it could be alot worse she could actually hurt herself or the baby. Taking her out would be nice but that is to help her you have to find something to let her know that she is a good mother. Right now for whatever reason she doesn't think she is a good mother she needs to know that she is. How old is the baby, from the sounds of it if he/she is on the floor playing with toys the age is probably 7months or older, tell her that she has come this far and that the baby is doing just fine because she is a good mom or show her all the things that she has given for her child. Help her to understand that the baby needs her love and warmth because there is nothing like a mothers love...
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2006-09-25 21:22:30 · answer #1 · answered by baby gurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dinner out won't help her one bit. It may stress her even more because she's out of shape, doesn't have anything to wear, etc.
You need to take her to her doctor immediately. If you can wait to the morning, be absolutely certain that she is not alone with the baby. Not for a minute. Many, many women with post-partum depression kill or harm their babies.
You might see if grandma or grandpa can take the baby for 2 or 3 days. Get your wife on some meds, clean the house top to bottom, stock in some easy to cook meals, let her get tons of sleep. Talk to her genly and tell her how big a gift she is in your life and how you are certain she will be the most amazing mother.
Maybe buy her the book by Brooke Shields. When is is a few steps closer to being well again she could read it. Right now it would only anger her.
Good luck and don't let that baby out of your eyes. Your wife needs a break and your help.
2006-09-26 00:32:38 · answer #2 · answered by ssssss 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is your girlfriend pregnant or a new mom? If she is pregnant, then it's normal to question whether you will be a good mom. I do it everyday as I am nearing my final trimester.
However, if she is a new mom, she may be seriously suffering from post-partum depression, a condition that needs to be taken seriously.
If I were you, I would call your local crisis intervention hotline -- you can get the number from your phone book -- the counselor on the line may be able to assist you in determining how serious her threat is. Also, call her doctor and advise him or her of your girlfriend's condition. Finally, be there for her and support her -- she needs your support now more than ever.
I can tell you are really concerned about her and the baby... please call the crisis intervention hotline... many are available 24hrs a day, 7 day a week.
I wish you, her and the baby nothing but the best...
2006-09-26 00:37:19 · answer #3 · answered by flladygator 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call the suicide hot-line in your area. This way you can be certain of the answers. You cannot be certain here.
If you don't know the suicide hot-line in your area, then call 911 and ask for it. Yes, this most definitely sounds like an emergency and you will not be abusing the 911 line by calling.
Don't be scared of her getting mad if she finds out that you are calling these numbers. Suicide threats are serious and so are threats to kill a baby.
Call them now and get a hold of a professional before your girlfriend's depression gets the better of her!
2006-09-26 00:34:05 · answer #4 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is therapy, leave now you only look stupider if you let her steal your heart away and drain the life out of it. she can do this dumping on her mom her sis or your bro but you can handle this best by not being there see you gonna do this the rest of your life and this ain't love it's a whipping and your heart will look like 22 minutes of the allmen bros whipping post if you like it some guys really get hot and want to get iton whe there like this and half don't so you gotta reason to be insecure or does it have opportunities or are your just a brut for punishment. no game here just play col and step out of this you can't make it better til she cools off and don't get in to it when you come back just find a different drummer for a while and she can ***** at anybody and then she can sort out what all the emotions are a bout her she ain't abut you, she having a fit and you could be feeling better if you take charge of finding the door for while.
2006-09-26 00:45:50 · answer #5 · answered by bev 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like your wife has Post Partem Depression and you need to get her to a Dr. I take a good anti Depressent Effexor
Her Homes are all messed up after having the baby and two chemicals in the brain usually get out of wack and cause the condition. It is very normal.Talk to her Dr NOW.
2006-09-26 00:39:01 · answer #6 · answered by LauraP 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Here is my question. An hour ago you posted a question about your girlfreind being pregnant and asked if you should marry her. If your girlfriend is pregnant, why are you saying that she wants to kill herself and the baby is playing on the floor beside you? You shouldn't take advantage of helpful people that are trying to give you advice to protect your family.
2006-09-26 01:13:06 · answer #7 · answered by momoftwo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very serious situation. Women can get so depressed after having a baby that they do kill their children and themselves. Do not leave her alone and DEFINITELY do not leave her alone with the baby. Call her doctor immediately and find out what you should do. You need to get her help before she hurts herself or your baby. Please do something for her, this is really serious. If you don't know what else to do call 911. They'll help you.
2006-09-26 00:36:04 · answer #8 · answered by Sarrah 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
{TAKE HER TO HOSPITAL AS SOON AS POSSIBLE THIS IS THE MATTER OF TWO LIVES}
2006-09-26 00:42:53 · answer #9 · answered by Hinata 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Justin, I am not no professional but i will give you my thoughts ok! Take her out like you saud and then maybe try to talk her into going and seeing her doctor. Does she take her prenatal pills, is she on any other type of medicines. She really needs to see a doctor about this. It is common for some women to get very depressed and emotional. But I really recommend you talk to her and take her to the doctors. I hope this helps and I hope things work out for you guys!!
2006-09-26 00:32:47 · answer #10 · answered by dez7dupree 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋