I don't want to ruin "his" day but must admit that the whole naked girl grinding on my future husband gives me stomache pains. I also feel humilated that all the guys watching him will be at our wedding. How do brides deal with this?
2006-09-25 16:09:33 · 21 answers · asked by marjorieh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You are just going to live with the fact that it's going to happen. know this. He's not allowed to touch and chances are if they"re the lap dances I've seen at parties it will be in front of the entire audience. You have nothing to worry about. Just put it in the back of your head and think of the crazy stuff you will do on your Party. Congrats and good luck
2006-09-25 16:13:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This part of the deal sucks. Yes, we get our party, too...but somehow we KNOW that we're not going to do anything too risque'...but they have horny raunchy peer pressurin buddies egging them on. My fiance and I talked about this a couple days ago. Neither of us want the other to be grinded on by a naked person. But, then again, people have their expectations for us, too. My MOH wants us to have fun, be it however that is possible. His buddies want strippers. I wouldn't have a problem with just a girl stripping in front of them, but I know that it would go further than that for a bachelor party.
It's about impossible for me to tell you what to do here. I'm in the same boat.
2006-09-25 17:39:31 · answer #2 · answered by Rachael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should try to take this in stride and see it as a fun, silly celebration. He's not going there by himself to get a private lap dance, and he's not going there because he's sexually dissatisfied or any of that nonsense. In bachelor/ette parties, strippers are just part of the rowdy, FUN entertainment that people take part in with their group of friends as a collaborative experience. I agree with what the other reviewers stated--clearly he's made the committment to be with YOU for the rest of his life, and unless more goes on beyond the harmless, practically-public lap dance, you have absolutely nothing to be worried about besides the fun you're going to be having during your last hurrah.
2006-09-25 18:23:20 · answer #3 · answered by violetminxx21 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you 100%I. In fact I don't think girls need to be the main focus of any part of the bachelor party. I would tell him honestly. My fiance and I had a similar discussion. I wasn't comfortable with a "bachelor party". He wanted to nix it all together to save me the heartache. Instead I think we are going to do our thing with our bridal party during the day (sports of some sort for the boys, spa day for the girls) and then all go out together after. Kinda Jack and Jill. If we do decide to have seperate nights, we agreed bars are ok, clubs (of any kind, b/c I am not too keen on some local ho rubbing on my fiance for free) are off limits. Be prepared to accept any restrictions that you want to enforce.
2006-09-25 16:43:10 · answer #4 · answered by Sara K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't do anything that you don't feel comfortable with. Let me tell you what happened with me and my husband. I was pretty anal retentive about not letting him go to a strip club for his bachelor's party at one point, but then I was alright with the idea. Think about it this way, he may be enjoying the strip dance and like the way the woman looks, but who is he marrying? Who is he wanting to spend the rest of his life with? YOU. Well, what ended up happening was that I got very comfortable with the idea of a strip club, and ended up going to it with him because I wanted to go and HE wanted me to go. He got a lap dance, and I did as well. Really spiced things up for us honestly.
Anyway, set some time away to think about it, and try to figure out what exactly about it bothers you. If you still feel very uncomfortable, tell him. Don't be rude with him or harsh. Just let him know how you feel, and let him make the decision. If he does do it knowing it's truly gonna tear you apart then you need to think things over.
2006-09-25 16:22:34 · answer #5 · answered by Vicky 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had the same fears but my father told me "Remember he is going to be your husband so he is ready to make that commitment and you will be the last woman he ever sleeps with forever ! As long as he doesn't have sex with the stripper I think you should trust him". Did I mention that my father and brother both attended just to make sure the stripper paid more attention to his friends and they got the naked lap dances, while my husband only got spanked by a fully clothed stripper.
2006-09-25 16:31:04 · answer #6 · answered by kamsmom 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not married nor am I engaged to be married anytime soon but he kind of man I would LIKE to marry one day wouldn't even THINK about that kind of party. That pretty much sums it up. and I wouldn't be letting my friends hiring strippers, either. my idea of a bachelorette party will probably resemble callign up my exes and telling them I'm getting married tomorrow or next week and telling them they aren't invited! LOL! seriously though, we will probably go out on the town and do cosmic bowling. something we can stay up all night and jsut do gil talk about guys and why they are so weird! I have no idea what my fiancee would do considering I havne't met him but I know a stripper and alcohol won't be involved.
2006-09-25 16:28:50 · answer #7 · answered by leeanndemon 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If this is really important to you, then tell him you are uncomfortable with it. Don't let it eat at you, as it will only destroy your relationship. Couples have to communicate, so if it is bothering you, say something! Some people may think this isn't a big deal, but to others, like me, it is a big deal. As far as I'm concerned, a guy's "last hoorah" was the day before he even started dating me.
2006-09-25 22:35:25 · answer #8 · answered by iloveeeyore 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Turnabout's fair play....
By that I mean, why not have your girlfriends take you to a male revue for your bachlorette party???? Then you will see that the strippers aren't there to get someone off, but rather to put you (the guest of honor) is a funny situation.
The men do the same thing. The stripper isn't there to get him off, but rather, just embarrass him in front of his friends, and give his friends a good laugh in the process.
If you trust your fiance you have nothing to worry about, and vice versa. Just let it roll off of your shoulders.
2006-09-26 03:38:42 · answer #9 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my fiance feels exactly the same way you do and asked me not to get a lap dance when i have my bucks night so i'm not going to. I'm not organising my bucks night, but I told the guys I won't be accepting any lap dances. If the guys organise a stripper, my best man is going to take it for me and i'll just watch.
2006-09-25 16:21:02 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋