ok here it goes. i had a bf that did something that was not nice or respectful. so i got mad and acted out. ok he then agreed that we should brake up. now later after he called me i asked him why was he mad when he was the one who did the fuked up sh.t in the first place. he said he was just paying me back so thats why he agreed to break up. so my question is, how can a man do something wrong then get mad at you for acting out about it and then try and pay you back cuz you did something bad to him cuz of what he did to you in the first place. i know two wrongs dont make a right. so what would you call that what he was doing.
2006-09-25 15:58:07 · 33 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, the good part of the story is...you found now that he was not worth the trouble of a serious relationship and that he just has not gotten it yet either-not mature yet.
You should never feel bad for reacting, so long as it did not get out of control. Maturity takes a lot of stamina and for that, always remember to think before reacting. It does not sound like you went out of control here, but that he felt that he needed and excuse and used this to get away with it...not that this was a bad thing...this just shows you that you are better off with out him.
So go make some fun plans with the girls and have a nice weekend. Sounds like you are young and have plenty of time in the world for a relationship, so enjoy life and you new independence of freedom. You are an individual and when the right guy/man comes along they will appreciate that in you. That means they are secure with themselves and are proud to have an equal by their side.
2006-09-25 16:11:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thats a man 4 ya. seriously though people not just men have a tendency 2 try n through off there bad misdeeds by getting mad at the person that busted them out. its not right but some think that if they get mad at the person they wronged that somehow the person will be so concerned with why theyre mad at them they will forget about the fact they should be mad.
did not say it made any kind of sense but my ex husband used 2 do that crap n well I have had other relationships that they did it also. 2 me that is a que that they r 2 inmature 4 me n its time 4 me 2 move on.
good luck
2006-09-25 16:02:22 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Geo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he was planning on breaking up with you. And he just got you really good. Maybe he likes to have the last word. You didn't say what he did. But it probably doesn't matter either way. Try picking guys who aren't going to play games on you. Or maybe the relationship was so bad that he just couldn't stand it anymore. How did you act out? Maybe you deserved it. You both need to grow up and quit being so immature to eachother. Think before getting into another relationship.
2006-09-25 16:07:23 · answer #3 · answered by Mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound like this was his first relationship n that he isnt that mature, but i can relate to some degree some of the things i did when i got into my first relationship, they were pretty stupid, but not as bad as gettin mad at something she might of done n then gettin back at her, i might of been mad for like half a day n then id get over it n things would get bak to normal. besdies he sounds liek a jerk for gettin bak at u for something u did wrong, he should of just built on it and learned from it n then he'd be a better person for it, but he took it the wrong way n did some stupid things, but i wouldnt worry about it. cause as they say theres more fish in the ocean
2006-09-25 16:21:05 · answer #4 · answered by snooppoopaloop69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably was trying to pay you back for something that you did in the past but your right two wrongs don't make a right..maybe you can still talk to him and get things straight but if you don't just remember there are more fish in the sea.
2006-09-25 16:07:59 · answer #5 · answered by Kaos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just getting mad because you're getting on to him. That's the only way he knows how to react. He feels bad so he shows anger. You need to find someone more mature & work on NOT over reacting yourself.
2006-09-25 16:11:12 · answer #6 · answered by bcre8ive2day 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are stucked with an immature boyfriend,
go find someone better, someone who would take you to another level,if your boyfriend acts this way sooner or later you will only brake up
stop prolonging the agony, cut him off your life
2006-09-25 16:02:49 · answer #7 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was either testing the waters to see how badly he could treat you and get away with it or he was looking for a reason to break up.
2006-09-25 16:02:07 · answer #8 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men have no idea of how to act around a lady
2006-09-25 15:59:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to grow up before you start getting in relationships. That's what I think. How can you expect it to last when you get into petty fights like this?
2006-09-25 16:00:18 · answer #10 · answered by GreetingsEarthling 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋