I was sitting down and watching 7th Heaven with my mom, and Lucy has a miscarriage. My mom was like, "Oh that's so sad" and whatever, but then I was joking with her, "Oh, mom, you don't even know" and she's like, "yes i do" and i'm like, "How?" and she's like, "i had a miscarriage before tanner was born" (tanner is my only other sibling, and he's older). I was shocked, and I thought she was joking so i'm like, "what... no you didn't!" and she's like, "emily, i wouldn't joke about something like this" so then i kept repeating myself. I then locked myself up in the bathroom and started to cry. Am i wrong? All these emotions are running through my head. I mean, I NEVER knew about this, and like.. ugh... Think about how you would feel about this- during 7th HEAVEN. I'm so confused...
2006-09-25 14:55:44 · 13 answers · asked by Me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't think any woman would ever lie to her daughter about this. If you thin it is tough for you think about your mom, she went through it. It is very tough to handle.
2006-09-25 14:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by ferretcoach 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first of all i would like to say i like that show and i watched it.i really don't think you have all these emotions about your mom having a miscarriage is wrong.and even the way you where acting about repeating your self is not wrong.you where just shocked that your mom has had a miscarriage before and did not tell you.and maybe she did not tell you cause she did not find it to be something that you needed to know it.but being you where watching the show and it was talking about lucy having a miscarriage either it sliped out that she had a miscarriage or maybe she tought that is was a good time to tell you.for what ever the reason may be you having a emotions about it is nothing wrong it is normal ever one has emotions.but you did fine with the news if you feel that how you took the news was bad against your mother then you should just go sit down and talk to her and tell her how you feel and ask her if you want why she never told you for what ever the reason it i hope ever thing cause ok and i know this is long i hope i answer your question
2006-09-25 22:20:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miscarriages are a reality. Just give her some understanding. Its hard but yes its past. You would have been better not knowing it, maybe thats why your mom never told you. And its something that one would discuss with a friend or a husband but not a child.
Just understand that when things go wrong its always to protect you from something worse.
When God brings you someone...it is to bless your life and when He takes someone away...its to protect you from something.
So don't be sad, just trust Him and yes give your mom a BIG hug and tell her that you feel sorry you were not big enough to be with her when it happenned.
Take care sweets.
2006-09-25 22:15:07 · answer #3 · answered by megh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A women loosing a child is a very difficult thing to get through. Maybe your mom not bringing it up before is her way of coping with the situation. I don't understand how you would be so emotional over the conversation? You may feel different emotions, that is no reason to be upset with your mother!
2006-09-25 22:19:20 · answer #4 · answered by jovi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is to bad of a problem quite a few people have had miscarriages yes it is sad but everyone gets over it and trys again.
2006-09-25 22:06:10 · answer #5 · answered by Morgan B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not her fault she had a miscarriage. She opened up and shared something with you because she thought you would be mature enough to handle it and maybe give some support. You are acting like a baby. Get over yourself and give your mama a hug.
2006-09-25 22:03:15 · answer #6 · answered by JillA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good that you know what happened, but you should take care to be sympathetic with your mother and let her know you care about her feelings and her life.
You should also be glad that she told you at an appropriate time when this subject came up. She's doing you a favor, not burdening you with adult issues, but remember that other people may have tragedies in their lives that you can't imagine.
2006-09-25 22:09:50 · answer #7 · answered by papyrusbtl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Losing a child is not something that most women broadcast. If your mom is anything like me it probably really bothers her inside. I try not to think about it but it's always there. But you don't tell people because then there are uncomfortable questions. That is probably why she has never told you. If you don't talk about it you don't think about it. All you can do is tell her that you are there to listen if she needs to talk about it. And tell her that you wish you would've known so that you would've been more supportive.
2006-09-25 22:02:42 · answer #8 · answered by budgie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should just sit down with your mother a have a serious discussion about it tell her how you feel and she can tell you things that you might be wondering tell her that your hurt and confused and your sorry and whatever else your feeling talking with a parent about something like that could help you and her maybe she would like to talk to you about it and its a little bonding time for both of you
2006-09-25 22:02:46 · answer #9 · answered by freaky_kinky_baby_girl25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Huh... that's uh... interesting.
BUT! If you are a religous person, think of it more like this. God has a reason and purpose for all. Nothing is accidental.
If not...
Then try not to think about it. I know it's sad... But it just wasn't meant to be.
2006-09-25 21:59:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it was something she's never felt comfortable talking about. Maybe she thought you wouldn't understand. But maybe she thought you seeing Lucy's pain that you would understand & that's why she told you.
2006-09-25 22:03:01 · answer #11 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋