Is anyone else tired of people who think the world revolves around thier kid(s)?

Question

I am NOT talking about a healthy parent/child relationship, and I do NOT hate kids. I am talking about people who give children too many choices, are overly permissive, and/or expect everyone around them to plan everyting around thier kids. My boyfriend is like this, and I work with a few people like this....I was out shopping one day on a weekend, my boyfriend's son was visiting, and called me on my cell phone demanding I come home immediately because his kid was starving. I was like, "ok give him something to eat" and coworkers who demand the entire office schedule vacations around school vacations. The newest employee demanded to take vacation on certain days because her kids were doing this and that, and that "because _______ dosent have kids she has to switch vacations with me..." I told her "Sorry but _____ has been here the longest and you have been here the least amount of time and vacations are based on senority"

glad to see these answers, I just needed to vent, and I am soooo tired of my boyfriend calling me selfish because I will not cater to his son like he does.

Overindulgent parents are creating self-centered irresponsible kids. Yes, my parents were strict. I am now 28 and own my own private house.

I said my parents were strict, I did not say they didint love me. Why do SOME parents equate strict disclipine with not loving your child? My parents were PARENTS to me, not FRIENDS

Answer 1

People like that are most likely scared of screwing up their children. wether they had a bad childhood experience or they just want their kids to have a better one than they did. When youre a kid its good to feel loved. true you can spoil a kid very easily like that, but some people dont know the difference between being a parent and parenting.

Answer 2

I have this conversation all the time with a friend of mine who is a parent. I don't have kids.
Kids these days are spoiled to the point of I don't think they'll be able to take care of themselves later in life. Why are kids fat? Because parents want to give them whatever they want whenever they want. I believe that parents no longer take responsibility for their kids actions. When I was little, if someone said i did something wrong, there was no "my prescious little angel would never do that how dare you accuse them". I got my *** beat. There's children who run around my neightborhood all hours of the night on weekdays. I know one little 10 year old girl who wears skanky clothes, a full face of makeup, and has a cell phone who wanders the streets until late in the night. I don't blame the kids. I blame the parents.

Answer 3

I think it's fine to take vacation and time off for your kids' special events. Kids love seeing their parents at their big games and plays. I know I would try to get time off for my kids Christmas musical. That's what memories are made of.

But, yes, I understand about the "overly permissive" parent. I'm an elementary school teacher and I see it all. I think parents don't respect teachers' decisions these days.

Answer 4

I am not my children's "friend". I love my children, love spending time with them- and we have loads of fun together, but rules are in place to prevent them from walking all over me.
Kids need PARENTS. NOT FRIENDS- they have those at school. I feel the same as the poster of this question- in some ways. I do ask for time off at work for things/activities that my kids are involved in- but not every week or even every month.
Kids these days think the world - especially their parents OWE them something. And we parents do- its called food, clothing, access to medical care, shelter. NOT NIKE'S CELL phones, lap tops and convertibles. "nuff said??

Answer 5

I hate when people that have child(children) say,"Well,you can work for me.I have to take my child to the Doctor",or what ever! O.K. You decided to have a baby and I didn't. You don't get special treatment. I was a Supervisor for 10 years. I had to put-up with,"My Johnny has a runny nose,I won't be in today." Or,even better, "My Betty,has the day off of school to day.I forgot to tell you.But I won't be in today." And you know the Betty is 15 years old! My own sister tried to get me to babysit her children,because it was a Friday night and she wanted to go out. Her reasoning was because I got to go out every Friday night and she had the Children all the time.....Cute uh!

Answer 6

*high fives* I'm so there on this topic. I see it everyday at work. There is sooo, flippn' much of "me, mine, give!" that it makes me worry about societies' future. I hear many delightful young adults tell me how "horrible their last boss was" (read 'he made me work!) and "how they weren't getting the recognition they justifiably deserved (read 'I didn't get the corner office. I've been here for 2 months!)

I love well mannered, disciplined children and young adults. No, I don't meant those that look placid and nod agreement to everything you say. I mean those who have a good sense of self and can adjust to their surroundings without the aid of a "helicopter parent".

Anyhow I thought I'd provide you with these links on "Echo Boomers" -

Answer 7

In some cases I do. I was on the bus a while ago and there was a mother with her kid about two years old. The kid screamed at the top of his lungs every few seconds for about twenty mintues. Every few minutes she would tell him to stop which of course he didn't. She did nothing else.

Answer 8

Until you are a parent you can't feel the excitement having your own brings. Giving them what they need , not, want is important. Judging your boyfriends relationship with his son is not fair until you are in his shoes! Be a great freind and trust in his parenting skills. If you become his Stepmonster then you can judge the way he raises his kid. Until then I think you should be the best person and freind you can be and pray that some day you will have the joys of PArenthood to worry about! That is my wish and prayer for you!

Answer 9

i am 16 yrs old and i wish that i see my parents more often...i live with both my grandparents and parents and little brother and i never EVER see them...my step father never came to any events i was in like rectials , choir, plays, dance recitals, and even birthdays...i am not close with him at all.
They are always so busy with work.
I see it all the time ..they made promises to me and broke them and now they are doing it to my 8 yr old brother.
So i always try to be there for him the way that they were never there for me.
At his recitals, baseball games, graduations, reading to him and night and just telling him that i love him.
It really breaks my heart when i see all these parents complaining about there children, when they themseleves cause the problems sometimes (not all the time...we can be difficult alot of the time ..but the point is that it shouldnt be always blame the kids).
i understand that work can be tough (though i have major huberius in this division) and that its not always fair but my point is that ...is it fair to all those kids who have broken ties w/ their parents just because their job conflicts with family time?..i think not.

Answer 10

You have a point. But have you watched CLICK. A person who doesnt put his kids first willl end up like Adam Sandler in his dream in the movie. Whats better, work or kids? But, some people should be it in balance, like 50/50.