EVEN IF YOU DON'T LOVE HIM/HER OR WANT TO BE WITH HIM/HER ANYMORE?
2006-09-25 16:02:54 · 18 answers · asked by BX_ICANDY S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
NO!! What is better, a two parent home with two miserable parents or a single parent home with two happy parents sharing custody? You can both still raise the baby. You just do it in seperate house holds. Make sure to be honest with the other person. Also you will have to agree on parenting, that can be hard. Good luck
2006-09-25 16:17:47 · answer #1 · answered by shannonlbuck 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are alot of children who want their parents to stay together but that's due to a romanticised notion that a child should have a mom and dad - it's the conservative media promoted by the church that push this agenda.
Also, sometimes you're a better parent when you're not with the partner you had the child with - when you're staying together you end up fighting and negative energy does have massive impact on children. In the long run it can cause children great harm. As long as the parents explain to the children that it's an issue between the parents, not that the child drove the parent away.
2006-09-25 16:13:26 · answer #2 · answered by ausbabe29_megan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother believes you should stay together for the benefit of the child. It was horrible to watch the 2 of the them together. I don't think 2 people should stay together if they don't love each other. If I didn't love my husband I would leave. I am scarred for life watching my parents during my childhood. Think of the things you will show your child if you stay together: adultry, hate, abuse, etc.
It is hard on the kids, but divorce is sometimes necessary for some parents.
2006-09-25 16:15:23 · answer #3 · answered by Gothic Martha™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 19:14:43 · answer #4 · answered by orum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you two were married before you had a child, you will be the baby mama or daddy. For the sake of the child, you should've gotten married before having one, therefore you are thinking about your child and his/her future. If you don't love or want to be with the other person, you shouldn't be with that person. You will never be happy trying to sacrifice to make it work. And neither will your partner. If you two are mature individuals then you need to have a conversation and think of the best interest for yourselves and most importantly, your child. Think of a plan that will be good for everyone. But if your not happy than you need to keep it moving, don't just let it linger in the air.
2006-09-25 16:09:50 · answer #5 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't know, that's a hard question.
My dad stayed with my mom for the sake of being with me because he knew that if he didn't I'd be treated like crap. Mom tried to throw me out of the house and treated me like crap anyway but dad was always there to make sure that he made me feel better, got the things I needed, and that I wasn't treated badly. He also saved me from a life of poverty and pain by staying with my mom.
So in short it depends on what the situation is.
2006-09-25 16:07:29 · answer #6 · answered by winds_of_justice 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
break it before the hate sets in. If you are married I would say seek a councelor but if you are not I would say try to work it out so that you still have family outings not dates so that your child can have bonding time with both their parents. Wait a while to see other people so your child has time to deal with the split.
2006-09-25 16:07:53 · answer #7 · answered by Caryn J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From experience no, of course alot of ppl think if you get married makes it all right, but why stay together and not be happy? The child will not be happy, you guys can work together to take care of the child and not be ~together~ and have a happy normal child...
2006-09-25 16:06:53 · answer #8 · answered by Destiny D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, definitely not! It would be unfair to both of you-as well as the child-to stay in a relationship where there is no love. It's hard enough to make it in a loving relationship.
2006-09-25 16:08:18 · answer #9 · answered by worldwise1 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I stayed for 2 and one half years and the only person who really got hurt was me. I have been to see a therapist because of it. My son is happier now that we are apart, he doesn't have to listen to us argue. I tried to make it work for my son but, that just makes it worse. Leave and save your mind, your child(ren) will be better off.
2006-09-25 19:39:28 · answer #10 · answered by raspberryflavr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋