i caught up with one of my friends friends last night, you see my friend is trying to set us up, so i thought ok i will go see what his like as friends, any way he seemed really nice, genuin, but then he suddenly changed and was pushing me to do things, i didnt want to but i really had no choice, i couldnt get away, anyway he dropped me home, and then today he has written me a message saying that he wants to see me tonight to apologise... i dont know what to do, and i cant tell my friend what happened coz he is one of her best friends and i dont want to tear them apart, please help me
2006-09-25 16:57:51 · 14 answers · asked by Boots 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
MY SINCERE ADVICE, I DONT CARE WHAT HE SAYS TO YOU OR WHAT THE EXCUSE FOR HIS BEHAVIOR, DONT GO OUT WITH HIM AGAIN, ANYONE WHO WOULD TREAT YOU LIKE THAT WHEN HE JUST MET YOU, IS DISREPECTFUL AND HAS A PROBLEM, HIS ATTEMPT TO SEE YOU AGAIN AND APOLIGIZE IS TO WIN YOU OVER (CON) SO HE CAN GET YOU RIGHT BACK IN THE SAME POSITION AGAIN, HE OBVIOUSLY SEE'S A SENSE OF WEEKNESS ABOUT YOU, TELL YOUR FRIEND YOUR JUST NOT COMFORTABLE OR MAKUP YOU LIKE SOMEONE ELSE, BUT HONEY DO NOT GET INVOLVED WITH HIS FRIEND, IT WILL ONLY GET WORSE!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I HAVE BEEN THERE AND FALLEN FOR THAT AND ENDED UP GETTING VERY HURT AND STUK BECAUSE HE SAID I LET HIM AND INITIATED IT, I HAD NOONE TO TELL EITHER, JUST KEEP YOUR DISTANCE AND MAKUP SOMETHING,GOD BLESS AND GOOD LUCK, LOOK OUT FOR YOURSELF
2006-09-25 17:12:05 · answer #1 · answered by betsyturminyen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could meet him in a public space, like a coffee shop, and let him explain if you feel comfortable doing it. Drive your own car or have your own transportation. Don't go with him anywhere else. See if you think his apology sounds honest. Then you can decide if you want to see him again--very slowly work up to a real date. If you decide to see him again then only public events that you meet him at. Don't be alone until you feel he can be trusted.
Don't say anything to your friend unless she asks then say that "the chemistry just wasn't there" or something along that line. You don't have to give her a blow by blow because it's really none of her business. Some relationships just don't work.
2006-09-26 00:08:56 · answer #2 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know what to do? Man, you must be really stupid.
This guy is a user. Do you need an apology more than you need safety and comfort.
You don't have to tell your friends anything. Just stay away from him.
2006-09-26 00:01:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy has already forced you to do things you didn't want to and thinks he can again. Do not trust him. Just tell your friend the truth. I would want to know if someone was a danger to my other friends....which he is.
2006-09-26 02:21:59 · answer #4 · answered by auntynoall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you have to ask yourself is if what he did to you could be something that he could do to other woman! Lets face it you could be the first woman that he did this to and if he gets away with it then its just ganna get easer and easer for him to do it to other woman!
I would say you have to ask yourself if what he did to you worth telling your friend or better yet the police because no means no right?
2006-09-26 00:02:20 · answer #5 · answered by Michael H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are talking about him 'making you do things' as sexually, then not only do you need to tell your friend, but he cops as well, that's called rape. And please DO NOT be foolish enough to see him again, regardless if he says he wants to apologize. Do you really believe this guy afer what he did to you? And you will be doi ng your friend a favor by telling her about him, she needs to know what kind of guy he really is.
2006-09-26 00:08:57 · answer #6 · answered by Linda P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel. my best mate once tried to set me up with his girlfriends best friend. and the pressure for us to work was enormous! it was always uncomfortable between us especially when all four of us hung out. aftre this happenned a couple of times, i just had to tell my mate. he was cool bout it and talked to his girlfriend too. you need talk to your friend bout it. let them know how you feel. their your friend too.
2006-09-26 00:06:43 · answer #7 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you always have a choice....don't let anyone push you into things you don't want to do...and your friend will understand if she's a real friend.
2006-09-26 00:00:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if our gonna go to him make sure your in some place where theres many people so that if he does anything to you then he'll go to jail, and don't have him drive you home if you do he'll probally drive you some other place like to his house and he'll say like i need to getsomthing and he'll take you in side or sumin like that
2006-09-26 00:02:38 · answer #9 · answered by aknuanbu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police if he raped you! If it's not that, then just say heck no to him. Tell your father what happened.
2006-09-26 00:00:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋