i am going on a cruise in March from 3-10th and it for my sister wedding i want to go but it is in the same week of my son birthday which is on the 9th of march and i do not know what to do bc me and my husband really do not want to miss the his birthday we were thinking about taking him but i do not know if we can afford it. It would cost ONE WHOLE pay check to get him a ticket. My mom is already paying for me to go and my husband has to pay half for himself bc she is paying the rest so i do not know what to do we really can not afford to take him i do not think. PLEASE HELP WHAT SHOULD I DO NOT GO? OR GO? or maybe find away to take him?
2006-09-25 17:27:23 · 14 answers · asked by knowssignlanguage 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
by the way he will be turning 5 in march
2006-09-25 17:51:44 · update #1
Your Obligation is to your Son, First and Foremost. Your son should not have to take a backseat for anyone, which includes Sister. Even if you found a way to take everyone, just preplan now and ask yourself how much time will you actually devote to your son. After the wedding, after the reception, maybe after the party i'm sure they're going to have after hours. Children are a lot smarter than people give them credit for, and they remember a lot more than you may think also. I Understand this is your sister's wedding a very big day for indeed. and a lot of thought and planning probably went into this wedding on the cruise, But again you and your husband chose to have a child together and that alone is your first duty. He shouldn't have to wait for a makeup party because mom and dad want to go party elsewhere. Mother's day is once a year and I'm sure on time everyyear your husband comes thru for you with something to wish you Happy Mothers Day. Your Birthday Anniversary is every year and I'm sure the people you love On YOUR Special day make sure it's their #1 priority to wish you a Happy Birthday, I think you should inform everyone that Your son comes first and though you would love to be there for your sister, Your sons Birthday takes top billing.
remember Children have feelings too, and they know deep down when they've been wrong though they might not say anything. Choices are free and easy , but paying the consenquences of your choices is the killer
2006-09-25 17:49:03 · answer #1 · answered by J Truth 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your son will have many birthdays and hopefully your sister will only have one wedding. Your son will most likely not remember much about his 5th birthday so go ahead and have a good time. Look at this as a nice weekend getaway to enjoy with your husband. Spend the money you dont spend on buying another ticket on some nice bday gifts. You have no reason to feel guilty. Celebrate his birthday on the 2nd of March or the 11th, Friday or Sunday. The point is that you dont have choose one or the other. You can do both. Go to your sister's wedding and celebrate with the little guy when you get home or before you leave. I dont remember a thing about my 5th bday, do you? I remember every detail about my wedding plans and I would remember very much that my sister wasnt there. Go.
2006-09-26 01:01:04 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah J 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Will another relative be caring for him while you are away? They can handle the birthday itself, then you can celebrate again when you get back from the cruise. Your son can open a big gift package from you while you're away (this would be a good idea anyways, even if it weren't his birthday, since he will be missing you).
Or, since he is only turning 5 and likely can't read a calendar yet, just pretend like his birthday is March 10th or 11th that year and celebrate it then as if no date change had taken place. He won't know the difference.
He just needs to have some sort of nice birthday experience. It doesn't matter what day you throw the party.
2006-09-26 01:46:43 · answer #3 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Weigh your choices:
- you didn't mention his age, will he even remember this b-day?
- will the cruise really be worth it if you have a critter strapped to your hip?
- you and your husband are entitled to have some time alone, how can you pass up an almost fully paid for vacation?
- will you be kicking yourself in the *** for mising your sisters wedding?
- Is there a place where your son can stay while your away that you feel comfortable wiht?
Most kids know they have a b-day, but really have no clue of an actuall date. I say plan the critter a fun party, go on the cruise, reconnect with your husband, have fun while you have a chance. Most people don't get a chance to enjoy their husbands when they have kids. Don't pass it up. How would you feel if your sister missed your wedding? I say go for it. Enjoy your husband, the cruise, the family. you won't get to enjoy all the fun of a cruise if you bring your son. Pretned your single, and you met your husband on the cruise, rediscover each other as man and woman rather than mom and dad, you'll be better parents for it in long run. have fun
2006-09-26 00:52:21 · answer #4 · answered by JackieH 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should tell your sister that she should pay for your son to be on the cruise. How could she plan her wedding for the whole week of her nephews birthday. If her wedding was 1 day you would not have a problem, but she is the one insisting that her wedding last a week.
2006-09-26 10:10:31 · answer #5 · answered by ee 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't bring a nine year old on a cruise. for everyone's sake. Go on the cruise and have the time of your life togehter the two of you and gently explain to Jr you'll be celebrating his birthday when you get back...or before. Call him from port on his birthday, he'll love getting a special long distance call from some exotic locale. And get him a really cool pirate hat
2006-09-26 00:44:01 · answer #6 · answered by Foss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and enjoy yourself immensely. Your son will not even know at age 5. You can celebrate when you return. If it becomes important through the years, explain it to him honestly. A marriage is a once in a lifetime event and birthdays are every year. Family takes hugging and understanding.
2006-09-26 00:54:28 · answer #7 · answered by Joe Cool 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if your mom can possibly lend you the money to buy him a ticket and you can pay her back, little by little. I wouldn't want to miss the little guys birthday either and you have to be there for your sister so I think that is the best bet.
2006-09-26 00:34:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would go enjoy yourself. I'm sure that you and ur husband pro bally haven't been on a vacation alone in quite some time... I think it would be good for you. Though you will miss ur sons birthday- it can be celebrated when you come back. I'm tellin ya- GO HAVE FUN!!!!!
2006-09-26 00:57:30 · answer #9 · answered by ms mary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go this is your sister's wedding just have a party before or after depends on how old he but he probably wont notice and if you have it before you go hell probably like that better.
2006-09-26 00:41:50 · answer #10 · answered by Shonreaq G 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋