He has quite a good vocabulary (about 50 words, no (of course), don't, please, thank you, out, up...) and usually follows direction or listens to breif explainations or cause and effect. Occasionally he'd throw screaming fits. No thrashing or anything - just the screaming the screaming! I wanted to go to the doctor and say " look he's already screamed 422 times this morning, what can I do!?" Then it went away, for about the last 3 months, then again in the last 2 weeks it's resurfaced. A new twist is now he'll try to scream as loud and long as possible, it's ridiculous, he's purple and I can't help but laugh to myself and say I can't believe I'm this woman. We do the time out thing - only a minute at a time.
2006-09-25 16:34:38 · 16 answers · asked by devilUknow 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Ignore him. I found from experience that kids love to get a reaction for mom/dad and if you ignore tantrums and walk away...there is no audience and it is no fun for them. Be consistent and patient.
2006-09-25 16:38:45 · answer #1 · answered by **KELLEY** 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, the terrible twos, he's trying his boundaries and waiting for your reaction.
Say to him quietly in a calm voice, when you are screaming I can't understand you and I know you can talk quietly and tell me what you want or need.
If he persists, try a three minute time out where he sits on the naughty chair and faces the wall.
Then he has to say I'm sorry mummy for yelling or screaming.
I watch Supernanny alot and this is a definite Jo Frost technique.
Ignoring him while he's screaming may work too, he'll get tired of it when he's not got an audience or your attention and come looking for you.
2006-09-25 23:47:19 · answer #2 · answered by Lizzy-tish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had one that would do this, in fact he would scream until he made himself throw up.
My cure? I ignored him. It's difficult, especially when your eardrums are aching, but you have to act like you can't even hear him, like he's not even there. Only respond when he speaks and is behaving and never mention the screaming. If you're consistent, it doesn't take long for him to get the message that screaming won't get him any attention at all, not even negative attention.
Good luck!
2006-09-25 23:40:21 · answer #3 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about what gets him (candy, T.V time, story, play etc) , every time he screams come down to his level and say patiently okay now that you screamed let's try a whisper (tell it in a whisper) and when he tries (which he might after many tries) give him the candy or T.V or something. It he doesn't ignore and move on. Try after a few minutes. keep your cool and let him know that he cannot intimidate you.
2006-09-25 23:42:00 · answer #4 · answered by samy'smom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a pack n' play I'd pop him in it and have him throw his screaming fits in another room.My youngest daughter started that a few months ago and I won't stand to listen to it. She calms down in there and once she stops throwing her fit I will go get her and she is happy that she is out. No more screaming. Sounds a bit harsh but the screaming is a bit excessive at times and hard to think through! :) Make sure you keep an eye for in case he upsets himself so much he throws up or something (my best friend's daughter pukes when she gets herself worked up) and bring a sippy cup with water so he can stay hydrated.
2006-09-25 23:38:58 · answer #5 · answered by momofthreemiracles 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh you poor dear :) Welcome to the terrible twos! Why in the world they do half the things they do can be chalked up to 3 simple words: Because they can.
Your job is to be consistent. You sound to me like you are on the right track, but I'd suggest giving him no feedback for his display. Walk away and say "I'll listen when you can talk to me in a quiet voice" If you are in a store when he pulls this, simply pick him up, unemotionally, and leave. Eventually he will stop when he realizes he'll get no reaction from you.
2006-09-25 23:49:50 · answer #6 · answered by JaneDivided 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My youngest did that when she was that age. The only thing that worked for me was to put her in her room, away from an audience that she could see, and let her scream herself out. I don't say anything to her, because that only showed her that I WAS listening to her and she would get her second wind.
2006-09-25 23:39:20 · answer #7 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd totally ignore him when he screams...and then when he's calm give him LOTs and LOTs of attention. At 22 months it's all about getting attention. Give lots when he's doing what you want... and ride out when he doesn't. It will take a while to set in... as he's used to getting lots of attention to screaming... but in time, he'll get it.
Good luck!
2006-09-25 23:39:14 · answer #8 · answered by B L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pop him in the mouth next time he starts to scream like that. In that moment of astonished silence between the pop in the mouth and the inevitable crying, tell him, "NO SCREAMING!"
Repeat as necessary until he gets the idea.
2006-09-26 00:07:27 · answer #9 · answered by Joe Cool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dr. Phil has a lot of articles on this kind of stuff. This one sounded like it might help
http://drphil.com/articles/article/293
Otherwise here are a bunch more he has.
http://drphil.com/articles/category/4/15
Also I am a member of blockbuster.com and I am going to rent last season's Supernanny dvds. It's a good show.
Oh and if your kid is anything like mine, avoid RED DYE foods and drinks at all costs. First it can make them hyper then it can make them angry over the slightest thing and then get destructive.
Good luck.
2006-09-25 23:47:07 · answer #10 · answered by eddweeness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋