is it ok for a 3 yr. old to talk all the time?? and to repeat what i say? and to repeat the same questions?

Question

no it isnt echolalia, or that mental disease that ppl echo what others say. She does it to bother me,and she repeats her questions alot. " mama,what'ya doing?" alll day long! I am stumped. Is it normal for a child who was removed from the home when she was 14 mo. old and just building sentences,not to talk at all,but to babble incoherently? this is what she did for the two years,before we could understand her. Till then,she pointed and tried to make herself understood.We got our kids back,and the only one scarred emotionally,was her,and she is the baby of 3. All involved,lost their jobs,as it was a set-up,and they all were found to be incompetent. My oldest is just really closed to outsiders,and the middle one wasn't scarred at all emotionally. No,there isn't any counselling for us available,and we don't want to talk about it with outsiders. i can in here, cuz ya all don't know me. Is it normal for her to be going thru this all at her age? She isn't speaking clearly for her age.

and no, I am not hiding anything. we were investigated and social services had been in our home for a year, three times a week,then twice,then once,then once every 2 weeks,and finally once a month. never did they suggest counselling. We want to sue, for discrimination,character asassination,emotional distress,unlawful entry, but were told by our lawyer,that we were better off " just forgetting about it". We lost our friends,and i don't want to make any. It has been almost 3 years and we have not healed. We were found innocent of all charges and all involved, social workers,( there was only 1),cops,the detective that "investigated" the case, were all demoted. Except the detective,she was demoted.

the detective wasn't just demoted,she was fired.

they were gone from our home for two and a half weeks, and missed easter. They dont like to celebrate it.

Answer 1

Is it possible at all that she's imitating you? According to behaviourism, she's employing social learning. This is what we do when we imitate those we look up to - as children, we try our mother's shoes, we try her makeup. Your daughter may be imitating you because she sees you as her role model.

Plus, after feeling the impact of being away from you, she's keen to get as close as possible.

Just give her lots of hugs and reassure her that you'll be there for her. She might be suffering from insecurity - not knowing that she won't be taken again - that could seriously mess with her head.

Her lack of coherent language development could be related to the trauma she suffered (being removed is trauma enough) and as a way of coping she might have developed her own language. She was removed at 14 months and in the middle of her language development stages.

Can you find out more about what happened in the last 15 months?

If you're able, I'm happy to try to talk to you about this in yahoo messenger? add me in / send me an e-mail via this site and I'll chat to you online if you're able to.

Having a little cousin who went through something similar, at 5 and a half he's only now starting to verbalise properly.

Anyway, best of luck and add me and pm me etc if you want to chat further.

Answer 2

Incoherent babbling at 3 years old should be evaluated. Simple speech therapy in the home or at a head start nursery school is usually low cost or free for 3 year olds depending on where you live. There is always counseling available. If you are that closed off to getting help because you are afraid of getting your child taken away then maybe you're hiding something more serious and that is more important to you than your child's well-being.

Answer 3

It is normal for a child of 3 to ask question after question after question after question...! I think you may have a smart kid rather than one that is 'emotionally scarred'. Everytime she asks a question that annoys you- ask yourself what is the alternative? To have a child with difficulties that can't communicate or one that simply isn't interested in the world around them. I know what I would prefer!
As for not speaking clearly- have you had her hearing tested? Also starting (if not already) in a playgroup or day care around other children her own age or older can help with speech.
As for asking what you are doing all the time- involve her in what you're doing. She is old enough to help with simple stuff and to understand if you give her explanations. Kids don't intentionally annoy until they are older. She won't ask so many questions if she is busy.
Questions are normal. Unclear speech is normal but should be checked. Speak to your public health nurse, GP or child care provider.
Good luck.

Answer 4

It's completely normal for a 3 year old to mimic you and ask the same questions over and over. Practice makes perfect...she is just trying to act grown up and be like everyone else. Don't let yourself get frustrated or impatient with her, just be attentive when she asks questions and correct her if she needs help with pronunciation. Don't worry about it...just keep in mind that she is only three!!

Answer 5

I would say it's normal-for her. Insecurity would be why, on the lines of if you're not paying attention to her then you really don't care if she's there or not. Give it lots of time, with all of them, and remember what's normal is as individual as the person involved.

Answer 6

yes she is perfectly normal just try answering her like a big girl and see if you can get to the questions she really has my four year old still plays that game and usually its beacuse she wants something and wants to act like a big kid

Answer 7

That's whay 3 year olds do. Don'y worry, it's normal.