I met and starteddating this guy in jan.06 things were great..till i told him i had a kid, he loved the idea. And things were still good..Till i had my child fulltime. due to circumstances involving my mother, he was taken from me and then returned 5 months after birth. but, Joe was great..they got along good..But now, joe who keeps talking to me about marriage and such, is becoming distant, ive found emails from other girls..who he said to them he was single and such and a piece of paper in our room while cleaning naming off all his 12 recent exes and one of which he had sex with, Disturbing, I dont see why he'd keep such info from me, he denies it though, Says id be surprised to know what men write when with their friends, but still, anyways, It takes so much to ask him to do something with my son, and i dont knw why, to feed him, bath him just anything and he gets moody, yet when he accepted me..he also accepted my son, but now its a chore..I cant type more though,wont let me,sorry.
2006-09-25 14:52:26 · 8 answers · asked by hottjess_2003 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Ok so im doing a detail to finish my question, AS i was saying, hes very distant, hes only there, when he wants sex from me..Which i dont want to give him and then he begs me for it and wont stop, it really pisses me off and no matter how many times i say no he keeps bugging me, Why? and then eventually he'll just walk away or roll over and thats it, And the only way he'll get up in the night taking turns with my son, is if i sleep naked. Like Wtfs with that? I shouldnt have to sleep naked to have him take turns in getting up at night, and its a chore when i ask him to help me with dishes or bottles or just anything, and diapers omg, Like whats the big deal with a wet diaper, but no to him its gross and he says if i get the stuff, will you do it? Like Wtf im expecting his child in dec. and he cant even change a diaper. Someone please help me?! Why is he such a jerk and so..Rude , hes constantly putting people down. EVEN on Tv shows. Like god, its so disgusting that hes like that help!!
2006-09-25 15:01:28 · update #1
Thanks for all of your advice, Thing is though, When i try talking to him..Hes so. demanding in a way about it, Everything he says is right according to him, and im always wrong, I cant trust him, after hes lied to me about these other girls and such, an di wasnt planning to marry him, It was his idea he brought it up and everything, constantly saying he loves me and ****, but then i see these emails from him to these girls and back and it sickens me. that he'd tell them we broke up and **** and he would lead them on and they wouldnt even know..Why do men do that? Perhaps you're right and hes not ready for the responisibilities, i mean hes 20 and still plays with game consoles and stuff and Toy wrestling belts, Like what the hell.. I mean i wouldnt really care if he just flat out said, ok ive moved on its over, id be hurt mind you, but **** happens, but why does he have to lead me into this 'nightmare'of lieing to my face and ****, He was a greatguy when i met him and now hes godzilla.
2006-09-25 15:07:08 · update #2
I think you have to think about what you deserve, what you are worth, and what you really want in a relationship. Weigh the pro's and cons. Saying that "he excepts my son" just dosent' cut it. People that work at Daycare centers treat kids well, that does not mean that you need to marry them. Use logic, not emotion. Emotion and desperation is the down fall of most women. It is not logical to have a man that is possibly (more than likely) cheating, that ignores you, and the best thing you can say about him is that he likes your kid.
Don't be scared to be alone! IT IS NOT BETTER TO BE IN A BAD REALTIONSHIP THAN TO BE ALONE!!! You know that this is not what you want, you know this or else you wouldn't have even asked the question. You know you and your child deserve a healthy, trusting, and loving relationship. Let this man go.
2006-09-25 15:06:02 · answer #1 · answered by TressesAbroad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you might not want to hear this, but you might want to get counseling before you get married. Maybe he wasn't resentful towards your son at first, but now he is. Some men are very macho and have a problem with raising some other mans son. You might want to consider what might happen if you had a second child that is his. Then he might shun your first child completely. Men aren't saints and you can't expect them to love you no matter what. However, if you don't talk about it, then you'll never know. I would talk about it and if your son is an obstacle in the relationship, then why even bother finding out about the other girls names you found on that paper. by the way, my husband has never written down the names of all his exes even though I know all about them, and are now in-laws of ours,but that's a different story. good luck
2006-09-25 14:59:25 · answer #2 · answered by chelly01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you're a mother now and you need to put your son first. Forget this guy. There are plenty of good guys out there that will help with your son, no questions asked. This one sounds like he only wants you for sex and thinks since you have a child to keep you occupied, he can get away with being with other women.
2006-09-25 15:24:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force him to be a good partner or father - either he is or he isn't. The best thing to do is to sit down and just ask him to be honest with you about why he has become so distant all of the sudden.
He might have accepted you until he realized the responsibility that comes along with being a husband/father. Maybe he isn't ready to settle down or maybe he is unsure if you are the one. Either way, him being distant means something and you need to find out what it is so you aren't left hanging.
2006-09-25 14:56:49 · answer #4 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is feeling trapped. I'm sure he cares about you and your little one, but maybe he feels like he is being forced to help you with the kid. If he's just e-mailing and stuff I wouldn't worry about it. It is kinda disturbing that he is telling other girls that he doesn't have a girl... Ya' know, on second thought. get rid of the guy. You don't need that extra stress in your life, and your baby doesn't need it either. You should focus on your kid. Guys only bring headache's. You can do better
2006-09-25 15:02:40 · answer #5 · answered by jelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, Sounds like he might have moved on, and is cheeting on you. Talk to him. Tell him right up. If you want some one else go!!!! I dont want you cheeting be hind my back.. I ( you have prof so it seems that he is chetting)
But if you are that sure he is cheeting you should do somthing. Because it will only hurt you more as time goes on.... . . .
2006-09-25 15:05:51 · answer #6 · answered by Adam D. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say but hes moved on....
2006-09-25 14:57:06 · answer #7 · answered by browny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
o well i dont see a problem
2006-09-25 14:56:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋