perhaps because you thought you are not good enough and how did you deal with it or how do you plan to deal with it
2006-09-25 16:10:46 · 13 answers · asked by haringmarumo 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Definitely. I had no self confidence. Zero. My past was such that I never felt worth love or protection.
I found a good therapist (after a couple of misfires - one with a therapist with whom I couldn't connect at all, another with one who seemed very good and caring - we just didn't seem to be able to communicate).
She helped me come to understand myself better, to put my past in context. I realized that I was stronger than I knew, had already survived a lot. She pointed out where my thinking was on target, and where it was faulty, and where I was listening to the judgement of people who didn't really know what they were talking about.
Understanding why I thought the way I did helped me figure out what to do about it. I can't say I'm a tower of confidence today, but I'm more confident, and realize that I'm worthy of love, respect and loyalty. I've left relationships that left me feeling used, not respected, and/or not loved, and surrounded myself with a small group of people who know and love me as I am.
It took time, but I figure I was going to live that same amount of time anyway, and this way, I have something to show for it!
2006-09-25 16:16:36 · answer #1 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's all about your mindset. Thinking negatively can lead you down a dark path. Find completeness with your past & leave your past there. Realize that you should live in the moment (not living out of your past or future). You can choose to be happy & enjoy your life. Whatever it is making you feel that you don't deserve to be loved, is just a story you've made up on your own. Maybe something happened that caused the story to be made up; but realize that it's just something you've told yourself & it's not true! Live for the moment & get complete with your past. Love yourself & you will deserve to be loved.
2006-09-25 23:19:27 · answer #2 · answered by bcre8ive2day 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never, I have always been a good hearted person, giving, thoughtful,Respectful and I know I deserve the best of what life has to offer...
2006-09-25 23:14:14 · answer #3 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-09-25 23:18:27 · answer #4 · answered by Putt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never, I always believed that there is someone for everyone and even when you misbehave, its in You to change and be better. Lack of Love is not a punishment or a result of ones actions.
2006-09-25 23:13:08 · answer #5 · answered by pay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did but someone told me how much god loved me and that I am forgiven for anything I have done. So if he loves me I know I'm special enough that there is someone out there
2006-09-25 23:16:55 · answer #6 · answered by kerry9477 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am hideous that is one reason .
There is always somebody better than you !
I can get mean that is why I don't deserve to be loved .
I have no plan that is things I can't get over !
2006-09-25 23:17:21 · answer #7 · answered by Dogface Manny 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah sometimes i think that im too busy or just not ready for love, and the man that im with right now i feel bad i think that if that the way im thinking then he shouldnt deserve me
2006-09-25 23:13:15 · answer #8 · answered by labonitameli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EVERYONE FEELS UNLOVEABLE at times..but everyone deserves to be loved...i think its sad when people dont love themselfs!! thats soo important!!
2006-09-25 23:14:02 · answer #9 · answered by chas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes when my grandma fell and i couldnt keep her from fallin and i feel it is my falt cause after that she started diyin and that wuz 2 yrs ago and i still fell like i shouldnt be loved
2006-09-25 23:14:16 · answer #10 · answered by Sarah B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋