ok so based on these events in my life do you think i should tell my parents i need to see a counselor?

Question

my dad cheated on my mom with this chic online
my bro found out when he was like 10 or 11 i think
my dad started abusing my brother
when i was 10 and 11, my brother got really messed up and verbally abused me and threatened to "beat me to a bloody pulp and kill me" several times. and i had to leave the house, sometimes barefoot, and hide somewhere outside until my mom got home. or lock myself in a room. and sometimes he would punch me really hard like in the arm or back, or he would kick me sometimes.
when i was 12, my bro went to jail.
when i was 13, he got out, lived at home, and was always getting high and drunk and stuff
when i was 15, i got messed up in drinking and cutting and stuff and i tried to kill myself a few times and wound up in a psych ward where i was diagnosed as having bipolar disorder, depression, and anxiety.
when i was 16, my other brother, who was extremely handicapped since birth, died of an incurable illness at age 18.

Also at age 16, I went out with a 19 year old, and he did things to me that were, uh, sexual (not sex tho..just..other things…) and I didn’t say no, but deep down I didn’t want it and I went home and cried.
About a month after I got out of the hospital, my parents took me off all of my meds, and then about 3 weeks after that, my counselor quit on me. So I haven’t seen a shrink in about 2 years.
Now, at age 17, my brother is much much better. He is an awesome guy, with a completely straightened out life.
I have a job, working with kids.
I should be happy, right?

Do you think I should see a shrink, because I don’t know why I can’t be happy. I mean, things aren’t as crappy as they were before. But I don’t want to tell my parents that I want to see a shrink, because they will send me to the one that they go to and I REALLY don’t like him. And they will start questioning me again, about my depression and stuff, and start staring at me like I am hiding something. And I hate that. So I wanna know if you think it would be worth it.
Please tell me what to do.

i don't really think about my past that much...so i am not sure if i am just unaffected by it, or i am just so overwhelmed that i can't feel anything. if that makes sense.

Answer 1

I am so sorry that you were robbed of your childhood and had to live in such fear and chaos. Please get some help as soon as you can. Go to someone you consider "safe" and tell them you would like their advice...and recommendation for help. It sounds as though you have had a very rough 17 years....get help, and make the rest of your life what YOU want it to be. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 2

I think you would definitely benefit from starting to see a counselor or psychiatrist again. that is what they are there for, to help people feel and get better from the problems they're having, or to understand what they're feeling and how to feel better. I would mention this to your parents, and if they insist on your seeing their doctor, tell them that you prefer to see a different one, or, if you can find one on your own (since you are 17 I don't know whether or not there would be any parental permission required), and just make an appointment and go and talk. You are young and have your whole life in front of you, and now is the time to get it all straightened out. Everyone deserves to be happy! Good luck and may the Lord bless you!

Answer 3

Those all sound like excellant reasons to start visiting a counselor. I know how you feel about discussing this with your parents, it's embarassing, they don't treat you the same, and they don't really listen to what you need or want. I was in therapy for a long time as a child, and never got anywhere with it because my parents were always breathing down my neck about it, and the therapist always told them what I said during the sessions - awkward drives home were common. ~_~;

Are you in school? If you are, try talking to the school nurse about your interest in therapy he/she might be able to direct you to some community centers that offer anonymous or low cost counseling that you can get without saying anything to your family. Good luck, and I hope you find someone who can listen.

Answer 4

This is obviously very important to you. It is probably the most important thing in your life right now. Be careful who you trust. You have been through a lot for such a young person.

A psychologist or psychiatrist cannot answer your questions.
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We cannot answer your questions.
You have already tried counseling. A good counselor will only get you to answer your own questions.

Only YOU can answer your questions.
The good news is that the answers exist. They are deep inside of you. Don't waste time looking elsewhere.

You know what to do. Deep inside, you know. All the answers you seek are within you. Learn to go within yourself to listen. Listen to the silence. You will hear the answers. You can always trust the inner voice that only wants you to be at peace.

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Peace an God bless

Answer 5

Okay, you sound like you do need some help! I dont really think you can trust your parents after everything youve said, so find someone on your own. You can go to the free clinics and they can find you a counsellor, BUT, saying that, my life didnt improve until I left ALL my doctors. I had 4 counsellors, 6 phychiatrists, 2 nuerologists, and NONE of them could figure out what was wrong with me. I just infused myself with purpose - What do I want my life to be? And changed it until I was happy with everything. Good luck, these feelings are no fun, and you can always call your local 24hr help line, theyre always good, and you dont even have to leave home!

Answer 6

you could do your own personal research and get info on a few counselors and get someone that is younger and a woman like you. someone that you could feel comfortable with. when you have found the right person for the job, tell your parents that you don't think that things were quite worked out all the way (mentally) and that you think that you sould go to see ( insert psy's name here) tell them that you would feel more comfortable with her since she is a woman and is closer to you in age. it would be easier for you to relate your issues to her and you would feel more comfortable with her as your psych than the other guy. tell them that you think he's wierd or whatever you feel is appropriate. if he freaks you out, just tell them. otherwise, you could wait until you are 18 and tell them then. at this point, if you are going to go to college, i think that you she=ould still be able to be considered a member of the household, but at the same time, you don't legally have to let them make you see the creepy guy if you don't want to.

Answer 7

I DEFINITELY think you should seek some councelling. You are seeking it on here obviously, so this tells me you would like to see a councelor. I won't speak for everyone, but a lot of people have family drama. For example in my case, my sister who is now in her mid-30's is homeless and has been on and off since she was 17. I love her to death, so this is very painful for me. Once my parents divorced when I was 8yrs. old, my dad was a rare figure in my life. He's just now, at age 23, trying to make it up to me in a rather half-assed manner, and I have a lot of anger and resentment towards him. My mother has always been there for me and raised me since the divorce, so I truly see her as my parent, not my dad. It's hard to consider a man who's often less mature than myself, my father and dad. He can barely take care of himself it seems. To make it worse, he invited me to live with him, in an attempt to make up for lost time. It's hard to live with someone who is more than twice your age, yet you feel like the father and him the son. My Mom, Dad, and sis are the only family I have, since I'm gay and the rest of my family is Catholic and thinks it's a terrible thing. They also refuse to associate with my Mom because my father lied and told them she is a lesbian and had an affair with a woman and that's why they got divorced. The sad truth is that my Mom wanted the divorce from my dad because he's a great liar, has cheated on my Mom in the past, and has the mentality of a child.
So see, we all have crap in our lives. It's amazing how much crap comes out of the woodwork when you talk to people. Everyone's family isn't so prestine as they might first seem. But yes, I do recommend counceling for you. I have gone to counceling myself on and off for a few years. It's wonderful. You'll feel a million times better. Talk to your folks. See what they say. If they say no, don't take it too hard. It sounds like your parents havn't been the greatest decision makers thus far. If they say no, you can find a councelor on your own. If you are in high school, find out about talking to the high school councelor. This is what they are there for. I'm promise, there are other people your age going through the same crap. That's exactly why high schools have councelors, exactly for the reason you need one for. Check into that. If you are a little bit older than that and live in a sizeable town or city, there is probably a support group of some kind that can help you and you can help them in return with their problems. Support groups are a great thing.

Answer 8

if you're asking yourself whether you need to see a counselor or not, that means you have to! Even if you're living a happier life now, it's not impossible that you still have it in you. It's just not that active anymore. The stress & feelings and all. That's why seeing a counselor can be good. I'd suggest you see them and find out.

Answer 9

You should talk to someone. If you feel like you can't talk to your parents, talk to your school counselor. If you can, tell your parents. If you are bi polar and have anxiety and depression problems, you do need to be back on your meds. Don't keep things bottled up inside, that is the worst thing for you to do. If your brother is a "good " brother now, talk to him, maybe he can go to your parents with you. Good luck and my prayers are with you.

Answer 10

ok...so this is all in the past. why do you think you need to see a counselor now...I mean, didn't it work the first time?

I'm not trying to be chafing...I just hate to see people go to counselors when they obviously don't work.

Too many fakers out there have ruined it for the people who really need it, and so they don't take the time to help you right the first time...you know?