I am scared???????i still feel like a child?/?

Question

I am 18 years old husband he is 21 and we got married after 2 months of knowing dating each other in vegas as a joke. And due to a lot of drinking that same day have a baby on the way. We have been married for month still have not told our parents and we had our first big fight recently. I have to keep fighting the urge not to throw a fit and cry?Also sometimes my husband speaks to me as if i were a child?I am worried what kind of a parent i will be i still feel like a child?My husband wants to stay together and see what happens but i am scared??

Was anyone else this scared on what kind of a parent they would be?

little late i am already pregnant plus he wants to keep it!I dont even live with my husband he lives in a dorm i live at home.

Answer 1

I think for anyone else to be truly as scared as you, they would have to be as stupid as you.

Married as a joke. Baby on accident. And people are spending huge amounts of money trying to find out why STD's account for 85% of the viruses reported to the CDC. It is because of sluts like you. I am really against abortion... but as long as they rip out all of your women parts at the same time and chop off his tiny prick I would make an exception.

Answer 2

It is girls like you, "I cant even call you a woman" that I see in my clinic all the time. You are only 18 not even old enough to drink but already have an alcoholic problem. You have made VERY bad decisions. 1. getting married as a joke after 2 months of knowing each other 2. the drinking and getting drunk 3. getting pregnant. I feel so sorry for your unborn child. You are very immature and I think that the marriage needs to be annulled. Since you are so immature, are you sure the child you are carrying is your "husband's?" Stop looking for sympathy and grown the Hell up. You should have thought about the consequences of your actions. Now a child will be born from a child. You have nothing to offer a child. You still live with your parents! You are pathetic. And all these other people trying to be nice, needs to stop kissing a**. I am telling you like it is! You will be another teen mother taking my taxes, cause you will be on welfare. You don't deserve to be called a mother! I am a mother. I have a great job, my son is taken care of, and I didn't have to get my man drunk to land my husband! Have the baby and give your child a chance at life by giving it up for adoption. This is no longer about your immaturity, this is about a precious baby.

Answer 3

Well you shouldn't have gotten married as a joke. And if you didn't want to get pregnant you should of used something to prevent it. But what happened happened. I know how you feel. When I was pregnant I felt the same way like I wasn't ready and that I was still a kid. I am actually allot older then you are, but I guess I just grew up slow. Anyway I wasn't happy about it at first, but I ended up having a miscarriage and now I would do anything to get her back. So maybe you will realize someday that you really want your baby. Or maybe you could give your baby up for adoption and give it to someone who is ready.

Answer 4

I would be scared as well. Honestly those were childish decisions BOTH of you have made. At 18 what makes you think after 2 months this is the guy.

I knew my husband at 15, started dating at 16 and married at 23. We have been threw so much together (growing up) that thankfully we have stayed on the same page. But it took that long for me to marry him (though we kinda knew 6 months into the relationship) For me marriage is for life, and Now your bringing a child into this uncertainty of a marriage. I ope that you will be able to work it out. and if not I hope you both can be civil in front of your child.

Answer 5

I'm not sure there is a real way to answer this question. :) You are married and pregnant- now's not the time to hide from mommy and daddy. This should be your first "grown up" decision. I suggest you both get into counseling asap considering this was an irrational decision to get married in the first place. Do you wish to stay married?? We all feel like children from time to time but we grow up quick (most of us do). But you need to tell both sets of parents because the longer you wait the madder they're going to be and I think you're both going to need them.

Answer 6

Tell your parents immediately . You don't have to stay in a situation that scares you . Talk to someone locally -like a religious organization. It does not have to be of your own faith most of the time . Try Catholic Charities or Jewish Family Services . Good Luck . Nobody is perfect . Everyone makes mistakes . You don't have to go it alone . Get help today .

Answer 7

Ok you are an adult not a child once you turnned 18 you need to tell your parents about the marrage. and what typw of mother? I would think look at your doings and what would you do different if you could and streer your kid or kids out of that path or in depending on the situation. remember your not only a mother to the child but his/her teacher ask other mothers about ips they will help you and I am sure your mother will too once she gets over the shock.

Answer 8

You got married on a whim and pregnant. Even if it was a "joke", you should try to make it work. Being a single parent is hard and this could end up working out if you both try. He sounds like he's willing.
No choice about it, its time to grow up.

Answer 9

Married and not living together?? Well, doesn't that give you a clue to where your marriage is headed to.

Have the baby and put up for adoption. It's not the baby's fault for the parent's mistakes.

Answer 10

You need to be responsible for your action. Being a parent is no joke and though you might feel scared, you need to stand up for your own. You'll be a mom soon and i think having someone who have experienced being a parent would be a good start.