i have a 12 year old daughter that is a problem child her father is in an out of jail he is now married to my sister in law shes a drama queen an hes not even 1/2 a man all thy like to do is run there mouths about my daughter and put her down knot so much her father but his wife i think myself she doent wont my daughter in her fathers life i cant really say that hes never really been a father to her any way what should i do!
2006-09-25 15:09:40 · 12 answers · asked by Angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is possible....that your daughter is a problem child because of her parents and relatives?!!
If you want to make things better for your daughter, get the heck out of wherever you are! Then begin the healing process by creating new life away from "Jail-Bird Daddy" and the "Drama Queen"......who the hell puts down a little kid??? More to the point, why does her piece of **** father allow his new-wife to talk about his child like that??!!
You have many issues that will NEVER go away unless YOU GO FAR AWAY with your family!
2006-09-25 15:33:54 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation and first you realize that there is a reason this man is your ex. In my case, he was never their for the children. NOw that he has a gold digger girl-friend, my kids can see it even more clearly.
All I can do is continue to be the pillar of strength and consistency and always be there for them. I can assume my job to be the best parent that I can and forgive myself when I fall short of being perfect.
As far as the ex or his new wife, you cannot control it, so fretting over it will distract you from your goals with your daughter. If you listen to your daughter, you will see that she will (without much influence or prodding by you) see the drama queen and her true colors. Kids will develop a good sense about things from the parent who can provide this good example.
Go out there and be the one that is the good example that your daughter will be proud of!
2006-09-25 15:15:29 · answer #2 · answered by Serendipity 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before you get too terribly upset ask yourself: Where is this information coming from? If it is coming mostly from your daughter then you may want to reevaluate your feelings. Adolescents sometimes see the world very differently than the way it actually is and tend to not react well to change and to difficult situations. Your daughter may genuinely believe that her stepmother/aunt hates her when in reality the truth may be very different.
If, however, you have witnessed these things firsthand and know for a fact that your sister in law has problems with your daughter and has been rude to her you need to take action. Write down what she says and the dates and times that it was said. Record it if you can. Talk to your daughter. If she no longer wants to see or spend time with her father she is old enough that most courts will not force her to spend visitation with him. If they try to do just that pull out your written list of offenses and/or recordings and present them to the court as proof of your ex and sister in law providing an unstable and unhealthy environment for your child.
Also, talk to your husband about cutting his sister and your ex out of your lives entirely. A man that has been in and out of jail can't be a stellar role model for a young girl anyway, especially one you have said is a "problem" child. In order to help her make a change, her environment has to improve. Hopefully your husband will be understanding about this and help you help your child.
2006-09-25 15:18:12 · answer #3 · answered by A.R. 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you really can do is to limit the amount of time that you and your daughter actually spend with your sister-in-law. You are between a rock and a hard place. Take things slowly and explain to your daughter that there will be things said that aren't true and if she has any questions about anything - that she can come to you and you two will discuss it together.
2006-09-25 15:13:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anna F 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, if she is always putting her (your girl) down then mabey it would be better if your daughter wasn't around the woman or mabey she doesn't want your daughter around. I would talk to your new hubby about mabey taking in your daughter 100% of the time so she is more insulated from the abuse. If he agrees you can take legal action. Get your daughter to record any conversations that are demeaning and condecending and you can do the same. that way if the court wants evedence then they can have the tapes.
2006-09-25 15:30:51 · answer #5 · answered by Lib 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, thats a mess of crazy drama. You need to have a talk with your ex about how his wife is putting your daughter down - that should never be tolerated. If he isn't going to do anything about it then keep her away from them for her own sake.
2006-09-25 15:12:17 · answer #6 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don' know, but I feel really bad that a child has to go through so much ADULT drama. It is so cruel and unfair. I hope you can find some help for her. I would be tempted to take my daughter and leave the entire dsyfunctional bunch.
2006-09-25 15:15:53 · answer #7 · answered by honiebyrd 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't do anything. You should just ignore them and do your "thang". You could tell them that you don't want your Daughter to hear their Bull**it. So they should keep quiet. It's not fair to her. Your X needs to put his foot down about how his daughter is treated. I hate these types of stories.....I feel so bad for the kids.
2006-09-25 15:13:59 · answer #8 · answered by rere 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, how tacky of him to marry your sister-in-law. And how tacky of her to agree to it. I don't see anything good in your future if you are going to attempt to attend family gatherings. I hope you and your husband can see his parents when his sister and her husband are not around.
2006-09-25 15:29:33 · answer #9 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself some birth control and move out of the trailer !
2006-09-25 15:12:19 · answer #10 · answered by g_man 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋