It's a question that is getting me mixed up...... why again do we have to marry christians or anyone who believes in God..... my dad has been so protective on who i date and this guy that likes me/ wants to ask me out but ill have to say no becuase he's not christian...... is that bad to get angry about??? and why shouldit be the right thing to do???
2006-09-25 17:07:04 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
This is completly about Christianity. The Bible, in 2 Corinthians 6:14 says to not be unequally yoked. That means we are not to be in a romantic situation with someone who is not a Christian. Many people think that they can turn people to Christ while there in a marraige. However, this just does not happen. Instead, more than likely the Christian will be pulled down by the Non-Christian, or will become stressed out in the relationship leading to continous arguements. By following what the Bible says, your dad is protecting you from possible situations that could harm you.
2006-09-25 17:14:04 · answer #1 · answered by nom_de_plume30 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart, your dad has your best interest in mind. Your dad is a Christian, you are a christian. Do you want your children to go to church? Are you willing to go to church with out your spouse? It would be much easier for you if you have someone that is fully supportive of your life and your values. Marriage is hard enough with out adding stresses into the mix. Life decisions are not about right and wrong. Life decisions are about making a future good home for your children and pretty much the only way to do that is to find someone of similar values. Your dad wont approve and you can choose to date this wonderful guy anyway, but there are alot of othe wonderful guys that believe more about what you believe. Make the choice, but dont be one of those people 10 years from now that doesnt realize what your choices are about.
Date the kid, ask them into your life and culture, but dont expect them to change and dont be supprized when they dont.
2006-09-26 00:12:57 · answer #2 · answered by Daniel M 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Dating and eventually marrying someone who does not share your faith will cause many trials in your life. God had some advice for the Church, and that advice was not to marry out of the faith.
As a Christian you should be looking at the man/woman who is centered in Christ. One who is not ashamed to know Christ, who exhibits the fruits of the Spirit in their daily lives, and has an active prayer life. This is important, and a key to Christian marriages. If you love Christ, and your husband/wife loves Christ, then there will be less strife over Godly issues in the house.
Believe me, I have seen enough missionary dating and marriage to know it will hardly ever result in a happy marriage, much less a marriage embued with godly character.
2006-09-26 00:18:57 · answer #3 · answered by atreadia 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your dad believes that you should date or marry someone who is moral and who will treat you right. He believes that a Christian or one who believes in God will best meet this description.
Sadly, not all who profess to be Christians or to believe in God are moral people and not all who claim no religion or God are immoral.
I don't know how old you are, but you sound fairly young. If you are under 18 you should honor your dad's wishes as best you can. You're too young to be thinking about marriage anyway, but you can be friends with anyone you want.
If you are 18 you are old enough to recognize a man's standards and morals. Pick a good man, by whatever standard you choose to apply.
2006-09-26 00:14:56 · answer #4 · answered by Warren D 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The reason why your father believes it's so important for you to date only Christians is because there's a belief that dating or marrying a non-Christian will cause you to lose sight of your faith. You may not believe it but basically what it is is that maybe you'll spend so much time with your boyfriend that you miss church or youth group or whatever and start forgetting what's important.
2006-09-26 00:10:08 · answer #5 · answered by Victoria C 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Morality is important. a person who can behave decently is good irrespective of what his faith is. Your dad feels that he can believe a christian to be good and he cannot believe the same about persons of another religion. he may also be afraid that if you marry this guy you may change your religion which he probably does not want.
Finally it is your decision. You have to do the checking on the guy to know whether he is a sincere person?
2006-09-26 00:15:43 · answer #6 · answered by Brahmanda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because God's Word, the Bible says so. What better reason is there. I see too many couples having so many problems in their marriage because they married an unbeliever. When they marry an unbeliever, they do not have much in common. They have different values and argue on how to raise their children. When one marries an unbeliever, there are many heart aches because the unbeliever's will their look for happiness in all other places because God is not their source of happiness.
2006-09-26 00:19:35 · answer #7 · answered by Apostle Jeff 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should date and marry someone who has the same values as you.
I know that sounds old fashioned (and I can't believe I'm saying it; I must be getting older!)
To me, it has less to do with what religion the guy follows and more to do with his outlook on life. Will he treat you with respect? Will he allow you to abstain from relations if you faith does not allow it before marriage?
Some day you'll be out of your parents house and can do what you want. All the best.
2006-09-26 00:14:30 · answer #8 · answered by Colin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father is trying to lead you down a path. He does not want you straying from or to be tempted to do things that he fears. He is your father and trying to protect you. When you are an adult and living on your own then you will have the right to make those decisions on your own. Be thankful you have a father that cares about you and your future and current choices. I never had that and ended up making bad choices in my early years. I got straightened out finally with GOD.
Enjoy your youth sweetheart. It goes so quickly.
2006-09-26 00:11:24 · answer #9 · answered by designsbyniki 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If only you knew how important this is. Your Dad loves you and is looking out for you. He wants the best for you and it is important to be with someone who has the same beliefs and value systems as you do. Marriage is difficult enough without having major conflicts in religion and how to raise children etc.
The bible says not to be yoked with unbelievers so if you are a believer yourself this is important.
2006-09-26 00:12:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋