lately my b/f has been acting distant. i understand that he has just had a death in his family(his child) and he's messed up right now. I try to be there for him but he just pushes me away. sometimes i don't hear from him for 2 days and we usually talk 5 times a day. No text messages, no emails.The more i try, the more distant he gets. What do i do? by the way, we live 2000 miles from eachother and only visit monthly.
2006-09-25 16:08:37 · 9 answers · asked by lilbit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try to give him space. But when it comest time for the montly visit, make sure it happens and that you show him how much he means to you. If he still pushes you away, then there is nothing more you can do. It would be time to let him go and find someone else. Hopefully he will be happy to have you near.
If the mother of his dead child is still alive, he may be currently seeking comfort in her arms which may destroy your relationship and there is nothing you can do about it. I can just hope that it is not the case. You are a wonderful woman who has so much to give and you deserve better than to be discarded like that.
Good luck. I hope everything works out. *hugs*
2006-09-25 16:14:02 · answer #1 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very immature and selfish!!Leave him alone completely and let him call you when he's finished grieving.He will resent you later on for behaving this way,he will appreciate your compassion if you let him determine the space he needs and let him come to you when he's o.k. Apart of himself has died and you still want his undivided attention?How disgusting!!...Grow up!
2006-09-25 23:15:28 · answer #2 · answered by Direktor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send him a message telling him .......i know your going threw a lot right now so ill back off for awhile.but im here if you need me and i always will be...........or some thing like that.then give him a few weeks then try another message to see if he returns your call.good luck
2006-09-25 23:15:08 · answer #3 · answered by tinkerbell85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your going to just have to be there for him and take what he gives you it may take awhile thats a tuff one hang in there and see what goes if it get worse just let him go. 2000 miles is so far to help someone
2006-09-25 23:12:16 · answer #4 · answered by terri e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just needs time right now i lost three people two last month and one really close to me last year in nov. so just give him time ok and then he will come back and tell him how he feels about it right now and you rose101 good luck!
2006-09-25 23:15:44 · answer #5 · answered by rose101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...The death of his child!? That is huge. The best thing you can do is be there for him when he needs you, but understand when he doesn't. He needs time.
2006-09-25 23:10:39 · answer #6 · answered by Kristi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try not to bother him too much he will come to you when he needs you, i mean he might have mixed up emotions and want to be alone for a little bit, you just have to wait because think about it if your in his situation, so try not to be a buggaboo, goodluck
2006-09-26 00:03:23 · answer #7 · answered by teekapeek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him space. Don't be so clingy. Talk 5 times a day?!?!? Dayum!!!
2006-09-25 23:10:57 · answer #8 · answered by Mr Joshua 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give him space. he needs to completely clear his mind before he can do anything right. dont bother him, call but dont be on him all d time.
2006-09-25 23:11:42 · answer #9 · answered by perez_cristian_89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋