I have a three year old daughter who is extremely active and usually very independent. Developmentally she is a year ahead and extremely intelligent. The problem is that I am pregnant again and I didn't think it was going to be a problem but when I'm watching my brothers little girl who's 4 months mine started acting differently. She loves her little cousin and trys to help as much as she can but doesn't seem to like the attention we have to give a little baby. We were so close to having her potty trained and now she doesn't seem to care. She'll cry and throw fits trying to get attention. I'm very worried that it will get worse when the new baby is here and I'm having to spend so much time caring for it.
2006-09-25 16:08:43 · 10 answers · asked by lil sis 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Her pediatritian fills out developmental charts on all the children and according to the things she can do and say shes at the level of a four year old according to her doctor. Not to mention although she needs help measuring the sugar she makes her own cool-aid, can fix her own toast, changes and puts on her own clothes, and does many other things that typical three year olds don't do. She also speaks very clearly and understands most of what is said and going on. Can count to 15 and says most of her abc's.
2006-09-26 05:03:58 · update #1
like she said she does it to get attention.. Okay one tip, right now while you are pregnant.. MAKE it a point to set up mommy and her time, and then special daddy and her time.. Daily possibly and make her apart of the pregnancy.. Congratualtions and good luck..
2006-09-25 16:12:14 · answer #1 · answered by sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our three year old reverted during potty training as well and there was no new baby. My friend had a son about the same age however who did the same thing you describe when they were expecting a new baby girl.
He got very jealous and angry. Stomping around hiding his toys saying he didn't want her etc. Eventually toward the end of the preganancy he started to come around a little. His parents and extended family always reassured him they would love him after the baby came etc but he was still angry and hurt and acting out for attention.
Once the big day came however and his little sister was born he melted like a candle. A baby to a child is seen as a threat because most kids have no concept of how small the child is or its affect of becoming a Big brother or sister will have on them.
Give it time, be reassuring and try to not give in or react to the outbursts if you can. Once the new baby is home he will understand the smallness, they sweetness and the protective nature we all have.
Just make sure the first few weeks you include him as much as possible and each of you take time even 30 mins a day to just do something with him. Make it your specail mommy/daddy time and point out baby is too small for the specail time he has with each of you. This will enforce with him how specail he is even if more of your time seems to be baby oriented now because of the fact babies cannot do for themselves.
The pride he will feel in being a Big Boy will offset the loss of your 100% attention and help him understand babies get so much because they can't do anything for themselves.
You could also try a lesson now by getting two plants. Baby and Baby 2. Show him how you have to care for the plants or it will die and get sick as it begins to grow and that eventually once planted outside it grows on it's own with only a little help. This example worked wonders for a friend who had two kids and a new baby coming.
2006-09-25 16:22:51 · answer #2 · answered by Answerkeeper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've already answered this. She's being a three year old. She is not ready to use the potty, and I'm wondering WHO diagnosed her as being a year ahead developmentally...I can't think of a doctor who would since toddlers and young children all develop and varying rates. The fact is that while YOU might be ready for her to grow up she is not done being three going on four years old yet. This is something YOU should have taken into consideration before getting pregnant...whether or not you could handle the expesnes and extra work of having TWO in diapers. Suck up and deal with it.
2006-09-25 18:27:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even tho she is 3 you need to show her and tell her that she is going to be a big sister and you will need her help when the new baby comes.
Believe it or not kids understand these things.
Try to get her to do things and say stuff like your gonna be a big girl, just have her do some simple things around the house to make her feel important and I'm sure she is
I have kids and I know what you are going thru. Kids feel somewhat neglected when they know a new baby is going to be inb the picture whether it's yours or a relative. They just get jealous because they are used to having all your attention.
Good Luck
2006-09-25 16:14:44 · answer #4 · answered by miss_lady6980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mother, I would say, take the time to give her extra nurturing while you can....when you come home from the hospital, you will instanteously wonder how she grew so old in 2-3 days...and miss that little baby you used to cuddle.
When she sees you with your niece, she is probably getting the idea (especially since she is smart) that she will soon be displaced.
Enjoy this baby....she will grow up soon enough.
Then, include her as the BIG sister who is soooo smart...maybe get her a "newborn" baby doll to nurture.
God bless you and your miracles!
2006-09-25 16:16:27 · answer #5 · answered by Annamaria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
each and every each and every now and then even as a clean toddler is proficient into the domicile an older sibling will act out, needing diapers back, asking for a pacifer, etc... many of the time that's because the hot toddler is getting the interest that your older change into getting, little ones do not opt to share. attempt letting him help with the toddler, getting you a diaper at replacing time or helping with a bath, once he sees he continues to be getting your interest he ought to calm down, also attempt letting his dad do something with him, merely both of them, pass to the park, or get ice cream, yet merely him and pa, no toddler.
2016-10-16 02:20:56 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to start preparing her for the change in the family. and specially telling her that the baby loves her and that she should help you with the baby, and that she is going to have someone to play with and when the baby is their tray to spend sometimes only with her and without baby, to let her now that she is still loved and cared for. and trust her with baby but watching her closely. and not letting her know that you are watching her.
2006-09-25 16:16:11 · answer #7 · answered by santa s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get ready for it...the new baby gets all the attention, so they revert to be like the new baby and get attention too. i lived it, i have 3 kids, it is shortlived. bring her over to ur side, by making her feel important, and part of the crowd, reward her for being the big sis.
2006-09-25 17:14:39 · answer #8 · answered by Elly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever she throws a fit put her in the corner and put on a Menudo CD.
She will learn her lesson. She will learn it GOOD.
2006-09-25 16:11:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is typical. My son gets very jealous when i am around other kids and give them attention. She will adjust to it eventually.
2006-09-25 16:12:25 · answer #10 · answered by darlanota 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋